should i be mad?

Question

i found out my mom and my 3 sisters when and seen my sister my mom gave away at birth without me. my family is all the time having get together and not tell me one yeah they had a fathers day dinner and they didnt tell me about it untill the next day this really started after my grandmother died. she is the one that rasied me. i have to call my family and ask about the holidays if i dont they wont tell me anything. i love my family and i love it when we all get together but i feel like they really dont think about me unless they can get something out of me being there. my sister that they went in seen knows nothing about me. should i be hurt or angry for them not calling me to see if i wanted to go meet her. i guess i have just put up this wall that it really dont bother me anymore that my family wants nothing to do with me. but it breaks my heart thay my mom has only seen my little girl a handful of times and she is 8 years old. i dont know what to do or say anymore

i have tried talking to them but they dont see that they are doing it. i really dont want to lose my family but i cant feeling like this my grandmother was the only one that ever made me feel like i was part of this family. i was 3 years old befire i ever meet my real mom and she has always faved my other sister and my brother and she didnt raise my older sister but she and all my other family (expect my grandmother) always made me feel that she was better than me my mom dont even call me and she has only been to like 3 of my kids birthday partys but she is in all of her grand kids life. my kid trys really hard to get my mom to be a part of her life.

i do want to be apart of all of there lives but i dont feel that i should have to beat it out of them to spend time with them. i have lived in my apartment for over a year now and my mom has never even been in it i just want us to go back to the way it was before my grandmother died

Answer 1

I think you've done more than enough! You have every right to be hurt and mad. You should try to build strong bonds with your daughter and let her know by your actions that you will never let her feel the way your mom makes you feel. My family does some of the same things because I chose not to be in their same religion. When I stopped calling them and trying to be accepted by them and just enjoyed my own kids and husband everything got better. We call each other and there's no hard feelings. Surround yourself with people who love you and you will always have family.

Answer 2

You should tell your family how you feel. Being angry at them is very taxing on an individual. It takes a lot of negative energy to stay mad at someone. It's always best to forgive and go on, but a very difficult thing to do if they keep doing the same things. You really should just tell them how you feel and ask that communications between you improve. That is, if you want a relationship with them.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I think that you need to sit down with all of them and tell them how they make you feel and tell them that if they want to be part of yor life they must always be there because you want your kids to have a stable family.

Answer 4

You need to get a spine and confront them. Tell them how you feel including how you love them and love being with them. See what that gets you, you may be surprised or you may want to stay away from them.