I'm going to be a stepmom soon to a two-year old toddler
2007-02-14 05:29:40 · 6 answers · asked by Lady Muiroena 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I've never had kids, and I'm going to be a stepmom soon to a two-year old toddler. We're on a weekly schedule with the mother. The mother teaches the toddler to "not like" me and the father. Fortunately though, we do win his affection early in the week. But isn't this confusing him as well?
2007-02-14 07:19:55 · update #1
It's hard to say in just a line or two how to be a good parent to a two year old so I suggest going to the bookstores and libraries for literature on the topic of raising a toddler. As a mom of a 3 year old, I'd say maintaining a routine is important, setting reasonable boundries and rules of conduct that you inforce with a time out, and for every no you say you let there be at least 3 yeses (or avoid no and use redirection as an alternative). Most importantly, only show love and affection to and in front of him --- you can't go too wrong then.
Welcome to motherhood!
2007-02-14 05:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by Shorty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if there is any such thing as useful parenting advice, especially since I don't know you're complete situation as to how long you've known the toddler and how well you or your husband get along with the toddler's mom. The only thing I can say is keep your sense of humor and patience.
Kids this age are really trying to assert their independence. Play the backseat and be supportive. Try to avoid saying "No" a lot and don't use detailed logic; instead suggest alternatives and choices. I have a difficult 2 year old and this works like a charm. For instance, instead of saying 'no, you can't have a cookie because it's 7.00am' I might say 'sure you can have a snack. do you want yogurt or a bagel?' Good luck!
2007-02-14 13:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by BelleDandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the mother of a 2 1/2 year old that only advice I can give is to be patient. Remember they are only 2 and they are testing everything to figure out what they can do themselves, whats ok and whats not and what they can get away with. That is about it.
2007-02-14 13:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by mariandmommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With my own experience, I would definately say to make limits. Make sure that what you decide are your limits are what you stick with. Kids at this age need structure and routine when out of their element and around someone new who is giving them directions and discipline. Sit down, talk with the childs father, and decide together what can/will/won't/should/shouldn't happen when the two of you are together. Bringing him into it shows that you respect him as a father, and that you are very interested in being a good step-mom. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-02-14 13:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by Queenelizabeth79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy the book Toddler 411.
2007-02-14 13:37:12 · answer #5 · answered by miketorse 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lots of hugs & kissess!
Be firm. Toddlers are great at throwing fits to get their way - do not be sucked in because it only makes it worse.
Then lots more hugs & kissess.
2007-02-14 13:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by babypocket2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋