Everything isnt right lately... all holidays are either lonely or really boring... or forgotten about... even my birthday... my mother keeps me locked up in my house like if i needed to be in a little cage... she lets me go out like once in the blue moon.. but i'm 16 and i think thats when you are suppose to be socializing the most... and its really not for me.. im usually home with my mom and my boyfriend comes over and what ever.. but she watches like a hawk.. but thats beyond the point.. it doesnt even bathor me anymore... it just hurts me when everything does wrong.. thanks giving.. we didnt really do anythin... christmas my family dicthed us.. new years i had a "women accident" one year anniversary with my boyfriend i was really sick. throwing up and everything... and today its valentine's day and we had plans and stuff... well its nasty outside first of all and he has work.. so i probobly wont see him and im stuck home.how boring and depressing can it get? everything has been bad
2007-02-14 05:14:18 · 15 answers · asked by Jessie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im lonely i guess... i want to cry and all... i acnt get over myself... and yesturday i went to search for a job and someone made fun of me for doing it and i cried soo bad because i didnt think someone could make me feel like such an ***.... i know this is weird but i feel soo.. depressed!!!!!! and i dont even know what else to do.. ive been dealing with it for so long now... i just get tired of it!
2007-02-14 05:16:58 · update #1
I was in your position from age 12 to age 19. It's hard to "get over yourself," as you put it, when you feel this way. And as much as people will just suggest that you "get out and do something" or "go find a hobby" or "meet new people," that's easier said than done.
It sounds like what you need to do is just be able to talk to someone who won't judge you or make you feel silly for doing something you think is normal. I suppose your mother makes you feel guilty for wanting to go out, or spend time alone with your boyfriend; or that being watched like a hawk when you're with your boyfriend at the house makes you feel guilty; or that whoever made fun of you for job-hunting makes you feel ridiculous. I'm not suggesting that you go to therapy or anything extreme like that, but talk to someone. Or write.
This is by no means a *solution* to your feelings, but the important thing at this stage in the game is that you don't keep the feelings inside, because you'll feel ten times worse.
Buena suerte!
2007-02-14 05:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by rayediance 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YIu are only 16..what a wonderful age. Everything seems the best or the end of the world. You seen pretty together for even asking for help and saying what's on your mind. At 16 your mother should keep an eye on you...there are a lot of crazy people out there looking for young people to use and abuse. Your mom just sounds like she cares...you are really lucky.. It's very important for everyone young or old to let "someone" know where they are at. If you ever get in trouble or need your mom she can come to you faster if she knows what your up to. One day you will look back and say wow I get it...or that's why she did this. You will have many boyfriends in your life and each one will be the most important at that time. As I said you sound pretty sharp for even asking questions and saying what's on your mind. Talk to your mom tell her how you feel...you might be surprised. People come and go but your mom will always be your mom and worry about you. Just enjoy now "16" it's magical !!!!!
2014-01-19 17:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by Jadean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,things are rough but it does get better.Your boyfriend having to work isnt necessarily his fault,but last year i was completely blown off on Valentine's Day by someone i was in a committed relationship with.He isnt blowing you off,he simply has to work.All these things add up,but you have to make the most of it.I think what you are doing is sabotaging the holidays.You are EXPECTING them to turn out a mess,therefore they do.However,you also have to realise that even if things are rough on holidays,you can still make the most of it and have a good time on your own.You need no one to be happy.Go out,rent some of YOUR favorite movies,purchase some popcorn,snacks,and sweets.Turn out all the lights and watch movies all evening.Since your in the mood your in i would suggest some comedies.It is always a little rough,but look at it this way.Valentine's day is nothing more than a day.You dont have to set aside that one day for each other,because its expected.How about setting a date for you two when it isnt so expected and planned.I think the spontaneity is a little more romantic anyway.Make the most of it hun,it will get better just try to remove all negative thoughts from your mind and keep positive.Good luck sweet,and make the most of today!!Each day is important Holiday or not,because we never know when we live our last.If you need to talk hun please feel free to email me!!
2007-02-14 13:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by ~♡~Moon Goddess~♡~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how depressing life can be sometimes. I'm 30 now and have have always felt like life is going to get better- one day! People always say good things come to those who wait but how long can a person wait without feeling like a loser. I always try to do the right thing and do things in other peoples best interest but not anymore! I am a single mother of a 1 yr old, have split with my boyfriend of 13 years and have a 4.0 college GPA. Find a way to lift your spirits. Good things don't come to those who wait you have to make good things happen in your life. You are so young and it's terrible to feel the way you do. Do things that make YOU happy and don't try too hard to always please those around you or wait for their approval. Try to look on the bright side of things even when all you see is dark. Cheer up and lots of luck in your life!
2007-02-14 13:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how it i sto not be able to do anything, it is very lonley, but i moved with my mom, so my life is a little better now. My advise to you is talk it through with your mother, find the courage to go against her, not all the time, but let her now you are sad. Not beign able to see to see the sun is really putting you in the dark. Tell her the WHOLE truth, and if she really cares, she will understand. She is your mother right? 16 IS a big time in your life where you have to be your age, your getting older and you wanna live life why'll you can. Before long you will have to support your own family, and be working jobs, so tell her, and good luck!
2007-02-14 13:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by photo_girl_90 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are young, and there is a lot of pain in growing up. Just know this, it will get better as you get older. Time will heal all, you will get away from your mom, you will go out into the world and choose your own destiny.
I would go and see a therapist, maybe you have depression, maybe it is just normal depression. Its safest to get an expert to have a chat with you.
Have you heard that saying "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent" (Eleanor Roosevelte), well its true, that person that made fun of you made you feel bad because you let it make you feel bad.
Look things go wrong for everyone, its how we deal with bad things that defines us and defines our future.
Buck up. Have a chat to your mom and tell her calmly and reasonably to back up.
Don't listen to what that one guy said, hopefully he will get kicked out of answers as he is a menace
2007-02-14 13:25:54 · answer #6 · answered by Oz Billy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depression isn't something you should have to deal with. See if you can go to the family doctor and talk about it. There are many excellent anti-depressants that can be very helpful to get you through this tough time. Counseling might help as well. Don't put it off though. Talk to your Mother. Lie about what's bothering you to get to see the Doctor if necessary and if you don't feel comfortable telling her that you're depressed. Do this right away. Don't wait.
2007-02-14 13:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by Glennroid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was your age, things were very complicated with me and my mom, too. I was a long time depressed, even when I was with my boyfriend which made us break up two years after. But in that time something really helped me. I went to see a Psychologist. I felt so good, I start reevaluating my life. Try to see one. Talk to your mother about it. Hope you get better soon! Good luck.
2007-02-14 13:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by Aninha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Times like these will let you enjoy the future even more!
When you are out on your own and get to do what you want you can look back and think WOW I love being free now!
Spring is near and before you know it you will be out on your own, hang in there, it WILL get better!
2007-02-14 13:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that right know nothing can cheer you up but please for your own good you have to make yourself smile. . .there's no other way to feel better.There are these moments in all peoples lives,I know you feel like the only one but believe me you aren't...see life through a different angle and you'll see everything will get better soon...
2007-02-14 13:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋