Can drug addiction be cured?

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Hi All

Just broke off my engagement recently b/c my fiancee turned out to be a pill popping drug fiend. She refuses to seek help, has all of the classic symptims..liar..cant hold a job..mood swings..has even been arrested for passing fake prescripts at a pharmacy twice (well twice that i know of..may have been arrested prior to us meeting for all i know) of course her arrestes were misunderstandings..not her fault..yup the law lightning struck twice i suppose

My brother said he was missing prescripts from his house once after she was there. I never told him about her past and drug problems. i asked her about it..of course she denied it..this led to my breaking engagement..whole family sees her as a druggie.
She is a wonderful person otherwise, i offered to her parents to help her with therapy or whatever if she was willing ot make the first step and admit it. Can someone overcome this or will this be a waste of my time? i dont want to get married and have her going to jail

Answer 1

i feel you man...

listen, your so much better off breaking up with her...especially if she is that bad with the lying and denial...she wont come around till one day she wakes up in a dumpster...and even that isnt a sure thing that she will give 100% to solve her issues...

i was an addict, but for god's sake i would keep it real with my girl, who was totally straight but obviously wanted me to stop big time...

an addiction is curable but its a LOT of work...a LOT of pain...and those around you suffer just as much when your trying to quit as they did when you were using...addictions really hurt everyone involved with the person not just the drug...

so stay away, until she is like 6 months sober, and comes to you asking forgiveness for everything she has done...otherwise its just an addicts ploy to get you bakc onher emotional roller coaster

Answer 2

Sir,
You have just recited my life. I feel so sorry for you. I ended my relationship the last day of last year. Of course I tried everything, they are in love with the drug, they live in a fog. My ex would have her eyes closed and when told she would swear they were open. She walked like a drunk and talked in slurs. She also stole from friends of mine before I knew the scope of the problem and I always sided with her. I lost a lot of good friends. She doctor shops for pills and recently has used heroin. Some folks say she's done it before. She is a beautiful girl with an otherwise good heart and I pray for her all the time. She nods out a lot and I am afraid she will pull an Anna Nicole, her family is messed up with their own problems stemming from drug abuse, really all of them in her immediate family, they know how bad off she is but can do little. The mother helps pay for her doctor visits and then she sells pills to pay her back, this was not the scenery I aspire for, although I love her more than i should, I do still love myself more and don't think i deserve this type of life style. I will miss her and can only wish a real cure for the decease drug addiction is can be cured someday...

Answer 3

You seem like a VERY smart person with a good head on your shoulders. It was smart that you broke off the engagement, because starting out a new life with all of these problems would not be good. And I'm glad that you won't tolerate the lying and the drugs. Yes, it is very possible for someone to overcome a drug addiction, but they need lots of help. She sounds very unstable. Maybe she needs mood stabalizers like Dapakote and such. She would have to see a doctor/psyciatrist for that though. And you'd have to make sure she doesnt take more than the suggested dose... just be her friend right now because that's what she needs. She NEEDS help. She needs rehab or something. Just keep being patient and working with her and hopefully you guys will get through this. But if she still refuses to get help, it is smart not to be sucked into her. Good luck with everything!

Answer 4

Drug addiction can be overcome, but never cured. I am a recovering addict myself, and your description of your ex-girlfriend sounds exactly like me. I was also a pill head, lied constantly, could not hold a job, and had drastic mood swings. I made the decision that I needed to get help, and I was lucky enough to have changed. So, there is hope.

First thing you have to understand is that she did not choose to be an addict, but she will have to choose to stop the addictive behavior. There is nothing that you can do to help her change. If you try to force her to get help, she will vehemetly resist. She needs to realize that she needs to stop. The sad reality is that she might not, but you cannot bare the burden for that.

My advice to you is to let her go and not to try to make her change. Let her know that you are genuinly concerned for her and that if she ever wants any help, you will be there.

Answer 5

no it cant be cured but it can be controlled and you can become clean but that also depends on the person doing drugs.
people that cant say no to drugs have a p[problem with themselves either they cant handle their life or pressure and that is sad because there are all walks of life and you choose what you want to do with your life and all i can say is drug addicts are no good to society. If you want a life leave drugs alone and work on what you want in life don't be a failure

Answer 6

well drug addiction is a choice first of their is nothing to be cured.
If someone is addicted to drugs they can get off of them if the truely want to.
I think you brakeing off the engagement was the proper thing to do.
Wow just relized there is a girl in my office that just broke up with her fiance and she is a pill popper who has been in jail. dude if her name is amy that would be hiliraous.
but anyway for people who have these addictions there is noone from the outsid ethat can help them they need to come to the conclusion of being drug free by them selves. But you do want to support her if she decideds to do the right thing.
good luck with all of it
don't feel bad for ending either you do have to look out for you

Answer 7

I know a few people like your girl that are addicted to pain pills. First of all they must want to quit, you cant force them. Second the withdrawal symptoms are HORRIBLE!! so I would suggest rehab of some sort ( somewhere that she cant leave, and they will give her something to help with the pain of withdrawing) This will help only if she wants to quit, and by what you said about lying, stealing, and writing fake scripts she really is badly addicted. You did the right thing breaking off the engagment, she will bring you down with her, and pretty soon she will steal from you. Help her if you want, but drug addicts only care about one thing....drugs.

Answer 8

I have seen people come clean off of drugs, but as our friend Bill says, once an addict always an addict.
It is just if a person can come to themselves and want to be clean they can, but it won't be a quick fix. Check on some 12-step programs in your area for support.

good luck & happy v day

Answer 9

No, Drug addiction CANNOT be cured, it can only be controlled. Ask anyone who has ever had an alcohol, drug, gambling problem etc. They are never cured of it because the craving is always there, they can just control it better and better as they get older

Answer 10

The only way to cure addiction is to abstain completely from the activity. She may never ask for help, and no one can force her to get it. She will have to make that decision. All you can do is give her an ultimatum; either its you or the drugs. If she chooses drugs; you need to break off contact with her. Hopefully she will realize what she is doing to herself before she harms herself or someone else.