Why are white men afraid of dating black women?

Question

The deal is that I have befriended black guys but I never found black guys physically attractive and I'm only attracted to white guys.

If I ever do marry a white guy, I already know that my family will have no disagreements because my aunt has been married to a white guy for 19 years and has 3 kids.

I don't understand why they intimidated by black females.

Is it because of how we portray ourselves on television and society?

Or is it because they are afraid of what relitives/friends/co-workers will say?

Answer 1

Truthfully, I find some African-American women very sexy. Beyonce, Vanessa Williams, Vivica A. Fox to name a few.

Just keep looking...

Answer 2

I own a dating service and operate one that is just for white women who like black men and vice versa. Yes they do like each other, not sure why there would be an intimidation factor. It all comes down to preference, and acceptability. There are still some small minded places that do not like to see couples of different races dating.

Answer 3

Hmm.

1. If you're white, do you really want your kids have to go through being of a non-white race?
2. See above, but "grandkids"; family pressure is real.
3. There's a cultural stereotype that black women as a group are believed to be more assertive than white women (in part because they are believed to have to be, due to stereotypes about black men).
4. It could be physical the other way. Or style of dress, makeup, perfume, etc.
5. The old stereotype about genital size comparisons. Yes, some men really think like that, and believe women do too.

Those are the five part-way legitimate reasons I can think of. Everything else that comes to mind is in the realm of "Oh, he's a stupid racist and you wouldn't want him anyway." Or else he's a coward. Plenty of white men DO have off-color wives and girlfriends, and don't take much flak for it, or else shrug off the flak they do get.

That said, I've been married for quite a while, and accordingly haven't dated a black woman for 15+ years, so my thoughts may be a little bit out of date.

EDIT: By the way, it's not family pressure from everybody; just in some families. For example, my wife has at times been actively HAPPY when my stepdaughter dated a non-white guy. But then, she herself had her child by a Turk, not that you'd ever know it by looking at her blond daughter.

Answer 4

I started becoming attracted to black girls around 15. I never dated one because I didn't know anyone who had and its hard to be different at that age. My first black girlfriend was at 19 in college and I've been hooked ever since. I had hesitations at first because like I said I had never known anyone to date a black woman. There were a lot of stereotypes about their personality and also about them sexually. None of the bad stereotypes were true in my cases, I've had 5 black girlfriends since then, and for a time when I was single I had a few black "friends". But some of the reasons that I was intimidated at first was because I had heard that they have odor. Totally untrue. My black girlfriends had way better hygiene than any white girls I've dated. I heard that they are bitchy and have too much attitude. This is true somewhat but not really. They do get attitude when you deserve it, but they don't just walk around with attitude, they are actually very sweet and affectionate. I heard that they are high maintenance, somewhat true. They do get their hair and nails done a lot but I like that anyway. I heard that they were not so tight (you know what I mean) not true, they are just like any other woman. I heard that they look good in clothes but not naked. Definitely UNTRUE they have some of the best figures stark naked. Thin but curvy. I think the white guys who are intimidated by black woman are looking at the wrong ones. My black gfs were all college educated, goal oriented, middle to upper middle class. I DO NOT like ghetto women. I'm not saying they have to be affluent or snobbish. Its not about finances or where they're from its about how they carry themselves. Because there are diamonds in the ghetto and there are stones in the suburbs.
But anyhow I don't know where the stereotypes come from though. The main people who say those things haven't even been with a black woman or have only been with one. Not to sound like a man-whore, but I've been with a few, and the saying is true. Once you go black...

Answer 5

I'm an older white guy and I'm not at all intimidated by black girls, i have dated some and enjoyed it. The only problem I've had with black girls is that i don't like the BBW type women or the large butts that some black girls have. There's nothing wrong with it and some guys like that but i have a preference for thin girls and the black girls I've dated fit that mold. I personally prefer dating other nationalities, it just makes life more fun!!!

Answer 6

I'm even a little scared to answer this question.

Seriously, It's usually a cultural thing. Black women are portrayed as strong willed and somewhat intimidating. Plus feedback from white family and friends is often negative.

Answer 7

I find black women VERY attractive and if I were single I would be fine asking one out on a date. Keep looking and become friends with as many as possible and who knows what the future will bring.

Good luck, there are white guys out there who think you are beautiful!

Answer 8

in todays society it seems ok for black men to go with white girls as the net is full of big well endowed black guys and small white chicks,,its like its being rubbed in our faces and there are millions of sites about big well endowed black guys with white guys white wife,,,lol not that i look at that kind of stuff but even if you search for a route planner to find your way to the nearest library,, im sure several of them sites will pop up..but like you say there is never anything about white guys and black girls its like its some kind of taboo. i did go out with a black girl for a while an she was really nice,, the only reason we split up is cos we moved far away from each other so i dont see the problem its just something that happens. so sorry i cant answer your question as im as lost as you with it,,,,,it happens but dunno why so lets leave it at that.

Answer 9

I think it's so stupid that people even see race at all. I'm sure not all "white guys" are like that though, Like your aunts husband for instance. If they are intimidated by you, You don't want to be with that particular person anyway. I hope you find someone =D!

Answer 10

Far too many black women notoriously come with alot of baggage: no-class, no-money, no-education, bad attitudes, baby-daddy drama, etc. These may be unfair stereotypes, but they still linger in white men's minds if they haven't had any exposure to anything other than what's portrayed on 'Maury' or 'Springer'. Body image is a huge issue with white guys too as many black women just don't fit into that 'stick figure with no butt and big boobs' body type. Of course, you'll hear them throw out having no problems with Beyonce or Halle Berry, but we all know they are the exception, and not the rule.

Unfortunately, there is still a stigma with white men "marrying" black women. Most would have no problem dating, but when it comes to jumping the broom, that's a whole different ball of wax.

There's hope for you though, as my niece is soon to marry a white man who loves her dearly. You'll have to do ALOT of fishing to hook the one you want though.