His bill is about $300!!!!! that is alot of money for a mobile phone. what should i do, should I pay it?
His bills have been causing the family problems, it seems like he calls everybody to pay his cell bill. and it keeps getting higher and higher. I dont want to pay that much money (they wont let me pay less i tried) but I dont want him to think that he cannot count on me. what can i do?
2007-02-14 03:49:51 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I also recently purchased a new car so my funds are almost on its way out. what can i do?
2007-02-14 03:50:49 · update #1
Tell him that you are broke. There is no reason that he should have a cell phone if he can't afford it. He is using you and your family and he needs to learn that he has to deal with things on his own.
I have a brother too and if he were to ask for money, I would buy him diapers for his baby or formula or tabs for his vehicle. Help out that way, not for an unecessary item as a cell phone.
Note: Never co-sign a loan for him!!! I can almost gaurentee that one is on it's way. He will fail to make the payments and it will be turned over to you to deal with.
2007-02-14 03:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him NO. He should have thought about that before he ran up a $300 phone bill. If you pay next time he gets a big bill he will be there expecting you to pay. Ive been there and done that it went on for about 2 years and the best way to stop is not to let it start. Explain to your brother that you love him and if he needs you you'll be there but you simply cant afford to pay his phone bill as you have responsibilities of your own. Tell him to get a pay as you go phone if he cant afford it. Its not your problem and you cant keep bailing him out.
2007-02-14 03:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by kazz06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no. It is not your responsibility. Besides a cell phone is not a necessity, though everyone seems to think it is. It's not like you are leaving him in a cold house without electricity (even though that is not your responsibility, either.) . If he feels he has to have a cell phone, he can always get a prepaid. I have Cricket myself. The phone was free (normally $65) when I signed up. For $50 a month I get unlimited calls to anyone at anytime. (land-line or cell). And there's not a number of people you can call (like the 5 people in a network deal). And my phone has good service. Oh, and for my husbands phone and mine our monthly bill (with tax) is $106.29 . If we ever cannot afford to pay it, we just wont have cells for that month. Bottom line: as long as someone else is willing to pay his bills, why would he pay them? I can tell you are a very good sister. He should be as worried about your feelings as you are about his.
2007-02-14 04:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brother has a problem and it is all his. He is going to have his cell phone turned off. Ya know, a $300.00 bill has got to be telling you something. Does he work? Well...he will if he wants to continue cell phone service. He's been trying to hit all the family up for the money to pay.......he sure does put an awful lot of energy in to that and obviously on the phone. Sister, HE IS ON HIS OWN for this BILL.
2007-02-14 03:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that you want to help your brother, but he needs to learn to be responsible. The fact that your family has been having to deal with his bills causing problems tells me that he is irresponsible and needs to face the consequences of his own actions. He is counting on the family bailing him out, so he doesn't see the need to learn to cut back on his cellphone usage. I have a cellphone but only use it when I have to. If I am near a land line phone and am able to use it (such as when I'm at home), then why use my minutes from the cellphone? Makes no sense! No phone company will refuse to take any money. Any money to be put toward the bill is better than no money. If you really want to pay something, than you can pay what you can afford, and that will reduce the amount your brother will have to pay HIMSELF so that he can get his phone service turned back on. I'm all for helping family out, because that's what family does. Still, there is HELPING out and ENABLING someone. It is enabling his irresponsible behavior and doing him more harm by bailing him out each time he messes up. Not only does this hurt your family, but it teaches your brother nothing. He needs to learn to handle his own finances and to behave responsibly. He needs to grow up. You can't use a cellphone for free. Your brother sounds like he is expecting to. He needs to figure out how to manage his cell minutes better and to live within his means. Until he can learn that, this will be a continuing problem. Help your brother by saying no.
2007-02-14 03:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he needs to start taking responsibility for his own actions. It is NOT your duty as his sister to pay his bills. It's not an issue of him not being able to count on you - it's an issue of him cleaning up his own messes. He needs to learn to use his phone less if he can't pay his bills. By "helping him out," you're being an enabler and encouraging his reckless ways.
If you do decide to be generous and pay the bill, insist that you will only do so if he switches to a pay-as-you-go plan, so that he can better manange his spending. He should also agree to pay you back within one year.
2007-02-14 03:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all, how old is your brother? Under 18........Offer to pay half of it and he has to work it off with you.... in the mean time, he will have to find work to pay the other half. If he does have his cell service suspended during the time it takes to pay it, he'll learn a lesson and learn that it doesn't come easy to pay bills and have the extras in life.
Over 18, tough titties said the kitties...... he should of learned the value of working for what he has and paying his own way. Don't pay it for him.
Explain to him that the cell phone is NOT a necessity of life, working, food, home, electricity, warmth, etc ARE necessities of life and if he was in need for one of those you would be happy to help.
Obviously he is trying to use his family's love and sympathy to get things free and cause strife in the family as it is. He needs to learn valuable lessons that love and family are precious not something to be abused.
2007-02-14 04:00:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that you shouldn't... he got himself in to this mess and he has to get himself out of it. Really, i understand that you want to help him out because you love him, but it is not helping him be a responsible person who has to face the concequences of his own actions. By not helping him he will be forced to face what he has been doing and have to deal with it.
He will just continue to take advantage of you again and again. Some times the nice approach isn't the best. Why should you pay your hard earned cash on calls he has made? We've all got to learn to budget and he'll have to learn too. He'd be better off with out the phone!
Good luck, i know it is difficult for you but it is not your place to have to pay it. It is his bill and he should deal with it.
2007-02-14 04:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His bill not yours.He ran the bill up so he should pay it himself. If he cant then he loses his phone. That is not the end of the world. He needs to grow up and take responsibility for his own actions.
2007-02-14 04:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you move out and have a job they should stop paying. I know my mum wouldn't pay for my phone bill at 17, let alone 20!
2016-03-29 06:15:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋