2007-02-14 06:40:59 · 24 answers · asked by sassygrl702 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yes.
2007-02-14 06:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I don't know where you live and what the adoption rules are, but my cousin and her husband adopted their two beautiful kids and they had some challenges with the first adoption. Their adoption arrangement (I believe) had a three month window where either natural parent could contest the adoption. The day before the timeframe ranout, (around Xmas unfortunately) the mother had a change of heart. Needless to say it was very difficult for my cousin and husband to accept. My cousin fell into a depression like any mother who has bonded with and lost a child. A short time later, when on a much needed vacation, she got word that the mother (who had hoped but failed to patch things up with her boyfriend and have a family unit), wanted to proceed with the initial adoption. The whole experience was hard on everyone including the baby. My only advice to someone in this position is be sure about your decision this time, think of the baby's best interests whatever that might be, and be prepared and sensitive to the feelings of others involved.
2007-02-14 15:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by Shorty 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you can have up to 6mo. It depends on what is in the adoption papers. You really need to weigh the pros and cons before you go through trying to get the baby back.
1. Why did you do it, has your situation changed that much in 2 weeks?
2. Where is the baby better off?
3. Are you doing this cause you really want to raise the child or are you just depressed because of all of the things you have been through and you think the baby will fix it?
I think that if you do anything it should be before the baby gets to attached to the parents. I don't think that you should have up to 6mo. It is to hard on the baby and on the parents who care very much for the baby. Please get counseling to help you get through this and leave the baby where it is. It will get easier and deep down inside you know the baby is better there or you would have never given it up. I had a friend who went through this 8 years ago. She changed her mind a few weeks later but ultimately decided to leave the baby with them. He has a wonderful family who loves him very much. My friend still thinks of him everyday but she also knows that she made the right decision for him. She has moved on and had another child when she was ready and able to care for it. Good luck in what ever you decide but please get some counseling. Sometimes it helps to have someone to talk to.
2007-02-14 15:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally no. In just about all cases the parents or mother, completely give up all parental rights, and the child becomes a ward of the state until the adoption process is completed. After the point the child is completely in the care of his new parents.
Iam sure in some cases it can be reversed, but I am sure it would be incredibly difficult.
2007-02-14 14:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if legally possible, I wouldn't.
More than likely, the adoptive parents will fight you in court. It only takes a few hours to bond with a child that will be yours the rest of your life. It will then take a court years to decide who has the right, and by then, your child will be so attached and bonded to their adoptive parents that they will resent you as an intruder. You might feel a mother's love, but you will be nothing more than a stranger.
Just remember that you loved your child enough to give them a better life than the one you could provide. You were thinking of your child, not your selfishness. Your child will be special, because he or she was loved by you in that sense, and loved enough by their adoptive parents that they came looking for that child. I know this for sure because I'm an adopted child myself, and at the age of 38, still have never met my birth parents....but I love and appreciate the sacrifices that both sets of parents made for my sake.
2007-02-14 14:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by mamasquirrel 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Probably. But if this is going to happen, whether to you or someone else, get on with it, so as not to break the hearts of the adopting parents or child in question. Far to often biological parents have no idea of how much stress and hurt they put on other people including the child when they re-nag.
2007-02-14 14:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by Sally 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, its possible to get them back 8 years after adoption. People dont realize the natural parents have a lot of rights to that child.
2007-02-14 14:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by LP's Mommy, RN 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i been in foster care and everything and they said if i get adopted then that would take the rights from the parent till the child is 18
2007-02-14 14:46:01 · answer #8 · answered by Antinitra B 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think they have 30 days to change thier mind. You'd have to check with the adoption agency for sure, but I believe that's what I've heard.
2007-02-14 15:02:42 · answer #9 · answered by kittynala 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Depends on whether their parental rights have been severed or if they are still in a conditional state. Also have to check the laws in the state that the adoption took place in.
2007-02-14 14:44:23 · answer #10 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
That's going to be a long, hard and painful fight. Depending on the reasons that the child was adopted you may or may ot be able to reverse.
Personally, I think that you are being selfish... you gave it up for a reason don't bounce him/ her around from home to home, just because you changed your mind now.
Go get a puppy and have a good life!
2007-02-14 14:45:32 · answer #11 · answered by UNapologetic! 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋