ive been with this guy for 6 monthes and im 17 he is 23 he wanted to have a baby but i knew i wasnt ready so i got birth controll without telling him because he just didnt understand he says that both of us love each other then there should be no reason why not but he found out i was on birth controll and went got some1 else pregnant and told me today on valitines day this i second time this happen to me my ex before him did the same and i was with him for 3 years am i doing something wrong i just dont feel like im ready for a baby i just got out of lock up 8 monthes ago right now i just want to get my life on track how can i prevent this from happening again without haveing a baby plzz some1 give me advise i cant deal with this to happen again
2007-02-14 08:23:57 · 6 answers · asked by kase 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No it's not wrong. It's perfectly normal to feel the way you do. You know you're not ready, and the only one that can make you get pregnant is you. You're calling the shots in your life. You have other priorities in your life right now. Children can only weigh you down at this age. I know how hard it is to be a mother at 17...my best friend has a baby, and I help her out with it. You're too young to be thinking about kids. But hey kudos to you...you are a very smart girl. I'm 17 years old and I'm engaged, but I'm still a virgin, and I plan on staying a virgin until I get married, and my boyfriends fine with it. He wants to wait. Keep your head held high. It's all gonna be ok. Any guy whos forcing you to get pregnant isnt a guy you should be with.
good luck
2007-02-14 08:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by **Angel_Eyes** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you aren't ready for a baby, you should not let anyone pressure you into doing it. You are 17, and I imagine in high school. Just the fact that your ex said you were ready is wrong. Love is not enough of a reason to have a child. A child is a lifetime committment.
You cannot keep someone from getting someone else pregnant. The only thing you can do is keep yourself from getting pregnant by continueing to stay on the pill or another form of contraceptive. Do not let anyone tell you when you are ready. If someone tells you that they will have one with someone else if you don't, realized that person obviously does not love you or they would be willing to wait for you. I am amazed that this has happened to you twice. Consider yourself lucky for not getting trapped into something with these guys.
I do have a friend who got pregnant by a boyfriend when she was 17 (he wanted to get married and stuck a hole in their condoms). She is now a single mom and a damn good one, but the entire direction of her life changed. She would not get rid of her daughter ever, but she often wishes she hadn't been fooled.
PS Six months is not enough time in a relationship to know whether you want to have a child with someone. It is too serious an issue. You are a smart girl.
2007-02-14 08:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are DEFINITELY not wrong. First of all, you are only 17. You will want to experience life, go to clubs, take trips, stay out late, eat at nice restaurants, etc. without having to worry about a babysitter or whether you can bring your baby along with you. You will have plenty of time for motherhood after you have lived a little bit for yourself first. Second of all, it is WRONG WRONG WRONG for a man to manipulate you into becoming pregnant. It should be a choice the two of you make together when you feel like you are ready. For the guy to go and get someone else pregnant is totally wrong and kind of stupid IMO. I think you are exactly on the right track and you should stick to your guns and stay on the birth control until YOU decide you want to have a baby. Good luck and stay strong. Don't let the bad guys manipulate you.
2007-02-14 08:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are you and your steady boyfriend aren't going to be steady forever, live your life until you can, there is always going to be time for a baby, and you can't go back and re-do and live high school, it's the time of your life or should be. It's not that it's impossible for you to not be able to do everything you want but really think about it, who's going to take care of the baby when you're at work, who's going too take care of you if you get sick, what if your steady boyfriend leaves, do you really want that life for your child? I suggest you think and pray about it. Wait until you're married and you and your husband are ready, it'll be more rewarding and meaningful then than now, good luck!
2016-05-23 23:18:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be more selective in your boyfriends. try and find someone who will respect you and honor your decisions. and there is nothing wrong with not getting pregnant until you feel you are ready
2007-02-14 08:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say no and if he says any thing else tell him then he dosent respect your opinion then dump him i guy she take no and still love you unless he stuck up
2007-02-14 08:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋