I've been with my bf for 8 months and even though I like him I don't love him the same way he loves me. He is a good guy but we have different perspectives about life. For example, I consider myself open minded and liberal and I need my space to be by myself. He grew up in a small town and is very close minded and wants to be around me all the time. The worst part is that the things that we disagree are very important for me like tolerance, racism and discrimination. I have two children and I want them to grow up without prejudices and he is not going to reinforce that if he is around. I know that he is preparing a nice evening to celebrate Valentine's. My question is should I wait and spend Valentine's with him like nothing is wrong? Should I break up with him in this that I consider the worst day to do it? I don't want to make him think that I spend today with him to get the presents that he got me. Please Help me!
2007-02-14 04:18:02 · 14 answers · asked by Susu 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Breaking up with someone on Valentine's Day is cruel - especially if they are going to a lot of trouble to make the day special. I think you should enjoy the evening, let him enjoy the evening, but don't do anything that will give him any false hope that things will progress. If you feel the need to be a bit more reserved, fine, but don't put doubts or questions in his head tonight. Let him enjoy this day that he is putting this effort into. It would be heartless and cruel to break up with a guy on Valentine's Day when you already know that he is going to such effort to make the day special. If you did this, he would always have that memory of Valentine's Day as the day his heart got broken. That's like breaking up on Christmas, or telling a mother on Mother's Day that you want nothing to do with her. I know you feel like you would appear to be using him for the gifts and all, but if you wait a day or two after Valentine's Day to break up with him, you could tell him that you felt bad about the gifts and the effort he made, that you appreciate all he did, but that you didn't want to hurt him by breaking up on that day. It will have less of a sting for him to do it that way. Good luck.
2007-02-14 04:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's kind of sucky! There is no better way to break up with someone especially around valentines day. I guess just tell her that you think yall were better as friends, and that the relationship is not what you had pictured. But definitely do it sooner than later, there is no reason to fake thur a Valentines day with someone you don't even like/ love in that way. She can return the gift and get her money back, so that's not an issue. But you should of thought about this more before you in a relationship, I know you said its only been a couple of weeks, but to get in and out of a relationship that soon for no better reason is kind of childish.
2016-05-23 22:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, couldn't you see that this wasn't going to work out last month? At this point...I would share a dinner with him-if he gets you jewelry don't accept it. I wouldn't break it off tonight but the sooner, the better. Also, if he is a great guy you may regret the decision you are about to make. I have been in search of a good (not great) guy for 3 years.
2007-02-14 04:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but, I dont think today is the best day to break up with him then again you would be putting a front today by saying I love you and happy valentines day when you actually dont love him anymore. He would most likely question you when you break up with him why you spend valentines with him and why you said i love you when you didnt mean it anymore. I wouldnt know what to do in your situation. Good luck!
2007-02-14 04:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think is a worst day to break up with him. Remember he is in love of you, and you have other opportunities to communicate him your decision. Every Valentin´s Day he is going to remember this horrible day, I consider, It isn´t good idea. In a few days you can explain him with details your decision.
2007-02-14 04:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by princessita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him no before V day. If he isnt the man for you and children, then stop this affair right now. It really doesnt make a difference what day you split, but if he gives you a gift, then let him have it back.Just curious, did you get him a gift? lol
2007-02-14 04:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
say that you dont feel up 2 valentines, like you have a headache or whatever. this wil giv him warning, he'll know theres a problem, people dont blow off valentines for nothing. then break up a few days later.
2007-02-14 04:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i really think that you should break up with him. What is the difference if you do it today or this weekend. It's gonna happen and nothing is going to change that. for you or him. just go to dinner with him and tell him that you need to talk
2007-02-14 04:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by Charlie H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
February the 14th is nothing special unless you want it to be, you shouldn't be with someone just to keep them happy if you are not, better to get out now instead of leading him on, good luck, xxx
2007-02-14 04:24:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been dumped on Valentine's before. Don't do it. It is terrible. If things were that bad you should have ended things before hand.
2007-02-14 04:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋