My MOH (and bridesmaids) are throwing me a shower. It is going to be a surprise (I know I'm having it, don't know when or where). I am wondering if I can tell them an idea for a favour. My friend (and I've seen it here) didn't have favours but had a little note saying "A donation has been made in your name to XYZ charity." I thought (and think :Þ) it's a great idea. I was wondering: if you were a MOH or bridesmaid, would you be offended if the bride told you she thought this was a good idea for her shower? Should I not do that? I think it might be kinda rude, but I think it's a better use for money that would otherwise be spent on something that will most likely collect dust (if it's not just thrown away). On the other hand, it's not my money to decide what to do with....
Also, my fiance is helping to plan the shower, which he will be attending (his family's tradition, not my idea!). Should I mention it to him and have him tell my sister (MOH)?
Thanks for any help!
2007-02-14 05:09:01 · 18 answers · asked by Just tryin' to help 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would just like to add that this is the first wedding I've ever been in....execpt when I was about 5. I've never been a bridesmaid, so I don't know how I would feel. All of your answers are appreciated!
Also, my father is personal wine bottles for the wedding favour. (They live on a vineyard.) So it wouldn't be an option there, either.
2007-02-14 05:24:17 · update #1
I think you can do this for a wedding- which you ostensibly are throwing- but a party that someone else is throwing for you- no.
You can tell your man the idea and that you'd like it, but if they don't follow thru you can't criticize them for it.
2007-02-14 05:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by CYP450 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think a donation would be great. To be honest, I have never really enjoyed any of the favors I have gotten at a wedding shower anyways. Its always useless things, or icky mints. I think people will think that was very thoughtful to give money to a charity. Your bridesmaid probably won't be offended because even though it is a surprise shower, you still can have some kind of say in it. For instance, I do NOT want a lingerie shower lol so I told everyone that to make sure that would not happen. No one was offended, they were pretty happy to get some input.
2007-02-14 05:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by Beffy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a small wedding ceremony social gathering. My sister change into my maid of honor and my cousin change into my a million bridesmaid. i did not desire a huge caravan of girls even as those 2 were the in uncomplicated words ones that really meant something to me. A Matron of Honor is an same as a Maid of Honor yet she is married. Your bridesmaids might want to be those that are on the point of you. i does no longer pick your chum from extreme college which change into 5 years in the past and also you do not search for suggestion from with one yet another. they do no longer ought to all positioned on an identical element, you are able to %. out a dress that all of them might want to positioned on or you may want to easily %. out a colour and tell them to get a dress therefore. this is all as a lot as you.
2016-10-17 07:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, ask yourself who would be making this donation. Regular favors cost about $1 per person; its a lot to ask for them to pitch in more just for this donation.
Second, do you have a charity in mind that means a lot to you, or is it just the novelty of it that appeals to you?
If there is a charity important to you, and if a small donation is okay with you, then its perfectly fine for you to mention it to your fiance. Or, even tell your mom, as I'm sure she's involved a bit with the shower planning.
2007-02-14 06:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your MOH and bridesmaids are in charge of your shower. Let them throw it for you... I'm sure they will do a great job.
Most guests would rather have the little favour than a certificate saying "A donation has been made in your name blah, blah, blah"
Some may actually use the favour... (we had lotion and bodywash)
2007-02-14 05:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by *Just Married* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have few options. You could either mention it to your fiance since he's helping plan it. Another idea would be to do that at the wedding in place of favors on the table. I've seen that at a few weddings and it goes over very well with the guests.
2007-02-14 05:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by Smiles 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If someone is going through the time and money to give you a bridal shower then you should probably keep your suggestions to yourself. I know that you are just trying to be helpful and no one can fault you for that. I was in a wedding where I was helping plan a bridal shower. The bride kept butting in with her thoughts and suggestions on absolutely everything. Finally she told us that since she knew what she wanted she would book it and we could just cut her a check. No one wants to feel like their time and efforts mean nothing. Sit back, let them plan their surprise shower, and be thrilled they cared so much to make your day special.
2007-02-14 05:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you have not registered anywhere this is a great idea - but I think it would be best to have your fiance mention it (since he is helping plan). But don't be offended if the suggestion falls through.
Most shower invitees want to get something personal for the couple.
2007-02-14 05:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by wild_orchid_tx36 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is rude to ask people for donations to be made to anything! I know it sounds like a good ide abut you should not request that other people donate their money...this is a rude practice which is becomming more common
2007-02-14 07:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by Love always, Kortnei 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good idea but when someone is throwing you a party let them do what they want. You might have your fiance spread the word, tho. She might be receptive to the idea.
2007-02-15 11:59:48 · answer #10 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋