ok my girl of nearly a year is starting to make me wonder.......
she has told me she loved me but acts like this...
tells me that this relationship is a full time job and she already has a full time job. Then the next day she is calling me asking me to take her to the airport.!Another time she told me I was clingy because I call her most days to see how she is, then again the next day she is emailing me to go and pick up (pay for aswell) a necklace that she reservered in a shop.
I treat this girl like a princess,give her lots of love, she eats at the best resturants, she never has to pay for anything. I also take her child out aswell to concerts etc. All this and I am also 10 years younger than her. Its not a bad deal.We have had really good times together over the last year, fun and laughs. But these situations keep comming up. Could it just be that time of the month? She does have a stressful lifestyle. I have supported her in every way possible. Girls are her actions normal?
2007-02-14 03:09:50 · 18 answers · asked by john g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No her behavior is manipulative and unreasonable. You have allowed her to set up the way you treat her. Regardless of your intentions to do so. She doesn't treat you as an equal and that could be a negative thing in your relationship. Behavior like that can not be justified by saying she is menstrual. Suck it up and get some courage to be an assertive man. No one needs to be treated like a door mat. YOU know this. You should think about you a lot more and start pleasing you and stop worrying about her as much. Confidence is a major factor in you allowing her to treat you this way. Be confident and assertive and you will se a big change. Some respect even.
2007-02-14 03:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by Tina S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, alot of girls do take what they have for granted and tend to get upset at alot of things and be pushy and try to control the relationship in a way...its kind of a security i guess....being the dominant and bossy one! But if she's saying a relationship is a job...def. not a good sign at all.... a realtionship is not an obligation, its a blessing! Maybe you should give her a reality check and brush her off for a bit...dont call..dont answer her calls, and just cool it for a minute, yah know. Maybe then she wont take you for granted as much if you give her a taste of what it would be like with you gone....give her one less job, as she put it! that's terrible though...it should not b looked at as a job! Maybe you should just kick her to the curb all together and get a girl that appreiciates your wonderful gestures and enjoys being treated like a princess and treates u the same in return! You deserve better so dont settle for anything less than you deserve... truast me you could get treated way better than that! Someone that want to spend that time with you and enjoys your lil hello calls and does not think of it as a job!!! hope this helped a lil...
Good Luck!
2007-02-14 11:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor dear! This chick is totally using you. She wants you around as long as you are paying for something or doing her a favor. Any other time when you are just doing the really sweet boyfriend thing, she could take or leave you. It is at this time that she calls you clingy.
I'd dump this lady ASAP for someone who truly appreciates you and your kindness. You totally deserve better, friend!
Good luck.
2007-02-14 11:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say, sounds like she is taking advantage of a wonderful guy. I really hate women like this, they ruin good guys like you. You deserve better, I'd appreciate you if we had a connection and you were in my life. This world is full of people who use each other for their benefit. Don't keep giving to her, you are not receiving anything out of this but disrespect from her. I'm like you, I give and give, the men just take from me too. Honey, truly deserve better than what this woman is doing to you. She will lose you and I guarantee it, one day, she will regret it.
2007-02-14 11:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but this does not sound like normal actions for a woman who truly likes a guy. Sounds more like she likes knowing you are there to spoil her. This relationship may be just a convenient thing for her - you deserve better than this. Good luck.
2007-02-14 11:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by Leah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's stress, but she seems to be using you. She's abusing your love or caring for her. It doesn't matter if it's that time of the month often that's just an excuse, her behaviour is harmful to you! Tell her the honest truth and see where it goes from there.
2007-02-14 11:14:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahahha, if she says she loves u, then she probably means it.u said that she has a stressful lifestyle, so she probably takes out a bit of that stress on u (especially as she has to raise a child as well), but thats not a bad thing, coz that means that she sees u as sum1 who she can tak out her feelings on.
but if these situationz mak u feel really bad or sumthin, then talk to her little by little.
2007-02-14 11:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by (xerox-head) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her actions are not normal since you started doing all this stuff for her she thinks you will do it all the time what you need to is get out of that relationship and find someone who will not take advantage of you.
2007-02-14 11:15:47 · answer #8 · answered by somebodyssexygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Granted, this is your version of the story, so here goes.........
From your view point, it comes across as though she is taking advantage of you. The problem is, is that you are letting her.
Tell her how you feel. See if you can't compromise. If what you see is all you're going to get, then I would get going--- right out of her life.
2007-02-14 11:17:09 · answer #9 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe she is just using you for stuff she doesn't want to do herself. she figures that since you won't leave her alone then she will use you for what she needs and then leave you high and dry. just leave her alone for a while and when she asks you to do something tell her no. that is the only way she will ever learn
2007-02-14 11:19:48 · answer #10 · answered by Steelers Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋