What can i do? help me??.....?

Question

im 16 years old but im not allowed to go out at all. my dad always makes me stay in and work to get good grades when im alreddy achieving good grades. if i do go out i have to be in by 4pm........

I hate it. If im late (say 5pm) i get told off for not being in on time. they only be nice to me whn i get the grades required otherwise im just... well treated like c-r-a-p. all i want to do is have a gud time but im not allowed... all i went out 4 is a swim.... im not thick i know what ive gotta do to achieve my grades but that does not mean i cant have fun as well... they tell me to revise yet they dont tell my brother anything when he makes noise purposefully
when im trying to sleep to absorb this revision ive tried talkin it doesnt help.. its bak to the same old thing next day....

what the h-e-l-l can i do? and im not going to be patient and wait two years till i can move out either....

Answer 1

hey....listen up....i kinda went through the same rough patch ma self..!! ...cming frm a very extingished back round...n then suddenly having this massive slump in ,my grade's... n ma life..!! but .. all i would want ta remind u or rather tell u is life is wat u want n not any one else..! u have to have a complete control on u'r own life..!! n see all the possible.. edge\s n loop hole's.. u have too learn ta adjust but be tact full ta get u'r way.!! the folk's will definately pt a control n wall in all u work.. n wanna do but it is up to u tackle them n get u'r way..!! because it is after all them u have ta cme back in the end of the day.. this i won't say because u have too be gratefull n all ta them but jus respect the order n support they will or probally r bringing ta u'r life,..!! so jus chil n don't get fussy over this small ****.. thing's..!! because belive me havin a complete control over u'r life ...after u move away from their eye's..is far more.....looner..n tuffer.>! so jus relax n do it tactfully..!!! wish u the best..!!!

Answer 2

Sameja, is that a swahili name u came up w/? nmay, i'm 17 yrs old and i have the same problem. my dad thinks that staying in the house can help me keep off the outside world that is to tempting to stay off drugs & alcohol. we've had several talks about how much BS this is. but he never changes. same thing over and over again.
I have two options for you. You can either,
1. Have a talk w/ him and tell him what you think about this whole situation with the 4.pm. curfew.
2. You can hold it all in till ur 18 yrs. Old, then you can move out with a good motive. Don’t tell him that you hate him and that he’s ruining your life; that’ll just make him want to enforce the whole curfew thing even by immediately after school. Just tell him that you want to be more social with other kids ur own age. Even though he says that other kids ur own age are bad influence because of drugs & alcohol, you can reply and tell him that if they were bad influence to you, you would’ve done the same by sneaking out at night to go to parties. tell him to trust you for the way they raised you.

I don't know if my answer will help. Good Luck!!

Dave ** tall_and_dark **

Answer 3

hey there. I was in exactly the same situtation as you up till a couple of years ago (im 20 now). My dad was very controlling and did not accept me coming home later than 6pm - i got grounded for 2 weeks for coming in at 7pm one time. I wasnt allowed to have any guy friends & i was being compared to his friend's daughters who had home tutors and they were 'so clever'. I, like you now, just wanted a life outside of home, a bit of fun you know?! But I suggest you sit down, say u love & respect his values & expectations he has, and u r working towards something. But you are young and you just want to experience socialising with people. Tell him you will let him know where you are going & negotiate a reasonable time to be home...and stick to it. It does help coz he will start to trust you more. hope this helps, theres nothing worse than wanting to have fun when youre young & being denied that. good luck.

Answer 4

If you're not going to confront your parents/guardians, and you're not going to be patient for two more years, there isn't **** you can do but take it. You've already cut out the two options you have at your age. Any other choice that you may have isn't the smartest thing to do in your position.

And two years from now, weeks before you leave home, it'll get more intense - trust and believe. But all you can do is be patient, or talk. One or the other.

Buena suerte.

Answer 5

You need to tell your parents how you feel. What is bothering you about having such strict rules to follow. Tell them you respect their ideas on school and studying, but you would like to have a little freedom as well. Make sure you tell them where you want to go and with who and when you would like to come home. plans help parents make decisions easier. If you a responsible enough to think up a plan, then you make in fact be trusted. remember trust is something that you earn, not that you are just given immediately. Respect their decisions.

Answer 6

I would say in this situration is talking with your parents.... telling them your feelings because if you keep this bottled up your going to start becoming rebellioning against them...the worst is dropping out of school...being invovled with older guys who only wants to use you...i can see the issue is your not felted loved and that is all you need...is some affection from them....so talking and if your not allowed to express yourself and talk to them...your family needs family consuling for real...they just dont know how bad they can hurt you by not allowing you to have a social and positive out look on life...

Answer 7

call 1-800-4ACHILD it's a hotline for child abuse but they have to investigate with 48 hours and they can get parenting classes for your folks. They will not say who made the call to them.