What do u do when u love somebody but they don't love u back?

Question

My bf likes me but his feelings don't come near as close as my feelings for him. I love him so much and have told him but he gets all freaked out when i say that so i stopped tellin him. I am scared because i love him so much and i am afraid of losing him. I love this guy so much I don't even look at other men in a sexual way anymore. U could even ask my freinds. Is there any way that i can get his feelings to run deeper for ME? How can i get him to care like i care. I love him. PS- I have gone a little over board about expressing my feelings for him to him but apologized. Sometimes he looks at me in dreamy ways aka his pupils are small and beaty. Sometimes he looks at me with nervous skittish look. What do i do?

Answer 1

If you keep telling him how much you love him he might be quite scared and run away!Don`t be obsessive about him,let it come naturally and lady....let him tell how much he loves you...in other words,he should run for you,not the other way. You told him how you feel,ok.stop....and wait for his turn.and however if you are sure he doesn`t love you as much as you love him,do you think this relationship will work? I don`t think there are ways to make someone love you,he/she does or doesn`t....you can`t push someone to love you!!! or have deeper feelings for you!and don`t become obsessive.he loves you,fine.he`s not...find someone who will.you have your life ahead!so think clear!

Answer 2

I guess you need to give him a break. He is probably afraid to a real commitment. This is common on young people. I don’t know how old you and your b/f are, but this is probably the main problem.

Just talk to him, tell him that you love him very much, but that you are not looking for a engagement or something like that yet, that you are just happy being with him, and that you just want to let the relation go on its natural way, no hurries.

If you think he might have doubts, then ask him, be very careful how you do it, just talk about your life, his life, what future he would like to have, etc, etc. Of course he is gonna know what is in your mind, but you have to keep telling him that you are happy with him and that you want to make him happy too. He should understand that you are deeply in love with him, and at least be honest with you.

I would suggest going out also with friends, and going out also without each other so is not “overwhelming”. Hopefully things will be ok.

And if by any chance he has doubts, you must accept it and deal with it. Don’t picture your relation as “perfect” cause there is no such a thing. Communication is the key for a healthy relation, so you two must be honest and try to work out any issues in the way.

And do yourself a favor, and forget a little about the whole thing too, and just enjoy being together. Have fun and don’t worry that much about it. Things will come and go as they always do and hopefully you two should just be fine.

Happy V Day.

Answer 3

He's probably freaked out because it seems like you are coming on too strong. First of all, are you still in high school? Guys high school age seem to be more freaked out about being so committed to one person(maturity level). Also If you haven't been dating that long....less than 6 months, then you are definitely coming on too strong and probably coming off as clingy, which is a huge turn off for men. You have to scale it back some and stick with him. You have to have some space from him every once in a while, like just having one or two nights a week to hang out with the girls. You have to show him that you can survive without him(by not being with him and clinging to him so much). Be more independent and if its meant to be, he will feel the same. Please just scale it back some!

Answer 4

You are obviously freaking him out with your feelings, so you need to lay off. Give him some space, you are probably smothering him, and you are probably scaring him so much that he doesn't have a chance to figure out if he has feelings for you or not because you are moving too fast for him. Just relax and have a good time with him. If he loves you back, he'll realize it on his own, but he probably won't figure it out while you are analyzing the double meaning of every one of his looks or comments.

Answer 5

Maybe he does care for you a great deal, but guys are afraid to show their emotions, well most guys are.
Maybe he thinks you're getting too serious too fast and you're scaring him away?!
Or maybe you say I love you so much that he thinks your just mocking about and don't really care for him.
Just try being a bit more relaxed around him and hopefully he will come around.

Take care, good luck and happy valentine x

Answer 6

Sweetie u can't make a man love you. If he don't that's your Q to move on. Even if it hurts because its a man out there to love you because you are worth being loved. If he can't realize what a good women you are its time to bounce. Let him know if u don't feel the same way about me especially your been dating 4 a while its time for me to move on. Honesty is the best thing because you don't wont to get your heart broken worse because you didn't move on.

Answer 7

first of all you can not make anyone love you. The harder you try the greater your chances are of losing them. Secondly you may have crossed over the love line and into co-dependence territory which is extremely unhealthy, and you need to seriously re-evaluate your priorities or you may turn into a stalker.

Answer 8

You are making yourself sound desperate. That is a big turn off. Chill out for a while, and think about it. Is it the sex that has you so frazzled?? You need to take a break. Why would you do that!!

Answer 9

Why wasting your time with a guy who didnt give his fully love.
Do you want to live with him forever...with no love...?
You have TRIED your BEST, to LOVE him ......so it times for u to breath in and give yourself a way....
Life is just a moment of enjoyment , Give another chance for yourself .May be HE is out there. Sometime, to give love to somebody who really love u is better than sacrifing yourself to somebody who even can hardly uttered the word LOVE...


Good Luck for u....:)

Answer 10

sweetie i went threw the same thing with my boyfriend i knew that i loved my boyfriend WAY before he knew he loved me and i told him way before he told me. Yes its hard to say u love someone and then not hear it but there isnt a way that u can make him fall in love with u quicker, you just have to let nature run its course!!! if you try to push him into saying it then its just going to push him away, my advice is to just continue to love him but give him time!