I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now and i find that he's really not at all romantic and I am. He isn't really sensitive and when we talk about our little issues he doesn't seem to validate my feelings. How do I get him to be more sensitive?
2007-02-14 06:32:56 · 13 answers · asked by Ashley Marie S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been dealing with this same issue with my hubby of 17 years till this very day. If your man is like that most likely he will be for the rest of his life maybe with a little improvement though, just a touch. I am the same way you are hon and it's a battle every time. If he's not the sensitive type, he's just not. And when you try to force them to be it just gets worse at times because most of the times they don't even realize it that they are not sensitive enough. There is some improvement with my hubby. But when things seem to be getting better wham! It's as if we're in square one once again. I know he loves me but... you take day by day and hope for a miracle I guess. It just how much of this are you willing to tolerate.
2007-02-14 06:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by art_girlt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, you should compliment him more and validate his feelings. I am not saying you do not, but girls tend to be horrible in uplifting guys sometimes. This is particularly true after you have known him for a while.
Tell him you want him to validate your feelings. Tell is straight! Everyone asks a question on here when all they have to do is talk to the person directly. You are in a relationship, lol! He should be able to hear what you have to say. If you do not, your relationship is not a very good one. I am sure you can tell him, so do! Good luck!
2007-02-14 06:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are looking for someone outside of yourself for "validation", then I don't think that you are emotionally secure enough to have a serious relationship, dear.
You need to learn how to validate yourself, if you want to be a happy, fully functional adult with healthy, adult relationships.
It drains people, and makes then feel unloving when you rely upon them as the sole source of your happiness and emotional security.
Either that, or you just need to find someone just as emotional as you.
2007-02-14 06:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring another woman into the bedroom. Might want to get a vibrator or dildo or "The Rabbit" (My wife's personal favorite to use on another woman). Trust me, once you and the other woman get started with each other (and women really know how to please women) your boyfriend will be very appreciative. Might even record so you'll have the video to enjoy together any time you want. E-Mail and let me know how it goes.
Let me know how it goes.
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2007-02-14 06:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by LiL EarlE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is who he is. Accept him for that and care about him anyway, or move on. You cannot change him and he isn't there to validate your feelings. Your feelings are your own and nobody should need to validate them.
2007-02-14 06:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You knew that he was like that from the beginning... there's no way that you're going to change him. Deal or find someone else! Sorry.
2007-02-14 06:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by UNapologetic! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yuck, I hate guys like that.
2007-02-14 06:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and tell him how u feel about him being like this.
2007-02-14 06:35:33 · answer #8 · answered by cbbs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it and if that doesn't work cut him off
2007-02-14 06:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Either leave him or neuter him, other than that he's not going to change.
2007-02-14 06:36:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋