She is always saying I can pick up my son so that I can visit with him and last min. always backs out, but then when I can't come she say it's me being a loser and she won't let me see him. What should I do?
2007-02-14 05:16:38 · 18 answers · asked by elrey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Already tried to be nice and she takes it as me wanting to be with her still. I did take it to court but my lawyer cost to much and the case ended getting dropped.
2007-02-14 05:31:32 · update #1
Sometimes when the parents of a child are not living together, they allow their disappointments in the loss of their relationship to color the issues surrounding the child, like visitation and child support.
You should talk to the baby's mother about this. You should tell her that you feel that the two of you should put aside your differences for the sake of your son.
Good for you that you want regular visitation with him. He needs you in his life. It sounds like the two of you are setting yourself up for a lot of vistation disagreements by allowing it to be negotaiated and renegotiated each week. It would be far better for you to set up a regular time, such as every Saturday from 10:00 to 2:00. Since he is a baby, you can set it up according to his schedule, just one of the ways where you should both be putting him first.
If you have a regular weekly schedule, and you both agree not to cancel unless there's an emergency, you can both count on that schedule. You can bring the baby to see your relatives at that time, and she will know that she can go out shopping at that time.
Keep putting your son first. By the way, I hope that you are current on your child support.
2007-02-14 05:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is start keeping a diary of when this happens.
It may be intentional that she is trying to keep you from seeing your son, but it may not be. In any case, keeping a diary record of when you tried to pick him up, when she called to cancel, etc. will be very helpful if you ever choose to pursue custody or more parental visitation, etc.
It also sounds like you might need a lawyer. Good luck.
2007-02-14 13:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by MomMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to Court because your son needs you in your life and it is not fair to you having a son growing up with out you. A man is not a real Man if his father is not around.
2007-02-14 13:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by Badydoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask her if she can either come along or you can visit him at her home... It sounds like she is scared. Earn her trust! Be patient and tell her you understand her concerns.
It's amazing what you get back by trying to understand someone elses point of view!
Hang in there!
2007-02-14 13:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1-make sure that you are paying child support
2-go to court and make arrangements on paper for visitation
3-make sure that if you cancel that it's a real reason not just because you want do hang with your friends
4-be a real dad not just a pretend one.
I know that this works because it was what I had to do for my girl. She is now in her late 20's and we have a great realationship.
2007-02-14 13:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take legal advice, get a set day and time every week organised by your lawyer, if you show up and she backs out, then take note and have your lawyer deal with it.
2007-02-14 13:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing games with you because she knows she can. You've let it go this long without saying something...if it bothers you that much, take her to court so that they mandate visitation rights.
2007-02-14 13:20:31 · answer #7 · answered by Yoyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact an attorney, you as the father have rights.....but you need to get it in court documented papers. You can't make her do the 'right thing' the courts may need to intervene.
2007-02-14 13:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesn't want to see you. Try to develop a better relationship with her for the sake of your son.
2007-02-14 13:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by Seeanna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tske her to court and set up child support order and visitation rights. it's not fair for her to do that at all. if you care for your son then stand up and fight for your parental rights.
2007-02-14 13:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by freedom fighter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋