For a month while she was engaged she would flirt with me, saying she thinks I'm cute, I ask her out and she turns me down.This was before I knew she was taken.Then her fiancee breaks up with her and yesterday I heard that she wanted me to ask her out from a friend who she told. I ask her out again and she said not right now and not to get my hopes up. she said she wants to be friends for now . what do I do now?
2007-02-14 05:20:32 · 28 answers · asked by fred t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just 'be there' for her... (think: Seinfeld)
If you ask her out this early, you're risking losing your chances forever. She's probably not ready, and her friends will most likely label you one of those guys trying to cash in on her emotional weakness.
Take her out to make her feel better, be there as a friend, and if she's interested in more (carefully) feel that out... if she's interested, she'll probably let you know.
2007-02-14 05:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by futuregopprez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be very careful about someone that is flirting with me and engage to someone else. How will you feel if after dating her for a while you notice She is flirting with another guy? It seems to me she is not define about what she wants and this maybe end hurting you. I'm not saying don't keep pursuing her, just be careful and put her under the microscope and see how does she acts around different circles of people. I don't wanna be mean, but I hate people that feels that is right to break someone Else's heart. Good Luck!.
2007-02-14 05:27:16 · answer #2 · answered by Kent-B-True 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be friends. be supportive. She probably felt comfortable enough to say she thought you were cute, while she was in a relationship, because there was nothing she could do about it. Now she is lonely. She has been left by someone who asked her to spend the rest of her life with them. There is an adjustment period. She needs to find her individuality before she jumps onto the saddle with someone else. She probably feels like a loser, and is in no rush to put herself through that again. Just hang out with her. be the friend...and maybe something will happen. by any means dont ignore her.
2007-02-14 05:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by sjhockeyfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the damage has already been done...you should have wited a lil longer, or at least, wamr up to her by saying to her, 'hey, i like u, i know what your going through right now, and because you could probably use a friend, i would love to be that shoudler fo ryou to lean on, hopefully things can become more involved down the road" but instead you went right for the kill and she probably isnt going to warm up to you and leave you in the past with her dead relationship and start of new with someone else that she thinks is cute...gosh dont any of you dudes understand women!
2007-02-14 05:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by boosted 1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly as she asked. Just be her friend for now. Even though she kind of likes you, she is in no way ready for a relationship with anyone. You would find yourself filling a void left by her fiance and quite probably left alone in no time. This would be a rebound, and if you really would like something to come of it, leave it alone for now.
2007-02-14 05:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's on the rebound. She probably kinda likes you, but knows that she isn't ready for another relationship right now and would probably only end up hurting you. Hang back, stay her friend, and wait at least four months before trying again.
2007-02-14 05:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay friends with her. Its probably hard for her right now. She just broke up with her fiance. Do you really want to jump into to something anyway and get your heart broke when she changes her mind and gets back with her fiance. Give her time to make sure that shes doing the right thing
2007-02-14 05:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by rain9439 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. i dont know.. no offence but i think she has some problems.. there might be a reason why her fiancee broke up with herr. if she flirted with you, then she might've flirted with other men too. im not saying it wasnt because she didnt liked you because she might like you after all. but if she was going to tell someone she wanted you to ask her out and then turns you down, she might be just teasing you because she knows you like her.. what do you do now? well just dont wait for her.. look around for other women who dont play around with your heart. there are probably alot of other women who want to be with you. just look around.
2007-02-14 05:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by agnnes kiim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say "let's go out as friends" and then it will go from there... if she told you to not give up she either wants to date you or just wants the attention. Someone asked my grandma out at my grandpa's funeral... Can you believe that!
2007-02-14 05:24:45 · answer #9 · answered by coolpox003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience my friend she just got out of a heavy relationship, however don't wait to long. She is going to need some time to heal.
2007-02-14 05:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋