I need help!!!!?

Question

I need help. You maybe know about my four friends dieing in a fire. Well, I want a boyfriend so I can stop thinking about it. So I can smile. I have a frown on my face all the time now. It's been a week since they died. But I don't want to be sad anymore. what should I do!!!!!

Answer 1

baby girl, why don't you go do things that take your mind off the subject. having a new boyfriend won't solve the problem. (actually will cause more). join a gym or some type of out door activities. what ever you do, don't just sit home alone. your mind will wonder back to sadness again.

Answer 2

Aboyfriend WILL NOT help you get over the loss of your friends.I'm from N.C. and I'm sorry I do not know about your friends But I'm deeply sorry for your loss.I think you should give yourself some more time ,if you are looking for a man to help you get over your loss it will never work.You NEED time to grieve in your own way and it takes time and if you feel like you can't kick it in 3months I don't mean completly forget about your friends,you will never forget I'm saying maybe a few months to grieve and get it out and each day that goes by WILL get easier somedays just cry until there are no more tears and somedays remember the good times you all had and laugh until it hurts and you will know after doing this for awhile if you are ready to meet a guy you'll know and if you continue to be sad you should see a doctor and get on some medication like Cymbalta or Prozac they do help your mood tremendously and it's ok everyone needs a little help sometimes it does'nt mean you are a bad or crazy person.I took them for about 4 months after the death of my sister I was 37 and she was 42 and it did'nt make no difference the age of either of us it was like we were still little girls to me and it was VERY hard for me to function for quite some time but please talk to someone a frind your mom ,they are great listeners no matter your or her age or a mimister can help as well .I know you will get through this with time and I will not lie it's going to be hard as you already know in just a weeks time.I will pray for you and ask God to help you along a little and He will.I f you would like to chat e-mail me @ mitzic63@yahoo.I hope you get through this and you will and you know when you do come though you will come out a little wiser ,alittle stronger and this will help you in your new friendships in life.Good Luck to you and again I'm so sorry for your loss! May God bless you and your friends families.

Answer 3

I'm so Sorry to hear that.
Well having a boyfriend does not have to do with your friends. I understand that happen but what u need to do is try to overcome it by keeping yourself busy on other things, for example, do things you like, reward yourself with things you want. and just stay busy. trust me. the reason is, because if you get a boyfriend just to not think about your situation, your problems will not go away plus you will have more problems with him. just thimk your friends are with god and pray for them. here is a lost And found poem. think.

Too far from home I've wandered
dreaming of my life to be,
And of old traditions come and gone
and songs I used to sing and like.
The small clothes I used to fit
and pictures of me years before.
I remember my school teachers, my foes
and my friends that I have lost.
The few that I have kept
and the loves that have been torn.

Any pain or failure I have seen
and any great achievement I have made.
Things have changed so much,
yes it's true,
but I have learned so much, too.
Experiences and feelings
have built me to anew.

I remember when I felt like giving up,
and I know I can live on,
'Cause I have
and I will.
Imagine if I had let go,
and lost all I have gained.
Life would be a blur.

But I can see things clearly now,
Although sometimes I fall astray.
The sun shines down on me,
although darkness often surrounds.
My choices show who I am
and shape the future of my life,
And I never forget where I came from
and all I have overcome.
I realize now that I can be lost
(for a time)
But I will always be found.

Answer 4

First, don't get a boyfriend on the basis that you think he will heal you of your grief. It won't work.

Visit the family of the friends that died. Share you memories with them. They will appreciate it very much, and it will do you and the families a lot of good, and help you in the healing process.

You also need to get some counseling.

Answer 5

I'm sorry to hear you lost your friends. The only true way to remove pain is time. Even after the longest time, it still hurts to reflect on the past. Pain will go away, just wait awhile and maybe on your wait, you will find a boyfriend to help raise your spirits.

Answer 6

You need time to get over them. It has only been a week. If you died you wouldnt want people to b sad and then a week later move on!

Answer 7

it took me years to get over loseing my best friend when i was 20 and having a boy friend didnt help. it just made me miss them more time is the only thing that helps i cried till i just couldnt cry any more then i got over it. but there are times when i still feel sad

Answer 8

Don't, don't don't put your happiness on having a boyfriend. You'll end up being VERY disappointed. YOu need to find happiness within yourself before you can expect anyone else to be able to make you happy.

Answer 9

there's no way that you could possibly get over 4 of your friends dying in one week. It takes time to recover, that's totally normal. Hope things get better for you.

Answer 10

remain sad its only been a week