OKAY! i'm 23 and still single (a Cancer). I feel like i'm a good person, excellent in bed, hard-working, play video games. Kindof just a good friend...All in all...it seems I rush into relationships with guys that just end up just wanting sex or are intimidated by me, or don't communicate with me.
I'm sick of it all and ready to call it quits on love. I know ya'll are thinking-but you're only 23. I've talked/been with about 30 guys ever since I was 14. I'm worn out and just looking for a night in shining armour so to speak...
I guess I'm looking for love advice or an aswer to my prayers of being alone...
2007-02-14 07:45:45 · 18 answers · asked by break_margarita01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Fact from fiction, truth from diction. Some might want to suger coat it, or blow smoke up your a**. I am here to present to you the hard facts. You say you have had about 30 guys since you were 14. Being 23 now means that was 30 guys over nine years which makes it about 3.3 guys a year. So, that means about each season you met, dumped or was dumped by one guy. Is three months a long time for you? Apparently if you were seeking a longer relationship and you have not found it. Those 30 guys after about 3 months moved on. You say they just ended up wanting sex with you and not much more. Either they got it, got bored after several weeks, 9 weeks tops, or they got tired of waiting because they did not get any in 3 dates or less like most girls these days tend to do. A knight in shinning armor is what many girls SAY they want. But they don't look about the Round Table to find one. The look around the polker table disguised as a Round Table. You are not going to find gold looking in a salt mine. But that is what many girls do because the gold mine is too hard to get into, too hard to dig out, and don't seem to be as exciting. It could be the type of guys you are looking at. You may(or should know)after 30 guys how they are going to be, but keep hoping the next will be different. Almost like biting many lemons and hoping you will find one as sweet as a pear when you know you won't. When I had a job where 97% of the customers were women, you hear them speak between themselves and their interaction with me, and I have determined that many girls have separation issues. They can not stand to be alone. So they go out to get a b/f, any b/f, and hope for the best because being with a butt nugget b/f is better than being alone. Ask yourself, cand you be at peace with yourself if you went 8 months without a b/f? What about 13 months? If not, why? Once you figure out why you need to always have a b/f you are on the road to finding that knight.
2007-02-21 20:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't we all been where you are? I know I have been. Don't fret none. You do not want to be alone; you do not have to be. All you have to do is be plain about what you want in a man. If a man asks you on a date-tell him to have a car or to rent on, have a driver license, his own place, be single, be grown, and be a intelligent man willing to meet an intelligent lady that's you. Whatever man is out there that is not scared of you will be jumping to the chance to sweep you off your feet! Just be patient, dear. I'm 26. Capricorn, and I felt the same way you did. I had quit on love too-but then I met a friend who would be my current lover. You never know where you'll find him, but you have to be open minded to see the ONE for YOU.
2007-02-22 15:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by marquella_la_nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your problem is that you're looking for a knight in shining armor.
Knights were arrogant, inconsiderate, uncouth, impolite, disloyal, cocky mercenaries-for-hire.
Try to get into modern times, or at least the renaissance. All you ladies who are stuck in the medeival mentality just love to complain about how men mistreat you.
Take me for example. I don't call my gf a whore, I don't blow my paycheck on one purchase then mooch my rent from her, I don't order her to do my chores, and I sure as HELL don't lock her in abandoned taco shacks for days and days.
But all the ladies I know are with men who do this kind of thing to them. After hearing their stories over and over, *I* am ready to give up on love!
Don't associate being a douchebag with being a man. Too many women make the mistake that men who treat them as lovers, friends and equals all at the same time are either gay, or are not real men. If that's what you believe, then stop wishing for a man like that because you know you would never go out with him anyway.
Also, I've noticed a lot of dark women won't go out with a white guy no matter WHAT he's like!
2007-02-14 15:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is don't rush it. The time that you give it up, may be when it finds you. Don't reveal yourself too much to a guy, or seem to "easy." Then a guy will get what he wants and leaves. There is someone out there for everyone, and you just have to wait for them to find you. You can tell a guy flat-out, "I don't want to rush into sex and I want a decent relationship." If they don't listen, they are not that good. If they do listen, give it time, talk and be friends first. You never know what can happen if you just talk and don't give up. Never giving up is a sign of strength, and guys do like that. Good luck.
2007-02-14 15:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by KS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to take it slower. Wait until you really know someone.
Tell your next suitor that you are on quest for Mr. Right if he starts moving too fast.
And make sure you are looking in the right places.
If you want a man who is creative, take some art or photography classes.
Do you like animal lovers -- work as a volunteer and get to know some other volunteers in animal related charity/SPCA etc.
That way you at least will know you already like something about the guy.
2007-02-14 15:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by cathoratio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you should'nt go to bed w/ a guy you just met like a month or less ago(not saying you're doing that but if you do the guy will think he got you used). you should meet someone, and after about a month of knowing him thats when the boy/girlfriend thing can start. and you can do that for the least a year( don't let him propose before) and thats where the Love can start!!!
I hope this works for you! GoodLuck
2007-02-22 14:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jacquie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A knight in shining armour...Did you know they used the toilet in there armour.....Anyway how about this. Stop going to bed with them first. Get to know men without sex issues. Why are u worried about being alone.....Fix yourself to find a good guy that wants to be with you not just have sex with you
2007-02-14 15:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by pauljpray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya i think you are taking it all too fast.When you date some one take the time to get to really know who they are for at least 2-3 months before jumping in the sack or even falling for them.The first few dates are always a lie, everyone wants to impress their dates and never talking about the truth.Really get to know the person and don't be afraid to talk about their past and let them know about yours if they should ask in return.
2007-02-14 15:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should take a break. I mean don't give up on love, but taking breaks is a good thing. You need to get know yourself before heading into relationships.
2007-02-14 15:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt matter about your past at all, your life has been a learning experience,and you are really ready to settle down. i think you would be an excellent partner for a wife, you got everything down.i would like to talk with you.wongfiehung2003@yahoo.com write me if you want to.
2007-02-22 10:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋