if the person keeps hurting me, shall i always forgive him?

Question

because God says so? even if I'm not at peace with myself and cannot study well because my thoughts are not there:((

Answer 1

Forgive someone, not 7 times... but 70x7 times. Forgive them for everything done. It'll bring peace to you, knowing that the issue is no longer of any consequence. That being said, don't allow yourself to fall into the situation where you'll need to forgive someone that many times (ie don't cause another to sin because of your deeds, or lack thereof).

Answer 2

Forgiveness is the only option if yo want peace. When we choose unforgiveness we allow our thoughts to hurt us. When we forgive and forget we close the door to sin in our life and that is peace. Unforgiveness is sin.

That does not mean that you keep setting yourself up to be hurt and then forgive and set yourself up a gain. When ever possible yo get out of an unpleasant situation.

If you are an abused wife then leave. You don't have to get divorced to leave. Let your spouse know that you are willing to return as soon as h can get his life un der some control.

If you are in a boy friend, friend situation there is nothing keeping you from walking away. You forgive just get out of it.

You forgive and you forget. By doing this you free your mind up for better things. It don't make the offender right, it makes you right, right with God.

Answer 3

It is one thing to “say” that we forgive someone, it is quite another to actually do it. Forgiveness is not a state of mind; it is a state of the heart. Being able to forgive someone from a heart level is not something that comes to us naturally. If it did, God wouldn’t have mentioned it so many times. The challenge that we face is in getting our hearts to a point where we can accomplish this.
God loves His children and wants only the very best for them. He wants us to have the refreshing and revitalizing freedom that forgiving others can bring to us. He doesn’t want us to go around weighed down with sorrow or anger. He is always eager to help. All we need to do is ask.
Trust in God and always forgive him who is hurting you.
In order to forgive we need to remember how much God has forgiven us. When we grasp the depth and breadth of God’s incredible love and forgiveness toward us, we are motivated to forgive others. We understand who we really are before God; that we are just as wretched as everyone else. Only our pride and self-righteousness will cause us think otherwise. Taking a serious inventory of our own sins will usually help put things into perspective. God is kind, compassionate and abounding in love. He does not treat us as our sins deserve. This is the heart that He calls us to imitate in Him.

Answer 4

You should always forgive (forget the God part). However, forgiving someone doesn't mean you let them keep hurting you or that you don't pursue justice.

You can forgive, pass it on to the authority figure on the subject, and forget.

Answer 5

Christians should always be prepared to forgive, and when required- do so. Christians should never allow themselves to be used or abused. Stop the person from hurting you-that has nothing to do with forgiveness. If you have to report this person, or have them arrested or break their neck, do what is necessary to keep them from hurting you again. You can forgive them after you protect yourself.

Answer 6

Do you really believe that its Gods advice to you to keep allowing yourself to be hurt by someone?
what kind of God are they painting out there, that you would think that? You are to get along with your neightbor IF THAT BE POSSIBLE.
Its not always possible. If your mate is hurting you over and over to the point where you don't even have your thoughts straight, you are free to divorce that mate. Divorce is not the sin -
Adultery would be the sin (if it applied).
God does not tell Christians to be second-class citizens, nor does He tell us to be door mats.
In fact, if you love someone you'll correct them.
Want it in clear terms? If someone is physically bothering you, knock em the hell out; if someone is verbally upsetting you - get the hell away from them and stay away from them - if your mate is hurting you and you cannot reconcile and change the behavior - get rid of them-
God does not appreciate people who screw around with His children. But God also expects you to be mature enough to apply common sense to His word, and take care of business.
Buck up.

Answer 7

Have you read Bold Love, by Allender and Longman? It's a good book about forgiveness.

Forgiveness doesn't mean you pretend that it didn't happen. You simply cancel the "debt" they owe you. If a person makes mistakes but does love you, yes you should forgive and love them. But if the person doesn't love you however, you may not want to have them in your life. You don't need that, and there is nowhere in the Bible that says you have to be in relationship with someone who doesn't care about you, and hurts you regularly. it's equivalent to casting pearls before swine.

Answer 8

You must forgive but humans are not called on to forget. That's for God to do. If a person continues to hurt you, it's perfectly fine and smart to stay away from them. Get them out of your life. God expects us to use our intelligence and we're not expected to accept mistreatment or abuse.

Answer 9

You should let it go and forgive them, but do not allow them to do it again.

Both for your own good. Forgive so that you may be forgiven your sins. Yet do not allow someone in your life who is hurting you, and if they are already there, kick them out.

Answer 10

Does God has to forgive you all the time, just because God said so?
Yes.