I'm worried about my relationship?

Question

I'm in a longdistance relationship with my boyfriend and i was on the phone with him last night we got off the phone almost 2:00 in the morning i told him i love him and happy valentines day he told me it's not valatines day (like i'm dumb or something) so i said yes it is it's after 12:00 he said that don't count and it's not valentines day well i love you too good night and by he always have this bad attitude and he act like don't care about nobody but his self what should i do i love him too much to break up with and im getting tired of his attitude.

Answer 1

Sounds to me like you have 2 choices:

1. You can accept him for who he is and continue to "love him", but you have to keep your mouth shut about his shortcomings; or

2. Tell him that you don't feel respected by the way he treats you and if he doesn't change, move on. I am sure that you can find somebody that will treat you like a lady.

Long distance relationships are tough. Is this a temporary situation? Think about that in your decision also.

Answer 2

he might want to be the first one to say it on valentines day, or he is bitter you cant spend it together. Or he might just not be into it anymore. Have you guys always been long distance? If this is always his attitude, its not going to change, so if you want to deal with it, and do nothing about it...than thats what you are going to do. I honestly wouldnt judge his reaction at 2am. the boy is probably tired. judge his attitude during the day. Be in a relationship that feels good, dont wait around forever.

Answer 3

It sounds like he has a slight grudge towards Valentine's Day.

But besides that, you need to talk to him about his attitude, because it's causing you discomfort. Make it an adult conversation, with minimal accusations or defensive tones of voice. If he can't handle your confrontation, or doesn't make any type of effort to improve his attitude toward you, then maybe a long distance relationship isn't for the two of you.

LDRs can cause a lot of tension. Are you sure that this tension can be resolved?

Buena suerte!

Answer 4

My relationship is about to go where your relationship is at. I can sense it. It will be long distance in the next year or 2. I am worried. And I really think you should talk to him about it, and bring up the fact that even though you all are in a long distance relationship that you don't want anything to change. Good Luck...

Answer 5

When will you two be able to be together? If it's not in the foreseeable future then why are you even bothering with an ldr at all?

If you don't like his attitude then talk to him about why he's that way. You can't change him but if he chooses to change himself things may improve. Otherwise you'll just have to accept it or move on.

Answer 6

Everyone knows that majority of the time long distance relationships donot work. But you should ask him how he fills about you and tell him how you feel about the situation.If he gets all angry and upset you should just leave him alone, it would be better if you were happy and single and not sad and in love.

Answer 7

if you are feeling that way, that he has a bad attitude and does not treat you well then yeah leave him. why bother wasting time with him when you could have somebody that will be better to you. In a long distance relationship he should be missing you and all that gushy stuff.

Answer 8

He sounds very scornful, but I can't really make a call based on this one incident, if you are getting tired of the attitude then it would be more than appropriate for you to speak to him about it.

Answer 9

He's probably just prolonging the fact that he can't be there on Valentines day. Give the guy a break.

Answer 10

I don't have much faith in long distance relationships. If you're questioning the quality of this one then maybe it's time to move on. (with a closer one).