we've been together 3 years and i love him to death. I really do a lot for him, and it seems like the last few months he takes me for granted. I mean, he dosent ever give me a compliment, and he's been really rude to me latley. (it would just be nice to hear "you look nice today baby" once or twice.) I know he loves me, but what can i do to show him that im sick of it? Theres no way we could break up so please dont say that. And please dont say "talk to him about it" i just want to feel loved, just for him to send me flowers on a random day, stuff like that. Its almost like.. if something bad happened to me it would open his eyes and show him? but i cant do anything like that lol. What can I do?
2007-02-14 04:22:31 · 14 answers · asked by cutiepie3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't have to break up. But you SHOULD make him think that you are. If he's truly scared then he'll change. Trust me. I treated my g/f the same way and she almost broke up with me. It wasn't until then, that I realized that I had to put a little work into the relationship.
2007-02-14 04:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by kane_derick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad thing about relationships is that the main pillar of support is where a lot lacks: communication.
do you and your BF share the same amount of responsibilities?
did he recently get a new hobby?
is he having stress?
have you voiced yourself more than often lately?
men and women arent the same, so where you maybe the more expressive one, he may be the more submissive one. perhaps both of you were neither dominating or submissive in the beginning, sometimes it goes from there and moves to one being dominant and the other submissive. if a guy's BF becomes uber-dominating and he tunrs into jello, he isnt going to open up, he will be a lost and unhappy slave that exist only to share the bills.
perhaps it is work that bothers him, some cant leave work at the workplace.
some, small number, who get into a new hobby tends to get lost in it, it becomes an obsession....you would be surprised on how relationships are borken and strained because of stuff like online computer games.
you dont want to hear it, but communication is vital to getting to the source. if he isnt one to open up, then you need to ask.
it could be any of the three things i mention or something else.
2007-02-14 04:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and talk to him about it.Have a serious conversation and let him know how its effecting you.If he really cares about you then he will change his ways and will start doing things right.I know you might feel that you are making a big deal but your not.Its very understandable and ive been there before and i know after time goes by you get really tired and fed up with all of it.Thats the time when you should realize that if you dont do nothing now then things may just get worse.He might not see it but show him how its affecting you.You just want some kind of appreciation just like everyone else and i dont blame you.Just talk to him and tell him staight out.If he changes then he really does care about your feelings and what hes doin.If he doesnt then thats a sign that maybe you should start looking somewhere else.
2007-02-14 05:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by boriqua_052005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation, I've decided to keep the baby, boyfriend was adamant on me having an abortion. Which I've always said il never have. I'm hoping he'll come round. At the moment I think he's in denial that we'll have a baby. I had to decide whether I'd be able to do it without him in worst case scenario. Which I will. I know my boyfriend doesn't want to talk about it at the moment, maybe give yours time.
2016-05-23 22:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it soundsl ike you got yourself a nasty apple. the thing is that you should really sit him down and have a talk and try to get things figured out, or if it comes to it, dump him. I know it's hard but this ocming from a guy, (sounds weird enough) but i've learned how most boyfriends can be in a relationship. I dislike how most guys treat women and what oyu went through is not right.
2007-02-14 05:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by William Sly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going on 16 yrs of marriage this april...
I atleast tell my wife I love her 4 or 5 times a day...I also tell her how pretty she is a couple times a day...I also just walk and give her a kiss a couple times a day and tell her how much she means to me......
A good relationship is about honesty and communication...
and talking to your parnter is what your suppose to do..
Tell him the way you feel or your relationship will just stay the same ...and he will just keep on doing what he has been or he might even get worse than he has been
2007-02-14 04:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be rude but you called him a BOY-friend. I take it he gets sex for free, So your upset that he's a selfish boy and don't care about you.
That's the way it works when you give sex to a boy for free.
Sorry -- besides if you were looking for a man you'd be looking past silly "random" complements and looking towards how well he was prepare and working to be a future husband and father.
2007-02-14 04:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you deserve a better guy, i mean i guess you can try gong somewhere where you to can be alone and talk to each other and slowly bring it up. Ask him if he loves you and tell him that how much you love him and cuddle up and watch a movie together.
2007-02-14 04:31:14 · answer #8 · answered by 619 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not asking us questions. You're using this post to whine.
He's there every day. The bills are getting paid. He's not beating you. Accept the fact that he cares from those bits of life.
Oh yeah...don't do something stupid to gain his sympathy. It will backfire on you.
2007-02-14 04:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years .. and still going..... well a fatigue has come in your relationship....
Ok... i will give you a fantastic advice....
Start asking for compliments....
like....if you wear a new dress....
and ask him if you look good in it or not....
if he still doesnt give you compliments.... show your displeasure....and get angry.....
I am sure he will take it seriously after that....
It works with my girl.... she is gets full atenttion from me...
2007-02-14 05:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by importer911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋