i care about this boy so much...we have an long distance relationship it whenever u find someone and u know your made too be with them no matter what, we havent meet in person, last night he had said that he cant be with me because i dont belive in god or the devil and his sister was pratically converting me!!! i dont know why the **** religion is so big of a deal hes (christain) hes willing to loose me for god...you dont just do that i dont know what to say or do iv never herd of so much bull
2007-02-14 04:57:46 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all if religeon is so important to him he shouldnt be that way. he should let you be you and what the F!#$ did the sister get involved in his relationship its not her life all i can say is you really have a relationship with him being a long distance one at that is very difficult i can give you an easy answer and tell you to leave him
or keep your friendship thats about all ive got and tell him how you feel about religeon.
i wish you good luck:)
2007-02-14 05:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by Victor B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well there is no "made to be with them" but I understand when ya meet someone ya feel is just a GREAT match...however, y'all haven't met so you couldn't even REALLY know that.
If religion is important to him, and it's not to you, then that should be proof that not only are you not "made to be together" but you just don't have the same values. Ya may hit it off great in other ways, but religion (or lack of) can be a dealbreaker to some people. It's not uncommon at all actually.
Sorry it didn't work out...perhaps in the future you should address religion up front so you don't develop feelings for someone who isn't on the same page as you in that regard.
Actually though, you didn't ask a question here...did you have one?
2007-02-14 05:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have three sons 25, 24, &18 I have brought them all up with Christian values. This has been instilled in them starting at birth, and as they were Baptized. This young man sounds like he was brought up with the same believes, you need to respect his ways, and not try to change him, maybe you should change, it mite do you some good to gave God a chance. do you honestly think that he would want to have a relationship with someone that is a non believer; think about it.
2007-02-14 05:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Religion plays a BIG part in a relationship with a person who believes, you can not have one person with such strong faith in God and someone else who does not in the same relationship. Your though process is totally different with it comes to raising kids, life, and love. For Christian's God is everything first and for most, and anything else is secondary. For to ask him to pick you over God is crazy and I can see why he can not be with you. You will never see the same point of views when it comes to that.
2007-02-14 05:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by LadyAk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not bull. You'd be misrible together if he's a true Christian. Actually, he's following exactly what his religion says. The Bible commands us not to be "unequally yoked" with someone that's not a believer. It's actually pretty good advice because if a Christian and a non-Christian are together, then usually they're both pretty misrible. I hope this helped a little. You should read the Bible if you want to see this guys thought pattern. Matthew is a good place to start. :D
2007-02-14 05:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry you feel that way but religion is just important to some people. to you it may seem like bull because YOU dont care about religion, and you dont have to, this is america, but but some ppl DO and you have to respect that all well, your complaining because his sister is trying to convert you and change your beliefs and you feel she doesnt respect your beliefs but im sry to say YOU have to respect thier beliefs as well, if its a big deal tot other ppl you are gonna have to accept that and respect it the way you want ppl to accept and respect that you DONT believe. I personally wouldnt feel comfortable dating someone outside my own race and religion either but thats my opinion. your getting offended that he's willing to loose you over God, but to alot of us "Christians" God comes first, putting a GFor BF in front of God is an insult. thats just some christians belief. i kno you prolly think Im full of it but your opinion isnt the only right one, like ive said and i cant stress enough, ppl have different beliefs
2007-02-14 05:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by PAISA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has his beliefs. Whether or not you agree with them doesn't change the fact that he has them. Everyone has different things that are important to them. His just happens to be religion. You are able to accept a difference of opinions on the whole religious debate. You have to respect that he cannot accept that difference. Just like he cannot expect you to conform to his religious beliefs. You asking him to deny his beliefs for you is no more fair then him ending the relationship because you will not believe as he does.
2007-02-14 05:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently religion is important to him and if it's not to you then your probably not meant to be together. I think you should meet in person before you think that he is the only person for you. When your young you don't think these difference matter but at 34 and not married I have learned that they do.
2007-02-14 05:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by c_t_5_2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't accept you for who you are, and your beliefs, then maybe he is not the person you thought he was. A real Christian would love you and accept you as you are, but encourage you (not badger you) to understand Christ's message and accept him as your savior, etc. etc. Jesus certainly did not go around badgering people to accept him as the saviour, and when he "died for our sins" he did so for everyone, not just the faithful. Sounds like these folks should read their bible, and try to understand what Jesus was all about, rather than try to bully you into something.
2007-02-14 05:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you really say, "hes willing to loose me for god..."
If this guy believes in God so much then maybe he's leaving you cause you don't care about what's important to him in life.
Get over yourself.
2007-02-14 05:01:57 · answer #10 · answered by Robert 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋