I broke up with my girlfriend about two months ago... I told her during the breakup that I was pretty sure we would get back together. She cried uncontrolably and took it really hard. I was sure that we would get back together and our relationship would be stronger. Something went wrong, she started going out with one of her friends. I miss her so much... I just want to be with her, if we never even had sex again... just to be with her would make me happy. Thats how much I love this girl. We went out for a little over a year. I missed her so bad... over the last two days I've been telling her how much I miss and love her, asked her to break up with him and go back out with me.. she said this exactly... Josh I... I can't. You know that. Im with CJ now. I keep reminding her how much stuff I did for her, how happy we were. She also said she cant say we will get back together but she cant say we wont... how could I get her back? What are my chances?
2007-02-14 05:48:49 · 22 answers · asked by blitzer185 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You let her go, now deal with it and leave her alone...your chances are zero.
2007-02-14 05:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I definitely know how you feel, so I know how much more it's going to suck when I tell you that what you're doing to her is almost cruel. I can tell by the way she said "Josh, I.. I.." that she still cares for you, she is almost torn, and obviously really did love you a lot, and though she was strong enough to move on, it took a lot of out of her. I know it sometimes takes even a breakup to show you how much a person means.. but you need to let her go. Maybe she'll come back to you someday.. and if she's still worth it, you'll be with her then.. whatever it takes. You should try to stop telling her you love her because you're just causing her more pain and making it harder for her to recover from the loss and better herself.
2007-02-14 06:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by ohmygod459 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know, reading that, i thought it was my ex writing it at one point!!! scary. Exactly the same scenario, so i'll tell you my side. He broke up with me, i cried uncontrollably, took it hard etc, he said there was a chance of us getting back together but he had to sort himself out. Now over the last couple of days hes been telling me that he misses me etc. And my response...I'm not seeing anyone and i miss him too but there is not a single thought in my head that would indicate that i will get back with him. Why you may ask? Because he dumped me to sort himself out! How do i know that wont happen again? Ten years from now he could up and leave again saying he needs to sort his life out. So i dont think you have much chance im afraid hun. I think shehas made her decision, moved on and on those odd occasions where she does think of you,yeah she will miss you and remember how much she lovedyou, but that will be it. Sorry
2007-02-14 05:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now, you are desperate, emotional, and a little out of control. You are becoming a stalker. No woman wants to date a stalker, much less share their life with one.
Just stop!!!!!
What you need to do is take a break, and evaluate all of the things that led to the breakup - especially the things that you did. Don't bother with what she did wrong, this is about you. If you don't evaluate yourself thoroughly, then you will have the same outcome all your life.
Ask yourself, did I act too clingy? Did I insult her? Did I pay close enough attention to her? Did I annoy her? Etc..
Wait another two months without calling or contacting her (give yourself some time to think and heal), then see if you can talk to her about the relationship just to get some closure. Ask her what you did wrong and what did you do right. Don't try to get back with her, this is information for your next relationship. If she was worth it, she would talk to you in a friendly way. Then take all of the information you gathered about yourself, and try to apply the fixes to your next relationship.
2007-02-14 06:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by somatek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as the saying goes " Dont know whatcha got till it's gone" You should have held on tight and never let go. If she is happy with this other guy, then there aint much you can do. You can try calling her and telling her how you feel and so on, but it dont mean it will work. What you should do is ask her out as friends or whatever so that you can tell her to her face, so that she can see what your saying instead of hearing it. Tell her what this is doin to you and let her know that you know you have made the biggest mistake ever. Well good luck!
2007-02-14 06:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by Amber Vance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's how that saying goes if you really love something or someone it's best to let them go, and if eventually she comes back then it was meant to be if she doesn't then obviously it wasn't, She's moved on, while you're still standing in the same spot, it's best to get moving with your life and who knows you two might catch each other someday.
But the key is to move on with your life I know you don't want to hear that, but trust me I'm in the same situation as you the girl I truly love is with someone else right now, I tried to get her back so many times but she always said the same thing your Ex said to you so eventually I decided to let Fate and destiny take it's course.If she's really the one for me then We'll be together one day but if not then it just wasn't meant to be.
Just talk to other girls not neccisarily dating (only start dating when you feel your ready) but just making new friends and hanging out with friends you have already, do anything to take your mind off of you and her and just be patient and let her come back to you and if she never does then there's your sign that it wasn't meant to be.
2007-02-14 06:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.. you broke up with her with the intention of getting back together with her... and you expect her to let you break her heart and then wait around until you make the decision that you want her again?
If you have no idea why she wasen't waiting for you to come back then I feel sorry for you. If I was her, I'd seriously think twice about getting back with a guy who is loopy about being in a relationship in the first place.
2007-02-14 05:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by static_nerdling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dude u did the wrong thing by saying it to her face when u broke up with her that u were sure of her getting back to u..it was like a dare to her and she took u up on that5 ..and sorry to say dats exactly the reason why she may not want to come back to u..because u took her for granted..so my advise to u would be to be urself and not push her but be there for her ..u never know she might give u a chance to redeem urself and if she does not then move on my friend...
2007-02-14 06:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by vinay r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down take a deep breath in your nose out your mouth.Think of what she likes, use it to your advantage.write a poem expressing truely how you feel.Out of you and cj, find out who she loves the most.if you set the mood ,dim lights, lit candles, slow sexy smooth love songs that you both love.cook a meal, a little wine.to address the mood. think of the reason why you left her in the first place. give her the poem as a apoligy. let her know tha in your arms is were she belongs.giving her a night she will alwayremember and never forget.just be yourself UNLESS you are an ignorant person. If then as nice, caring and loving to your extent. also email me and tell me both of your zodiac signs.cb2john84@yahoo.com. Libra is me !love I can master!
2007-02-14 06:06:37 · answer #9 · answered by CenberBlock J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is the kind of girl that looks forward and doesn't look back then you my friend are in trouble. I truly believe that you only want her back because you don't have her in your possession. That is why it is not nice to test people in this way because what you throw out someone else is always waiting to pick it up. Trust me baby boy if she is meant to be yours she would find her way back to you, so don't crowd her and push the issue because if you do that's going to make the other guy look that much more appealing.
2007-02-14 06:01:30 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that makes me sad,because my bf broke up with me , and i unncontrolably cried too, and i took it really really hard, but i mean the thing is, if he wanted me back, i would have to think about it, i might give him a second chance, but i mean i wouldnt want to get hurt like that again, and i mean if u want her to b happy respect her, and yea i kno u wanna b back together with her, but look what u did do, just send her a rose or something, but if she has her mind made up, move on dude,n i dont really think ur chances are too big, mayb like 25 out of 100, sry, good luck,
2007-02-14 05:57:32 · answer #11 · answered by ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋