did anyone get spoilt today by their boyfriend? coz mine got me a card and didnt make no effort atall.not that im ungratefull! its just we havent talked 4days and it was his fault and then imade lots of effort and he bought me a crd and didnt even make an effort to write anything nice inside. we have been together for 11yrs and he has recently been a bad boy if u know what i mean and i just think that he should of made more effort and it wasnt coz lack of cash either.what do u think?
2007-02-14 07:55:42 · 13 answers · asked by haze 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im thoughtless man
2007-02-14 07:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by wassup 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am one of the lucky ladies who is happily married, and my husband is thoughtful and spoils me, every day not just Valentines Day. (I spoil him also, isn't that the way it is supposed to be???)
I have friends that will not even get a card or gift on any holiday, let alone Valentines Day, so they would think that a card would be wonderful.
I don't know if you are happy being a "girlfriend" for eleven years; you may have more problems in your relationship than the lack of a gift or effort with the card.
I do not think that I would want to have a man in my life, if I were single or dating, that was not putting an effort into the relationship and especially the nurturing and caring portion of the relationship.
You really need to be asking these questions of him, we can try and give you suggestions, but he needs to be hearing that you are hurt and do not feel appreciated. Good luck.
2007-02-14 16:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,it looks like he's a knacker if you know what I mean and you shouldn't be the one getting dragged behind.Plus if he really wants things to go well then he should be making an effort for the next time you meet him,and he should definitely be making a very big effort in an year's time on the next St.Valentine's Day!!
2007-02-14 16:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by Razvan S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm feeling let down by my bf 2 he forgot my birthday last week and no card today he has a lot going on at the moment his mom is ill I'm trying to understand that he has More to worry about than my birthday and v day but it still hurts that he has made no effort cant moan about it either as i would look really self centred.
2007-02-14 16:04:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are an afterthought my dear. He's got something else on the side. He got you a card to say he got you 'something'. After 11 years, not talking to you for the last few days, giving you a simple card, and him being a 'bad boy', you think that you would get a clue.
Obviously he's got himself a real winner.
2007-02-14 17:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by Tough Love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is Melissa S on about.
He is taking you for granted and using you like a doormat.
You don`t say if you have children?
Even so don`t settle for less get a new life for yourself.
Let him be a bad boy on his own!
2007-02-14 16:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by dancingcar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
11 years?how did you manage to stay in a relationship for 11 years if you feel unappreciated?
I'm sure your man must have done a lot of romantic gestures all those times....if not, maybe its time for you to ask yourself what you really want in a relationship and whether you're man can "provide" it or not....don't waste your time hanging on for something that might not come...
2007-02-14 16:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by psalm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why oh why do some women love to be treated so badly? change will only happen when you make it happen. Move on, the relationship is stale.
2007-02-15 13:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by Blackduchess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his heart isn't in it; why keep hanging on!? allow him to miss you, stop being available always, make him wonder where she's at, what's she's doing. make more time for yourself; you always build high expectations for him and get disappointed. say ENOUGH and take actions for yourself. pamper yourself, buy yourself something nice, soft. You are alright with or without him and don't YOU EVER FORGET IT
2007-02-14 16:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by smartbluewater 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he needs sortin out, wot a barsteward!!!
i would have showered you with romantic gifts and jestures,
i know, ditch him an run off wiv me!!!!!!
xxx
2007-02-14 16:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by qwerty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What would you expect from someone to whom you have only been his GIRLFRIEND for 11 years?!?!?!?!? 11 years???? I think you should move on.
2007-02-14 15:59:39 · answer #11 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋