How to handle an uncontrollable child?

Question

Well I have a six year old niece. Since she learned how to walk, she has been pretty active and wild and you just cannot do anything with her! She doesn't stop dancing, jumping around, singing or moving around. She'll do it around the clock! Even if you tell her to calm down or sit down for a minute, she doesn't do it and she's always looking for something to do. The problem is she gets bored very easily and she has to be doing something or do anything to get people's attention. She loves to be the center of attention all the time. My niece can't be quiet for a minute or stop moving around so much. My sister has put her into dancing, gymnastics and basketball and keeps pulling her out either because she can't take her there anymore or because my niece gets bored or is too overactive. Weird thing is none of her teachers complain. She's quiet and fine in school but anywhere else, she's completely uncontrollable and she doesn't care for time-outs. Time-outs doesn't calm her down and sometimes she doesn’t do what she’s supposed to do during time-outs when we look away. She sits down when she’s supposed to be standing up and facing the wall. Then my sister decides that when time-outs didn’t work, she would spank her but I thought you stop spanking before a child is six. Now since her younger brother was born, she’s been worst. She disobeys more, overly active and makes distracting noises with her throat. Her doctor says that her throat looks fine but she keeps making the noises. We’ve down just about everything. What else is there to do? What is the problem? How do we treat the problem?

Answer 1

I think maybe your sis should see about taking her to a child therapist.....I usually do not like the idea of shrinks for kiddies, but there is something obviously bothering the girl....unfortunately it isn't always easy for parents to figure out what..... maybe a shrink could help....if she is good in school I would say that Ritalin be an extreme last resort..... too many kids on it for no good reason! She seems to be a very bright girl, and sometimes bright kids have a hard time... Good Luck!

Answer 2

Consistency is the key, be consistent, no matter what your trying. That may mean she spends lots of time in time-out, or getting spankings, you always have to enforce your rules. Children don't like to be punished, they all learn at a different pace, so it might take her a while to bring herself under control, you can't get lazy with her and ignore misbehavior, if you do, it all starts over. As for spanking, they are very productive under the age of 12. You never put an age limit on spanking, the child should prove to you around 12, that they no longer need them. Have a set of rules that warrants a spanking, and once again be consistent in doing them.

Answer 3

Who says you have to quit spanking before they're six? You know what my mom used to say? "As long as you're young enough to live in my house, you're young enough to be spanked."

Of course time-outs don't work. Time outs are not going to work on a child who constantly has to be moving around. She's making noise and jumping around, then you tell her to go to the corner. So, she goes over to the corner and makes the same noise and jumps around more. How in the world is that punishment?

You need to discipline her in a way that will get her attention and stop her dead in her tracks. How do you do that? Walk up and pop her butt. It will get her attention and you will be able to say "I told you to calm down..if you don't calm down, you will get another spanking." If she doesn't calm down, pop her butt again. She'll learn quick that "Calm down" means "Calm down".

Be consistent. She's a consistent little 6 yr. old..so you have to be a consistent adult.

Answer 4

i have total sympethy with her. i have a daughter who u have just described totaly and of yet have no answers to how to calm her down so any answers to ur question will help me to. i constanntly get the looks of what a bad mother i must be because i cant control my child but the truth is i do dispalin her maybe to much somethimes but it does just come down to her being board and that she gets board with things soonner. all i can suggest is that u persue things with the doctor to the poinnt when they give u a behaviour health visitor who will observe your child and then atleast you feel like they believe you when they have seen it for them selves. also there is lots of different behaviour disorders out there that fit the description of her and my daughter the trouble is theres a lack of people wanting to diagnose them. i know i havnt answered ur questionn but i hope that u dont feel so alone having this issue .

Answer 5

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Answer 6

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Answer 7

My suggestion is to find games that she likes and play them with her in the yard or park. Kids are supposed to be active that's why thier called kids and no matter what her teachers say NEVER put her on ADD drugs.

Answer 8

you know people exspect to much out of little kids let them be kid let them have fun but when you tell her to do some thing you should stick to it she knows she well get way with it .when she out home it sounds to me the reason she does this is to get you to notice her and now a new babie ouch do things with her at home . she most likely feels left out even more now that she has a bother .so she is going to act out to get you to notice her .you sound she fine in school well this ought to tell you (daddy mommy look at me ]

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Perhaps this video can help you:

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Good Luck to you!