ok! i had a boyfriend i had been with him for 2 years.we were talkin bout getting married but bout a year ago his attitude completly changed and now he calls me names talks to me like crap but still tells me he loves me more than anything and i love him to but i dont want to b talk to like a dog ok so 3 days ago i met this guy and he treats me so good i really like him i broke up with my x last night and ever since he has been begging me back and tellin me he will treat me better that he loves more tahn any thing in the world . hes says that he has learnt his lesson and that he is so sorry and i know that he is sorry but i dont think the way he treats me will change so should i throw 2 years away for just 3 days...............i know this is really long im sry
2007-02-14 06:59:23 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be careful. I know that this other guy has been treating you really good, but most people treat who they want to be really special, but after awhile they get comfortable and show their true sides. They stop trying to impress their significant other. Follow your heart. No one can make this decision for you, and it's probably going to be very difficult, but you really need to do what is right for you, no one knows these guys like you do. I really hope everything turns out well .
2007-02-14 07:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by dazzle713 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This new guy that you met, you have known for only 3 days. You like him and feel all giddy about him becuz it's new and it's different. If you really love your boyfriend, then I think that you should give him another chance. Sometimes people treat the ones they love not so well because of how they are feeling about themselves. Maybe you leaving made him realize how much he had hurt you and how much you mean to him. Sometimes people lose sight of things and unintentionally take ppl for granted. You need to explain to him that the things he says to u or way he treats u hurts and is devestating. He needs to understand that the hurt and devestation of hearing things and being treated like **** by the one you love doesn't just go away over night. But really, if you love him, you should give him another chance. I absolutely think that you should not pursue anything with this new guy u met. Especially if he knows your situation, he'll just try to take advantage of it. Say what you wanna hear bla bla bla. I also think that its way too soon. How would u feel if your ex met some girl and broke up with you within 3 days. I'm not saying its gonna be easy, but give him a chance to prove you wrong.
2007-02-14 15:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by tAt2dCrAzYBiTcH 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, How old are you.
I am 36 married aty 22. If you want to be married wait until at least 28 29. It was so early for me to be married. If you love guy #1 the behavior needs to change and what reassurance will you get. He promises to do better, so he propably realizes his free benifits are leaving and wants you around. A year ago you were talking about marriage? what and why did he change> commitment? maybe he isnt ready, cant think of you in that way of being married to you for the rest of his life or he's just an ***. the new guy is great of course you just met him and your comparing the two....think and be careful
2007-02-14 15:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by pauljpray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been in that situation before. if your x loved you as much as he let on then he'd never have talked to you that way. and as far as the new guy, youve only known him for 3 days. when you met your x im sure it was great the first 3 days too. i say stay away from the trash mouth but dont dive into anything with the new guy just yet. give it a while and see how things feel. if you really really feel that your x is sorry and wont do it again give him another chance but no second chances again...... good luck
2007-02-14 15:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by i_like_bears 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your BF for three years as started talking to you like "carp" that mean he is not feeling the relationship any longer but he may still be saying " i love you" because he does not want to see you with another guy. If a guy is starting to change it means it time to move on. well I'm not sure for for the other guy you met 3 days ago but you know that people change over long period of time. He many change too if the relationship got complicated. But this is up to you...choose wisely. Guys seem to try and play games.
2007-02-14 15:10:43 · answer #5 · answered by Tummy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think 2 year is wroth more than 3 days. The reason i say this is because there a reason that you want with him and every body gets 2 chances. So give it a try if he sorry but before you do tell him why you guys sat a part. Let him understand the problem. Hope it works out. God bless.
2007-02-14 15:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by marlon G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
think long and hard. once you're in a relationship and get comfortable - things like name calling can happen, but if it hurts your feelings then telling him was the best thing to do. theres a certain comfort zone men seem to get into that women don't usually find with them . they tend to start to treat their women like one of the boys. but something you need to consider is how sweet your man of 2 years was to you in the very beginning. it was probably just like the new guy your with. So giving up the 2 yrs you had for 3 days is a risk, but you have to decide for yourself if its worth. you don't know what you got til its gone - so think long and hard before making a decision. if the calling you names and talking bad was the only problem, maybe you should consider working on that before you just say goodbye - that seems more like a cop out
2007-02-14 15:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by absolut_nixter 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't take him back. Don't worry about throwing 2 years away... if you stay with him you're only going to throw away many more. Better late than never. Just because you've been with someone for x number of years it doesn't give them the right to trash talk you and it doesn't mean you have to stay with them.
2007-02-14 15:11:32 · answer #8 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly believe your ex is not going to change. It also sounds like you are over it. No one deserves to get talk to like that. Ever! Let him beg and dont feel bad. Just let him know it is over and try not to talk to him anymore. He messed up and I dont think you should give him another chance. If you get back with him it is just a matter of time before he goes back into his old ways. Trust me,
2007-02-14 15:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by alwaysperfec237 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend keeps treating you like crap for a few more days, tell him to drop it. Just break-up with the dummy. Go for the guy that you really like.
2007-02-14 15:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋