My boyfriend is real good to me and my kids but we still have our problems like all couples. He gets upset sometimes because the house is a little messy or the laundry isn't done. He doesn't yell or anything he just nags about it. I work and go to school during the day and will admit that I have trouble managing my time. How can I manage my time better or talk him into helping me more?
2007-02-14 06:18:34 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
TO VIOLET PEARL: I just want you to know I am not failing. My house is lived in and it lokks that way most often. I am a good mother, and a good student. I have my priorities in order and the house being emaculate is towards the bottom of my list. And to to kick him out for nagging is ludacris. I have this great guy who just nags me. It could be worse. I could be living in a dump with a guy who beats the living hell out of me in front of my kids.
In no way I am saying my guy is not worthy. I am simply asking for advice to either manage my time more efficiently or plead my case to him for more help around the house.
2007-02-14 06:30:56 · update #1
You are doing fine. If he has the problem with a little mess in the house talk to him and ask him to help. A little mess is not worth losing a good relationship over. As long as you, him, and the kids are healthy and happy why worry about it.
2007-02-14 08:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids, work, school, house...all important stuff. Try to squeeze in one extra bit of housework every day. Then point it out to him and give a hint: "Hey, I cleared the junk off the dining room table today...how about you do the coffee table tonight?" Bring the kids into the picture too--if they're older than about 4, they probably will be proud to be a part of a family housecleaning project. But don't sweat the small stuff. Settle for tidy, not immaculate.
2007-02-14 08:24:28 · answer #2 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to move out. If he wants to step up to the plate and marry you, tell him you'll quit your job so you can be a wife and mother....then you'll have time to manage the house better.
If you don't think he'll go for this, then I guess you need to quit school because you're trying to do too much and failing.
2007-02-14 06:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting an education and caring for your children is far more important then having a spotless home. Seems to me he has the problem, not you.
2007-02-14 06:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by biogirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask Dr. Phil.
2007-02-14 06:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by ESCO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just glad you haven't married this guy
he should be helping you , not complaining
2007-02-14 06:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by Hi its me again 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋