Im getting married and im terrified not about the marriage, but the honeymoon. I'm not a virgin but its scary, It hurts. Is it supposed to? I wanna get over this and have a good time. I wanna make him happy too.
If uve read a question by a Bret R, im the girl hes talkin bout.
2007-02-14 03:41:45 · 14 answers · asked by Baili M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
ok now this makes a little more sense. i read what he wrote and now i dont think you are acting childish. honestly i am not a virgin either and almost every time i have sex it hurts. it almost like im a "born again" virgin each time, if that makes sense. anyway i have found that if you use lubricate it works REALLY well and doesnt hurt. Also if you use anal lubricate, i dont do anal but it works even better because it is meant for those tight spaces. just try it and i am sure you will be satisfied. good luck hun
2007-02-14 04:05:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to feel like you do. I think you should talk to your boyfriend and express your fears. How he behaves on you honeymoon will determine how things will go. If he is understanding of you feelings and is gentle with you, everything should be fine. It's important for you two to be able to discuss anything. That's what a marriage is, to comfort each other in times of need. He won't know what to do if you don't tell him. I haven't read the question by Bret R. so I'm not familiar. When you get married you should know each other enough where you are relaxed when you are together. It's necessary to feel free to bring up any subject that troubles or concerns either one of you. If you haven't done so, you two need to break the barrier and get over that hurdle before you get married. Maybe you need to date longer until you feel secure to say what's in your heart and mind. Nothing is worse than to be tensed up, afraid to open your mouth.
2007-02-14 12:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by Barbra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK If you have only had sex 2 times it dose hurt the First few times but It gets better trust me Not trying to be funny or anything but you should try KY gel it will help and have him go slow and then work from there and don't think of it going to hurt but that your going to enjoy this and if it is still hurting you might want to call you Dr good luck hope things work out for you
2007-02-14 12:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by mjaynor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive not read a question by a bret r but i think it probably hurts because either you haven't done it alot or because your so nervous. When your nervous you tense up and it can make it hurt you just need to relax and take it slow and tell him that you a bit nervous and to go slow.
2007-02-14 11:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by kazz06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there! Well like I said to him I had a hard time as well. And you know what it gets better. My fiance was amazingly patient with me (it hurt so bad my first time I ended up throwing up!) But it gets better just remember that. After the first few times it will not hurt so much.
2007-02-14 12:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your gynecologist, I'll bet this is covered in medical school. If there is something the doctor should know about going on, that's even better. Use your professional resources.
2007-02-14 11:51:00 · answer #6 · answered by Ron H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to your doctor and get checked out. Also it may be a matter of "fit" try different positions and find what is comfortable to you and try and relax, when you tense up in anticipation of pain it most likely will cause pain.
2007-02-14 11:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not it could be a medical condition called Vaginismus. A friend of mine had the same problem. See your gynecologist.
2007-02-14 11:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by peterregan50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are u copmplecating things?!
just have a nice time no need to panic
ask urself wats the worst thing could happen ?!
i guess nothing is better to live ur simple life with a big smile and a warm hug thanking ur god 4 for everything he gave us specialy (health)
nothing is worst than having a bad health..
live..thank god..and smile..
2007-02-14 11:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by romanticaliziational 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what is there to be terrified about!!! your going to have a great time with your new hubby that all you should care about!!! Good luck and have fun!!!
2007-02-14 11:50:34 · answer #10 · answered by CRYSTAL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋