I have recently retired to give my full attention to raising this child because I felt working = getting up at 4 a.m = was not fair to him. I just didn't have the mental sharpness to keep up with him. I have found out, I still may not. Any advice would be appreciated.l
2007-02-14 02:46:28 · 12 answers · asked by painreliever4u 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
First of all and most important, don't spoil him!
Getting him into boy scouts and/or youth programs with the church, would help keep him active and out of trouble! Praise him when he does good and be firm when he is not! Kids need positive attention or they are more apt to get into trouble if that is the only attention they get.
Give him specific chores to do. Like keeping his room tidy and picking up after himself(you may have to remind him daily til he makes it a habit, he can take out the trash and clean up the yard.
Don't forget to give him lots of hugs and kisses and tell him you love him everyday!
I'm sure whatever reason it is that you are raising him, it is difficult for him, too!
Good luck to you! God Bless you for loving your grand child enough to raise him! You deserve a medal!
2007-02-14 03:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by Gramms 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I commend you on raising your grandson. It seems that these days grandparents are raising more and more grandchildren. I don't know excatly what advice you are looking for. I would suggest that you be firm but loving with him. Since I don't know what the problem is that's all I can say. Good luck to you! It must be hard knowing you raised your children and now you're doing it again. Doesn't seem fair to me.
2007-02-14 06:48:45 · answer #2 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made a very hard choice, I am 31 with two 9 year olds and haven't got energy enough to talk sometimes.......try to see about some programs that could give you a hand or break through the school, or even check with the county.... sometimes there are really good after school programs... you have your work cut out
2007-02-14 02:56:32 · answer #3 · answered by erin_foss8191@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a lot of love, give him your attention when he has something important to say. Support him in his school projects and things he likes to to do. Get him involved in sports....this helps keep kids on the straight and narrow. Give him choices that "you" can live with. Give him chores around the house with a reward system. Maybe an allowance. Hope this helps.
2007-02-14 04:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless you for taking on such a challenge. My parents are currently trying to get my sister's children, and they will be facing the same thing.
I would suggest that you plug into local parenting groups. The number of grandparents raising children is growing, so there might even be a local grandparents group. Get help! Don't try to do all alone.
2007-02-14 03:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just raise him the best you can and by the rules you did your own. Do not give in to demands that you did not with your own. Plenty of love and attention is what he needs and a loving home environment
2007-02-14 03:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you deserve to take a part time job or take on an activity for a few hours per week, to give yourself a break and to socialize with other adults.
As for the child - involve him in afterschool programs, sports teams, set up play dates (take turns with other parents and grandparents), nurture his interests, and involve other family members for additional support.
2007-02-14 03:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you'll do a great job! Just do it with love, and spend a lot of quality time together. Get to know him and let him open up to you.
Discipline of course is impt. But make it fun. Come up with meals you can cook that he likes. When he gets home have him do his hw and when you have dinner, turn off the tv and really get to know him.
Good luck.
2007-02-14 02:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by joy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh grandma- you have quite a job=I have a 9 yr old grand daughter- they can be quite a handful- structure is good- and snack after school- homework - chores- and hour of tv= reading- something to keep him busy= shoot baskets to burn off energy= we have a boys and girls club-but you have to be careful= how about boy scouts?? gives them direction- or a youth group at -church= hope that helps- God Bless you and yours=D
2007-02-14 02:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What subject are you looking for advice on? Not enough info..School work? Entertainment? Just do the best you can, no one can ask more of you
2007-02-14 02:51:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋