I am planning a wedding where I do not want tons of children. Is it OK to limit the children invited to first cousins only? I am close with my first cousins but, do not want to extend invites to the children of everyone I know.
2007-02-14 06:12:22 · 13 answers · asked by emce 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I believe it is okay to only invite chilren who you are close to. Your wedding should be shared with those who are closest to you whether they are adults or children. We only invited our siblings children since we had a good relationship with them. We only had two guests who chose not to attend because their children weren't invited, but they weren't close family members anyway. You should not feel obligated to invite the children of adults (family members or friends) when you don't have a good relationship with those children. Family members and friends who genuinely want to participate in your wedding will respect your wishes.
2007-02-14 06:42:11 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Same as if you were attending, you decline an invitation via the RSVP card. As the bride, it is within her rights to decide who can and cannot bring guests. I myself had a rule when it came to people bringing guests: Spouses and children only (No boyfriends or girlfriends, even long term or live in) unless my guy and/or I were also friends with the boyfriend or girlfriend. I also would have invited fiances, but none of the guests had one at the time. We had a small wedding, and it was in no way meant to offend, but we could not invite everyone. Our guest count was less than 50. We wanted it close and intimate. And I did not use the "And guest" line, I only wrote exactly who was included. Your boyfriend is not her family, she has no reason to want him at a friends and family event. When I was engaged, I was invited to my cousins wedding and my fiance was not. When/if you have your own wedding, you will understand a lot more,
2016-05-23 22:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you should decide if you want children there at all. I'm not sure it would be a good idea to exclude some children and not others...unless they are somehow involved in your wedding.
However, this is after all your day....so, you should do what you feel is the right thing. Maybe you could explain to the people with children that there will only be children from your family at the wedding.
2007-02-14 06:33:59 · answer #3 · answered by Smiles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how you word the invitation. If you word John and Sally as Mr And Mrs John Smith, they are under the assumption they can go only. On the other hand if you want to invite their children, you can address it to the Smith Family.
People really shouldn't bring their children if it wasn't specifically noted on the invite, however, there are some that dont pay attention to them and will bring the children only.
If you dont make it seem like you intentionally forgot about their kids, there shouldn't be an issue.
2007-02-14 06:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The formal way to do this is using the addressing and inner envelope for this purpose. The addressing on the outside envelope can have Mr. and Mrs. Name and Family written on it. Where you aren't including children, merely put Mr. and Mrs. Name. On the inner envelope for families invited, write specific names such as Bob, Jane, Jim, and Anne (you have to do this because some people may consider "and family" to include cousins, second cousins, in-laws, etc.) On the inner envelope for no children, merely put Bob and Jane (do not list their children).
If they RSVP for more than the expected number, you'll need to call them and let them know that they were specifically invited and due to space and cost, you can't extend the invitation to more than that.
2007-02-14 08:40:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not just make it adults only then for the first cousins that you are close to have a special day to celebrate with them either before or after the wedding. Because if you allow some kids and not others there might problems.
2007-02-14 06:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is OK to do that as first cousins can be seen as immediate family. However, you will probably get questions from friends regarding why they can not bring their children. You just have to stand your ground. Weddings are expensive and you have every right to pick and choose who will attend. Good Luck
2007-02-14 06:17:43 · answer #7 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is a tough question. To limit who can and cannot bring their children could cause problems with other family members and guests. I would say that if you are going to let some come, then let them all come. If you don't like that idea than do what you feel best.... after all it is your wedding, just be aware that it could cause an issue.
2007-02-14 06:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by *♥Tarita♥* 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well u can but u should not invte their parents then cuz some don't wanna leave them behind
everyone in my family does that
they only put 2 adults on the invite but on the card to put if they want their children to come too
cuz we r not sure hoew many children we have
2007-02-14 06:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Decide if you want to have kids at the wedding or not. If you say yes to having the kids there, then don't put a silly limit on first cousins.
2007-02-14 06:21:28 · answer #10 · answered by Daniel 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋