W hy i can't i let it go? I think I'm going crazy.?

Question

2 weeks ago,a coworker sent me an email that I was too weird for him to be friends with because I was sending him mixed signals. B4 this we had been close for awhile and I told him it was best that we ignore each other so I can get over my crush on him since he already has a gf not in the US . During all of this, he suggested that the best way to get over him was to sleep with him. I thought he really wanted me because he kept asking if I wanted to do it. Then he told me that I should do it with someone else since he already has a gf. I felt hurt and angry since I told him things that I wanted him to do to me. Days later I called him a dog via text since he jerked my feelings around, then I felt bad and wrote a letter apologizing to him. Then 2 weeks ago, he looked at me like he wanted to say hi and I emailed him asking him if we could just treat each other civily and say hi. He said I shouldn't email, text, or say hi to him. I haven't but he looks. and I can't rid the feelngs 4 him

Answer 1

These other girls are being a little harsh...we've all done this before....both of you were playing with fire. Most crushes should just be left at that. Crushes. You don't have to act on them. Especially with someone you work with...it could make things really sticky and weird, i.e., the new, improved, flipped-out relationship you all have now. It sounds to me like he just wanted to have sex with someone who was diggin' on him. He feels he could have gotten you to do anything, because you were infatuated with him and he knew it (rule one: never tell a casual aquaintance (or anyone who isn't already YOUR man) that you have really strong feeling for them. They don't know or love you enouph to think and act with your best interest at heart. They'll think and act in a way that ensures they get everything out of you and the relationship that they possibly can.). To him, you seem like a girl who is confused and shifty, cause you call him a dog (your angry) but then you want to be civil (you still like him) and he's completely put off by your mood swings. He wants to pretend the whole thing never happened, probably because he still has feelings for his girl. And he only wanted good sex while he's so far away from her, and probably decided that he didn't want it from you, because you'd want to hang around, and he just wants to hit it and quit it and get back to waitin' to be with his girl.

Long story made short, he wanted a one-night-stand and your feelings got in the way. He knew he couldn't sex you and everything stay the way it was, so he changed his mind. It happens. Doesn't mean that your any less of a women or a bad person. He doesn't know what he wants. He want's his girl and he wanted hot sex with you at the same time. What will help you get over him is knowing that he still wants his girl. And he's a jerk.

Answer 2

You need to get another job, as long as you work together you'll never get over him. He's a jerk for wanting to sleep with you knowing he has a gf. You shouldn't get involved with a man that's in a relationship and willing to cheat on his gf/wife. Nothing good can come from it. And never date people you work with. Ever hear the expression "never mix business with pleasure"? There's a reason for that saying. First he suggests that you sleep with him to get over him, then he says sleep with someone else because he has a gf, and he doesn't want you to email or text him or even say hi. I see mixed signals all through this. Give him what he wants, like I said before nothing good will come from this if you both keep playing this stupid game. If you keep trying to contact him he could get you fired for harrassment, and I know it will come to that because it happened at my work with two coworkers that had a fling. Find someone single that wants to be with you and not just for a one night stand. Your better than that.

Answer 3

I had a similar incident dear friend, there was this girl she is cute and had a crush on me but was already engaged we decided to be friends but it dint work out as she always confused me with her behavior so i decided to avoid her that too din't work. Atlast i asked her if you want to sleep with me and that can help you(actually even i would have liked it) she thaught about it and said no to it as she thaught that would be unfair with her partner. Frankly that was fine with me. But after this incident too she could not get over it. Genuinly i think the easiest way is too accept it that you got to face it that feeling is going to stay for a while and trouble you the only thing you can do is give it time to settle down and trust me it really works. Best of luck and trust your self dont loose your self respect any more just be fine when he looks at you and forget it... after all you got your life and he is not the only guy.

Answer 4

tough situation. it's gonna be hard for a while, but the best thing u can do is get out there and date. atleast u will be enjoying yourself without thoughts of him while you're out. who knows maybe you'll meet someone u really like and wanna be with. either way be happy u never slept with your co-worker. sounds to me like he only wanted sex from u and once he saw he wasn't gonna get that he wanted nothin to do with u. most likely the end result would've been the same even if u DID sleep with him.

Answer 5

You need to leave him alone. If you were out of state, would you want some woman hitting on, teasing, and tempting your man?
He has told you he has a girlfriend, and you just keep trying. You trying to be a home wrecker???
MOVE ON. Or maybe he needs a restraining order?

Answer 6

He already has a girlfriend and if he is interested then he is just retaliating in a strange way. Don't take him on just find someone of your own go out have fun and date guys you must find someone you like.

Answer 7

hi RUTH...honey your dad loves you,and prob is scared he will attempt to get you to smoke,and your dad prob issues his undesirable conduct will rub off on you,i'd call him,just to work out how his doing yet at this think approximately your existence,your dad knows ultimate,,,,PEACE

Answer 8

He dont like you get over it sorry to be the one to tell you that but it is true.

Answer 9

You should start a new TV series...Desperate Co-workers

Answer 10

Get over it!