Recently, me and my girlfriend of two years split. The problem is we share all the same friends, so we never really had time completely away from each other. She rebound dated someone almost immediately after we split, which hurt a lot, but I still talked to her on occasion. They split after about two months. Soon after we started talking again. I tried to start slow and work things out again, but she continually told me she didn't want to because she knew it wouldn't work out despite the fact that she thought she still loved me. Not too long after, I took a girl I was talking with home for the first time. That night, my ex showed up at my apartment and freaked after walking in on us. I found out the next day, my ex wanted to work things out all along, but just didn't want to get hurt again. Yet it seems she got hurt because she didn't tell me that. The new girl is great, & I was only trying to move on. I just don't know if I still love my ex the same way I did before her rejections.
2007-02-14 03:58:04 · 11 answers · asked by zimminator10 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My advice is to move on, if you two keep hurting eachother then its not meant to be. Unless you absolutely both love eachother then you should try and work it out. Love is very confusing. I dated a guy for 2 years, he was my first love, the guy who took my virginity away and everything. He then started being wierd and couldn't make up his mind what he wanted. Finally I went to college 8 hours away and started forgetting about him. After I came home, he tried to get back together with me but by this time I was done with his games and moved on so I basically kept him out of my life. Now Im engaged to another guy whom Ive been with for almost 4 years now and Im so happy with all my decisions. Goodluck to you!
2007-02-14 04:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by Fantasy686 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you both failed to provide the reassurance you both needed to begin working on your relationship and instead made haste decisions that involved other people. If you and her would have tried to work out the issues by calming each others doubts for reconciliation, then maybe you two would have been together today. To have a successful relationship takes hard work. Appears, you and her react to a break up too hastily. By moving on with other people too quickly showed total disregard as to the value you two place on the relationship. As a result, you being with this new girl has lead you to question your feelings for your ex girlfriend. Please really think this over because if you make a a wrong decision , then later decide your feelings for your ex girlfriend still exist, you may run the risk of never being able to repair the damage a decision like this can do. After all you have just met this girl. Take some time to really sort out your feelings and to come to terms with what you really want. If you decide to work things out with your ex girlfriend, then I would recommend couples counseling to ensure a start for a successful beginning. Good luck to you in what ever you decide.
2007-02-14 04:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
brother i feel your pain! I have gone through a similar situation, and in my opinion (which i dont claim to be right) once you split you should stay split. I know there is probably a lot of people who are going to say get back together bla bla and without knowing the details and whys over your break up i dont think any of us are going to be able to help too much.
Here is my experience on getting back together. The trust that you once both shared for each other has been damaged. I dont know if it is possible to get this back as i became tired of trying but to me all the little things that didnt matter before started hurting someones feelings or they were second guessing the motives behind everything going on. So i just said listen maybe the break up was for the best.
I find a lot of people get back together after a break up just because it is comfortable. especially when you have been with the person for 2 years and share the same friends its even worse. You start out being uncomfortable amongst your friends and always remember how easy it was when you were together so you start to gravitate back towards that comfort zone.
Another thing you might wnat to look it is. did your girl just suddenly want you back because you were with someone else or does she genuinly want you back.
I thiink you are going to have to figure this one out on your own bro as everyone on here is going to give you an opinion based on their personal experience which is different than yours. Some advice that i just thought of though is that you wont know write or wrong until you try. if you dont give it a go you may regret it later not trying. and the worst thing that can happen is you find out that breaking up was the right thing today in the first place and you both can get on with your lives.
Well that was probably to long to even read but i hope it helps you out man.
Cheers and good luck!!
2007-02-14 04:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both have issues that you needed to sort out sooner. By issues I really mean big mistakes. I mean, you cheated on her?! That would remain in her head forever. But whats done is done, you said yourself it was no excuse becoz you were drunk and you tried your best to show her you care. Seems as if maybe that was what is bringing her to go off with other guys, she must somehow think it was alright to cheat. Its like with guys, you become a player because you don't wanna get hurt again. She may just think she can do better. BUT this may be all wrong. By her hanging out with other guys she is trying her best to get over you. Bottom line: she still somewhat likes you but thinks she is better off being with someone else. Its obviously not meant to be, I'm sorry. Please move on... start over fresh. Hope I helped, good luck.
2016-03-29 06:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with the new girl friend. The old girl friend has already hurt you once and she will hurt you again and again if you let her. The old girl friend already said repeatedly she didn't think it would work between the two of you and with that negative attitude she's right it won't. She's just jealous now that you've moved on she wants to have her cake and eat it too. Say goodbye to her.
2007-02-14 04:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by smiley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds that your ex wanted you to work everything out for the relationship, and she didn't want to get hurt again? isn't she the one that broke up with you?! and then dated someone else right away? to me she only hurt herself trying to hurt you! You may never luve her the same way, but just let her know that you do still care. and leave it at that when she's ready to talk again i'm sure she will let you know! i hope this helps
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2007-02-14 04:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mama Boyce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one but, i think this is the exs fault she cant wait until u find someone else to say she wants to try it again it just doesnt work lik that. But unfortunately u shouldnt go with this new girl until you are totally over your ex.
2007-02-14 04:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u love her everything will work out. She needs to be more open and honest about things. She might not want to see u happy with anyone else. talk and if she is not woman enough to tell the truth 4get about her!!!
2007-02-14 04:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by nita23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself this question: "Am I better with her, or without her?" Once you've answered that question you will know whether to persue something with the ex or not. In my experience, ex's are ex's for a reason.
2007-02-14 04:06:52 · answer #9 · answered by Brian C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take some time apart from these girls and figure out what you want. You know in your heart who you want.
2007-02-14 04:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by sanj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋