I know a single 39 year-old woman who portrays a true mother to me. I don't feel very comfortable living with my family, because they neglect me and never really been there for me. I've even got my own summer job to pay for things I need. They always invade my privacy and yell a lot. I even like school better than being at home. It's like genuine Hell on Earth. I feel like I don't fit in or I'm not good enough.
2007-02-14 04:31:06 · 25 answers · asked by Ukira 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh honey. I'm so sorry you feel that way. Since I don't know your family, I can't speak for them, or say what's in their heads or hearts. I CAN tell you that you ARE good enough. God made you, and God doesn't make junk. It sounds like you have a good amount of intelligence and ambition......go with that. I know it sounds like a long time away, but "soon" you will be grown and gone from them.
Maybe you should talk to a trusted school counselor, or a favorite teacher. I don't think you can actually put yourself up for adoption. But I think the attitude of your family needs to change. They need to learn to appreciate you just as you are.
Maybe, with some professional advice you can start to change things.
2007-02-14 04:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can prove neglect or abuse (not just calling 911 and claiming it) then you can probably be removed from the home but the chances of you being put into foster care are great unless this woman is willing to take responsibility of you. If she is then perhaps you both need to speak either to a lawyer, a social worker, or a mediator. I don't know your situation and I certainly don't condone neglect or know what you consider neglect and no child should be made to feel as though they don't fit into their own home but you are only 13. At your age I thought my life was a living hell too. My mom and I never got along but now at 32 years old i see that everything my parents did were for my own good and they did love me.
2007-02-14 12:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by kminimax27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're being abused in any form, God Forbid, then you should go through the proper steps. But if it's just typical family crap then I would say just spend as much time away from those that upset you as possible. You're 13 so you only have a few years to go and you can live with whoever you want. But if it's possible to communicate your feelings and concerns with your family then you should. In the meantime, use this woman as a mentor and a role model. You sound pretty wise for 13. I wish nothing but the best for you and DON'T GIVE UP! and DO NOT turn to drugs or alcohol to solve any of these problems. I know it sounds like your typical text book lecture but it's true. Good luck to you and hang in there.
2007-02-14 12:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by clayp72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow tough question. I understand how you feel, but could you consider that a life with this other woman may not be all it's cracked up to be? Also consider that your relationship with your parents might be caused by a lack of respect by each of you. Maybe you could sit them down and try to work it out. They are your parents, and legally they have the upper hand at the moment. When you turn 18 it could be different. But give them a chance to correct their mistakes, and you may learn of a few you have that you can correct to make a better life with your parents.
You are good enough, your are special and deserve to be happy. But sometimes before you let go and walk away, you should explore all the opportunities for making your current situation better.
2007-02-14 12:39:42 · answer #4 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a single 39 year-old woman who portrays a true mother to me. I don't feel very comfortable living with my family, because they neglect me and never really been there for me. I've even got my own summer job to pay for things I need. They always invade my privacy and yell a lot. I even like school better than being at home. It's like genuine Hell on Earth. I feel like I don't fit in or I'm not good enough.
2007-02-14 12:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋
I know its hard to be at home, but your parents do love you, if they invade your privacy its only cuz they want to protect you. The fact that you have a friend willing to listen to you, and help you when you need it, is GREAT! But if your parents, and your friend all agree then yes, your mom and dad can give rights over to your friend. 13 is a hard age, I would not want to be that young again, not in these times, it was hard enough when I was 13!
2007-02-14 12:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are your legal guardians. You have absolutely no legal right to demand that they relinquish control to someone else. Obviously, this is way to serious a subject for anyone to advise you on, over the Internet. You need to find some adults that you know and trust. Talk to your school counselor and/or religious leader. Tell your parents how you feel.
2007-02-14 12:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by Leo L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to go live with the 39 year old woman? Then do so. Ask the 39 yr old if she would have you in her life and in her house, if she can afford to take care of you, and then move in with her. You can go through court and live with whomever you choose at the age of 13!!
Cheers
2007-02-14 12:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Daft One 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey i have been through the same thing but it won't be easy just giving yourself away through adoption to this lady and plus it'snot all peaches and cream i am 15 adn i have doone the same thing but this will damage your parents my mother neglected me and i never knew my dad(except his name) and my mom married this guy then divorced and then they were trying it again cuz my mom had a child of his(his only one) and she ignored me and my other sisters and brotherit hurt us bad my older sister(16) moved out and i went into foster care and when i got back my mom didn't speak to me and the "boyfriend" kept yelling then he started yelling at how they practically paid for me to say in foster care i tried it out only for a wk very uncomfy you don't get to choose where you go i tried with all my might o live with my friend but i was 14 at the time and my friend was 18 not my bf ,my bff, and so you need to know what is exactly going to happen b4 you make your move
2007-02-14 13:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by nunofurbiznass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your parents put you up for adoption you are stuck with the family you have.
You are very sad and sounds like in a not so great place. Talk to your school counselor or another trusted adult and see if they can help you.
2007-02-14 12:34:09 · answer #10 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋