okay. so my mom found out my boyfriend and i had sex. and now she has told me that i cant go over to his house any more....well until im 18. and he always has to come over here. And im afraid that he wont want to deal with that.....like....he will get tired of never being alone with me. and he wont want me any more because we cant have sex.....and im really concerned.....is there anything that i can do to try and keep this relationship strong? my mom said if he really loves me then he will wait for me.......im just confused and i dont know what to do.
2007-02-14 03:29:04 · 19 answers · asked by groundhog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nooooo the relationship isnt all sexual. gosh. we just started doing it a little while back and we havent done it many times. i dont know. im just very paranoid about it. we have a really strong relationship...and he told me he wasnt going to leave me...i dont know i guess im just scared.
2007-02-14 05:01:28 · update #1
It's probably not what you want to hear, but your mom is right. (She was your age once upon a time too, she's probably been through more than you realize!)
Listen - if this guy is for real, and the relationship is strong - it should be strong for more than the physical reasons. In other words - yes, it will be frustrating not getting to be alone with him. But she's right, if he's with you for the right reasons he'll deal with the frustration and wait to be with you again.
If he won't wait for your parental limitations (until your 18) to have sex with you again and leaves before that - then your mom is saving you a big heartache later. A situation like that will not turn out to be 'forever'. If he does stick around and wait for you because he cares for you, then this mom-imposed 'test' will validate your relationship.
Good luck!
2007-02-14 03:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by country_girl_in_a_city 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is right. He will wait if he really loves you. I had a boyfriend in high school for over 2 years and we never had sex. We both didn't mind. Obviously we are not still together b/c we went to different colleges, but it wasn't because we never had sex. We had a very strong relationship, and are still great friends to this very day. I promise it will be ok. Just him being with you should be enough, if not, then he's really not the kinda guy you should be with.
2007-02-14 11:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by jimbo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the relationship is all sexual. Your mom is rite, if he loves you, he will wait. It is a way of testing your bf if he is truly the one or just using you for booty call. Be careful. Relationship is building each others up spiritually as well. Sex in its pure form can wait till marriage. Premarital sex is an abomination to the Lord and often results in heartbreaks, regrets, unwanted pregancies, and diseases. If it was meant to be, it would work out.
2007-02-14 12:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to think about this, but you're mom is right. I've been in the same situation as you. Nothing changed..but I think not having sex really helped our relationship. We fought all the time while we were. It makes you really want each other a lot more. Hey look on the bright side..you can still do other things. :)
2007-02-14 11:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by jordanface7 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to want to hear this... but your Mom is right. If he truly cares for you he will wait. Your mom is only looking out for you. She understands that young men usually put sex as a primary thing in relationships - and she knows you deserve better. Just explain to your boyfriend that your mom has her rules and she means well - if he truly cares for you he will wait and time will fly right by! Good luck.
2007-02-14 11:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by Leah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you are too young to be having sex and deal with such adult issues. Your boyfriend does need to wait until you are of age, your mom could press charges on him and he could be arrested. You are under age, can't you see that this is wrong? You'll have plenty of time for the sex thing, believe me with most guys that's all they want. Wait until you are older, let this guy go and just enjoy being young.
2007-02-14 11:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ur mom is justtryin to help cuz now you never know if ur partner has anything or you could get preg. but if he really cares then it want bother him but if u really wanna have sex with him then tell ur mom that yall are going to a movie and buy tickets and skip half of the last part so you can say "i cant tell you the ending cuz i dont wanna ruin it for you"
2007-02-14 11:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by smiley_meliy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is right if he really loves you then he will wait for you and besides sex isn't what makes a relationship work
2007-02-14 11:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by shorty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK first of all you are not even eighteen and you have had sex that is wrong.Maybe your mom is right your telling me you wouldn't regret having sex with this boy if you got pregnant this could ruin your future. So if you had a daughter your telling me you wouldn't mind if she was younger than eighteen and had sex with a guy.Stop seeing this boy if all he wants to do is have sex with you.
2007-02-14 11:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by Sexii_Babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young to know what is good for you. If you want to do what you want you should wait until you are old enough and your boyfriend have to understand if he doesn't then he doesn't love you he only wants sex from you.
2007-02-14 11:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by Nita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋