She hits me and it doesn't hurt but it upsets me and makes me feel humiliated. She makes me feel sad and angry and scared. Then she calls me a mouse. She says she only gets this way when I am not hearing her out and its her only way to get my attention. What can I do to get out of this kind of situation?
2007-02-14 05:18:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes! Unless she admits that what she's doing is WRONG and ABUSE (just because she's a woman does not give her a right to hit you and call you names, that's sexist), AND promises to get help for her behavior, I say dump her! She has mental issues that she's not working on resolving. She has no right to get violent to get your attention! Let her know that is NOT the way to get good attention. She sounds too dangerous to talk to rationally so just cut off all contact or leave a goodbye notes. If you're married, get a divorce and a restraining order. If you're single, just stay away from her. Either way, don't expect things to get better. She knows she can take advantage of you. She stays with you because she knows no healthy person would take abuse. You can call alcoholics anonymous...they help co-dependents get help too, and it sounds like you are co-dependent and in need of help breaking the addiction. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I hope it all works out.
2007-02-14 05:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! A lot of peopl think it might not be abuse because she's the woman but hell no this IS abuse!
There are different levels of abuse however it is still abuse?
Why do you want to be with a person like that? Even if you think you love her, you should NOT take abuse from her.
My advice is: Break up with her and find someone who deserves you!
if you still want to be with her you should discuss the situation with her and ask her if she's willing to change. If she is then try to work it out but if she doesn't you had better end this relationship because soon or later it will be over!
2007-02-14 13:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by Natasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is to get out of this relationship-fast! She calls you a mouse well, prove to her that your a man and stand on your own two feet and tell her it's over! I know you say it doesn't physically hurt (now) but if you allow her to keep doing it, it will only get worse. You deserve better than that, don't allow yourself to be treated that way. I was in an abusive relationship when I was 17 (I'm much older and wiser now!) and knew a guy who was in one too. He confided in me because I could relate. He was a big strong football player with an injured knee and his girl would kick him in his bad knee every time she was upset. She only calls you names and abuses you because of her own insecurities! Get out before it's too late!
2007-02-14 13:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you really like her? If you don’t, just leave her. But assuming you do like her (or you wouldn’t be asking), then talk to her. Tell her you don’t appreciate her doing that, and that you will also try to change so she doesn’t have to even think about hitting you.
See if that works. If it doesn’t, then you have also another way, which is doing the same to her. Not hitting her, but be dominant. Maybe she likes that as she is calling you a “mouse”. Maybe she wants you to be more aggressive.
That happened to me, I was very nice with my girlfriend at the beginning, until she started to give me some hints, and realized she wanted me to be nice sometimes, but aggressive some times too. We are now married, and I do treat her like a queen, but sometimes I really get her bad and dominate her, and she loves it.
Good luck.
2007-02-14 13:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by Dan D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is familiar, she busted my lip a couple times, And i was a fool for staying with her. Man the more time goes by the more i realize what a fool I've been. Get out now.
2007-02-14 13:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it happened once talk it out but if it continues leave there's no need for violence.
2007-02-14 13:26:01 · answer #6 · answered by D'oh! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, stay and buy her a gun for Valentine's day so she can shoot you. I like watching those kind on that show COPS.
2007-02-14 13:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't be with an abusive person
2007-02-14 13:21:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋