I have 2 SILaws that talk badly about each other even when they are not mad at each other! One SIL seems to like me more than the other "M" since she sometimes takes the time to call and hang out with me .
I have asked M why doesn't "H" call me or show up to my gatherings which has hurts my feelings. She says it is bcuz "H" is so jealous of me and does not like me very much.
I thought that was kinda hurtful to say, but I thought I believed her since her sister does make strange comments about my clothes, but then goes out and buys something very similar! I have never disrespected H and always made sure I showed up to her gatherings. After 1 year of this triangle between two sisters and me feeling hurt about "H", I finally asked her why didn't she like me. She said she never said she didn't like me, she just gets annoyed w/ all my Name Brand stuff (she always asked where I get my clothes) and I never bragged to her. Now M hates me for telling her! Pls help me fix this!
2007-02-14 05:49:26 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Drama, drama, drama....dont trust either of them, they're both backstabbing, immature, and jealous (I could go on...) Just find new friends and quit hanging with them on a friendship basis....keep it so that you only see them on family gatherings. Trust me, those kinds of girls thrive on all that drama and they will suck you in. If they talk like that about each other...I promise they talk about you like that too.
2007-02-14 05:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't fix this one...you are being played as a monkey in the middle between the sisters and you need to get out.
I would arrange to meet with them both at the same time...like inviting them to lunch or an early dinner somewhere neutral. You don't have to explain why or who else is invited...just a little "girl time". Tell them you like them both and want to have a great relationship with them both because they are your sisters-in-laws. Then tell them both that you are not going to participate in their fighting any more. You don't appreciate all the high school "she said" games and if they have a problem with that Oh well! You might have to just realize that you can't trust either one because of their history with one another. Make sure your hubby understands what you are doing and is okay with it. You have to have peace at home and for family gatherings.
I have three sister-in-laws...One I have known and loved since we were both in grade school...she was actually my friend before she married my brother. The other two....well, we are polite and nice to each other when needed, but we do not seek out one another's company or advice. So goes life I guess.
Good luck.
2007-02-14 14:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow the best things to do is not trust either of them. Dont give them personal info they can feed off because I can almost grant you if they talk about each other and they are blood related they are probably talking about you to each other. Sounds like the pnly reason they hang around and call if to find out your business so they can slander you to each other. Just remember you are marrying their brother not them. Good luck
2007-02-14 13:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by brookesingsalways 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to fix anything. If you have to question which in-law to trust, you shouldn't trust either of them. That's not to say you can't be nice/courteous to them, but that's a far cry from telling them your deepest secret and such. Just make sure you don't compromise yourself in this situation.
Buena suerte!
2007-02-14 13:53:07 · answer #4 · answered by rayediance 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to the both of them at once.. the only way to solve this.. dude, their nothing wrong with wearing name brand stuff..
2007-02-14 14:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by Breaker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to grow up.
2007-02-14 13:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋