I've not spoken to my close female friend for 2 months as we got to close.I told her that I wanted no contact so that I could get over my feelings for her. She only wanted to be friends.
I've tried to get bck in touch as I've got over her now and I'm interested in another girl.I've apologised if I wasn't tactful in the way I said I wanted no contact for awhile
She's txt bck:i really do not have the energy to keep explaining things to you.I will be civil but i'm afraid i feel the close friendship is lost...........
Why she like this - she wanted to be friends....surely she'll still not be hurting from me not wanting no contact for awhile........?
All lost?
Seeing her on Friday-said she'll be civil.Advice on how to cope?
p.s. her comment of not having energy to keep explaining things to me is when she didn't want to further than friends---THAT WAS 3 MONTHS AGO!!!
2007-02-14 03:23:09 · 23 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She also said to move on with my life and wishes me the best in life......
2007-02-14 03:25:56 · update #1
WHAT SHE HURTING FROM???
2007-02-14 03:29:10 · update #2
Sounds to me like she is scared that if you go back to being good friends, you will get the wrong idea and she has to keep hurting you by telling you she does not feel the same way.
The best thing for you to do is if you do bump into her let her come to you. don't try to hard, if you re friendship means anything to her she will come to you
good luck
2007-02-14 04:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by shellie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest! You obviously still have some kind of feelings for her or else you wouldn't be so affected by her behaviour towards you. Even if you had time apart-that's not going to completely erase the feelings unless they didn't really exist to begin with. And she obviously has some kinda feelings towards you too, or did before you cut off communication-otherwise she wouldn't be so blunt towards you (unless she's just being rude). Just because someone says they have no feelings for someone, doesn't mean they don't. No one would pretend to be friends if they had no feelings for the other person at all, but by cutting off communication you may have ruined your chances with her-as friends or otherwise. You can't just toy with a person like that-even if they say they don't fancy you. Its hurtful. You should have explained why you wanted to distance yourself-that would have been a much wiser option. Are you sure this new girl you like isn't just a rebound thing, or a distraction? Anyway, you should try to maintain the friendship no matter what you feel or don't feel, or what she feels or doesn't feel. Try to start the friendship afresh. That way you will have at least tried your best. Hope all goes well for you! xxx
2007-02-14 13:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by Princess Sophia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you see her Fri all you can do is explain why you did what you did. Be tactful and apologise that you hurt her feelings. Listen to what she says and hopefully you can both get along or move on. There isnt a lot more you can do. I think you probably did the right thing if you wanted more than friendship and she didnt. Good luck :)
2007-02-14 11:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by hiddenmyname 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatley I think you have lost the friendship for good. If she was willing to stay friends with you after you told her you liked her then she was probably quite hurt with you saying you wanted no contact with her for a while. You can't just drop friends and pick them back up again when you want to. Just because you like someone else now, doesn't mean that shes over her anger or ready to trust you with her friendship again. Sorry
2007-02-14 11:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It best you don't get involve with another girl until you deal with why you had to go cold turkey and slam the door in your ex girlfriend face. If getting to close is a problem for you what make you think you aren't going to do that with other girls you get involve with? How many more girls are you going to do that to? Because you where getting too close. You should go to relationship counseling before getting involve. So that way you can deal with issues you have of getting to close to anyone and that way you will have a healthy relationship. She smart not to put any more energy with you and as far as friends forget it.
2007-02-14 11:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by honeybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly sometimes it just happens like that maybe when you see her just say look i know ive said it before but im sorry i know i could have handled it better but i was just a little confused and needed time to think through i have now and you were right you are one of my best friends and i valued our friendship and would like it to continue. Obviously you would need to put it in your own words or it would sound a bit odd. If she doesn't accept that then there isn't much else you can do. Good luck hun!
2007-02-14 11:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by kazz06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must agree with her ...her feelings are still bruised (at least) and she is protecting herself ~ just as do you and do we all - in our own ways.
'Wanting to be Friends' can be easier to say than to be done. And, although the good will of meaning may well be implicit in the language used, sometimes the energy to maintain the front - or to camouflage that bruising - can take a great deal of energy.
To deny ones hurts, to deform the self in not being outwardly honest about the often very complex web of emotions, can be detrimental to your own sense of self and of self-esteem.
You're thinking from your perspective and not from hers in this situation. And, if you did, then you might just not like what you see (through her eyes)!
(~ that's not a criticism, just a statement of what is a possibility)
Best of luck.
Sash.
2007-02-14 11:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just text her once more, saying i understand you just want to be civil, but when i said i didn't want any contact for a while was so i could have a good and close friendship with you without having feelings for you in a difrent way. i know that was selfish but it was best for our freindship. also say that you understand if she doesnt want to be friends, but stress that it would be a great lost to you. And if she doesnt want to be friends maybe she needs time from her hurt.
2007-02-14 11:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by Sammi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you pushed her away and now thats what she is doing to you. you hurt her by not having contact with her. let me tell you never do that b/c not only did you lose a great girl but a good friend in the process. you may say your over her but only your heart can tell. she would only say she wanted to be civil but then she gave it thought and she can't do that. just let her go. she will figure out what she did was stupid and maybe come back.
2007-02-14 11:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by Steelers Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This a tough one..! Like she said she thought u two had a close relationship and maybe it was the way u cut her off that has hurt her feelings....? Give her space but it would be nice if u could have a chat and maybe re kindle those close friendship feelings..?
2007-02-14 11:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋