My mother, 56, died a month ago. I am having a lot of spritual trouble now. How do I trust God again?

Question

I have prayed only a few times since we left my mother's casket at the cemetery and drove away.

How can I learn to trust God again? I feel abandoned.

Answer 1

I wandered in the wilderness 40 yrs. and God never abandoned me. My mother suffered and when God took her He eliminated her suffering. God loves us so much that He lets us suffer to strengthen us, but when suffering doesn't strengthen then He takes us. We serve a merciful God. Do you feel abandoned by God or your mother? God is right there with you waiting to comfort and help you go on in life without your mother. Ask God to make Himself known to you and strengthen your faith. Say increase my faith Lord and don't quit praying until He does. Sometimes God wants us to pursue Him. And He has a reason for it.

There is nothing wrong with grieving for your mother and it is very normal. Mothers are special people and God knows it. God made mothers special because He knew we needed them.

Answer 2

I think of it this way- There is a very specific reason for everything. If a person imagines that the main goal at the end of the day is to get as many people as possible to heaven, then you have to think of everything that happens, good or bad, as happening in order to get to that goal. For arguement's sake, think of it this way: Any person's death, at any point in time, via whatever means, will have an impact on the course of events around them and even across the globe. Someone reads about an early death in a newspaper and decides to change their life for the better. Someone experiences a loss, and through it grows more spiritual, makes a life decision, etc. Everyone HAS to die at some point in time, and no matter when they die, to those closest to them it will always feel like a betrayal, whether that person was 10 or 100.

I believe in God, and if you do too, the only thing to do is to trust Him, and go with the knowledge that He knows something we don't.

Answer 3

We have to understand that all people die. Some people die when they are children, some in their youth, and some at an old age, but no one is exempt from death. It is never a convenient time for someone we love to die, but that is because we live our lives without preparation of death. You can trust God to take you as well, when your time has come, and your friends and family will also grieve for you. If your mother died in a particularly harsh way, then you can look around and see that no matter who dies, it is harsh, some more than others. You have prayed only a few times, so who is doing the abandoning? How can you be comforted by God, if you won't speak to Him? It sounds as if you are angry with God for taking your mom. So, tell Him, He doesn't mind.

Answer 4

My sympathies and prayers are with you.

Nine years ago my Mother-in-law died, much to young, after a surgery gone bad. She was in a coma and the choice had to be made to let her go. I was just beginning my faith walk and it really threw me off. I was angry/sad/confused. How could God let that happen? Why did we all have to suffer like that? Answers like "things happen for a reason" and "God works in mysterious ways" were hollow and comfortless.

It took me three years of tears, frustration, and anger until one night I let it all out. I cried, I yelled, i questioned, but I talked to God. For the fist time I truly gave it all to Him. I couldn't do it anymore, keeping it in was too much. When I was done she was still gone but I had accepted that i didn't have to understand everything. I would be OK.

It has been a rough road at times but I have given my life to Christ.

About 2 years ago I was reading a book that said God will use our pain for good, even if we can't see it. Our suffering may help someone else come to God. I later found that the hospital she died at had changed its policies in part due to her death. And here I am now, trying to bring you some comfort, sharing my pain and loss to let you know that you are not alone.

Take the time you need, then give it all to God. He will be there waiting with open arms. God Bless you and your family.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry about your mother. I cannot even pretend that I have a satisfactory explanation for all you have been through. But I know that God is still on the throne. Tell Him how you feel through prayer. Look to him for comfort and healing. I know you are in intense pain, and the feelings you are having are normal. It will take time, Dear One. May God's peace be with you.

Answer 6

I call it by what it is "Spiritual Depression" but God offered this revelation.

It is spiritual because depression is a sickness of the mind, which affects the body, spirit, heart and mind and threatens the soul.

How can I learn to trust God again?

For when the mind of mankind is captured by darkness, it causes the fleshly mind to become disoriented and to operate in disorder and it is that disorder which leads to mistakes which are called sin.

Have faith in the grace of God. Admit that you need to change. Drop the rebellious attitude and get a teachable spirit.

Pray always (1 Thessalonians 5:17).

Keep seeking God through prayer.

Develop communion with the Holy Spirit more and more and then you will not be empty so as to leave openings in your life for evil spirits. Ephesians 5:18

Answer 7

God never leaves a person, It is the person leaving God, I am not saying you have left God, but Friend, Death is part of living, No one wants to lose a love one, I lost my dad when he was 51 yrs. old. I lost my Mother, I lost a Nieace, & I lost My first wife after 22 yrs. of marriage, & then 6 months later I lost my brother-in-law. Through it all God was with me, Yes, there was things I did not understand at the time, Like why did my wife had to die at age 37, Now God has given me a Sweat Good Christian wife, & we have been married for 16 yrs. & not one time have we argue about any scriptures, Grieving is a normal process, but God never leaves a person.

Answer 8

You know, God is like that understanding dad. Talk to Him about it. Bring out all your fears, doubts, misery and pain and bring it up to Him. Nag Him about this and He'll give you that comfort. He will bring you happiness. Your mom wouldn't like the fact that you don't trust God because of her right?:) God always catches our backs. Find the signs that show He does! Remember, you can't experience happiness if you don't experience sadness. The deeper and harsher the pain, the greater your joy will be once you find it again.:) Many people will be there for you. Jesus is ALWAYS there for you. You are never abandoned! The fact I'm making a "novel" answer shows I care and Jesus cares too!:) One day you'll find that smile through Him again.:)

Answer 9

First my prayers go out to you and your family over the lost of your mother. Second know that death isn't in God's hand. Satan wishes to steal, kill, and destroy. He loves to steal life from us. Know that God was with you from the beginning and He's with you now. Tell Him God I don't feel you and I don't hear you but the faith that I do have i you, your Word say you'll never leave me nor forsake me. Even Christ felt forsaken for a moment. He ask God why have you forsaken me. But now look, He's on the right hand of God. Please know that God has you in His hand, and if you pray for Him to strenghthen you, and love on you, He will!!! Go to God first believing that He can do all things but fail you. This is where religion gets out of the way and relationship comes . Be blessed!!

Answer 10

I am truly sorry for your loss.

I lost my dad this past Thanksgiving.

His body was worn out and his time had come, just as it will for all of us.

My dad was a good Christian man, with strong faith, and he was right with the Lord when he died.

That alone, made everything bearable, and is reason for hope.

John 12:24 Amen, amen, I say to you, unless the grain of wheat falling into the ground die,
John 12:25 Itself remaineth alone. But if it die it bringeth forth much fruit ...

Jesus gave us his own mom, for times like this. Perhaps it's time you got to know her.

John 19:25 Now there stood by the cross of Jesus, his mother and his mother's sister, Mary of Cleophas, and Mary Magdalen.
John 19:26 When Jesus therefore had seen his mother and the disciple standing whom he loved, he saith to his mother: Woman, behold thy son.
John 19:27 After that, he saith to the disciple: Behold thy mother. And from that hour, the disciple took her to his own.

God bless you.