How can I tell my dad?

Question

I want to drop out of school, I really hate going to school, it's too hard, I go to college , but never did me any good, I'm not smart, even my mom and grandma, says that I'm not smart for college, I want to be a house wife, I told my boyfriend this and he said he want's me to go to school, he till want's to get married with me , and have kids, but I'm not smart to go to school. What should I do and how can I tell my dad?

I'm nineteen , and I always hated school.

Answer 1

First talk to your dad about it... don't just tell him what you are going to do. You need to have a plan first before you talk to him, by the way. Think it through and show him that you want to be as adult as possible about it. Try looking for an easy part time job so that your boyfriend doesn't think you just want to live off of his money. Make your own and stick some back for a rainy day. You need to think all of this through before you make a final decision, because this is life altering.

Answer 2

It may have nothing to do with smarts. Do you even like the course you're taking? I'd suggest going to school to learn something you really like. Maybe even try a trade school. If your Dad doesn't approve that's understandable but you're an adult (albeit young) and can make your own decisions. I personally think that not going to school or getting a trade is a big mistake. You never know what life will throw at you and it's always prudent to have a skill to fall back on. Being a house wife is all good and fine but things happen and you might have to earn a living by yourself at some point in your life. I wish you luck but reconsider going to school, I almost guarantee you'll regret it if you don't.

P.S. Your family is a real piece of work for telling you you're not smart enough for college. It's a load of bull, don't listen to it.

Answer 3

Being a housewife/mother is not an easy job. If you want to quit school/college then get a job, you may find that you can have a life before settling down. The majority of women find that they have to work even when they have a family and holding down a job and having to look after kids/husband and home is no picnic. The best way to tell your Dad is truthfully. Explain that you want to quit school but don't do it in the hope that your boyfriend will marry you and look after you. You don't say how long you have been together but he doesn't seem too keen to take you on at present. I don't know where you go to school but surely if you are not making the grades they wouldn't let you stay on at school. Perhaps you are smarter than you think. Speak to your Dad, get his advice and don't rely on someone else for your life.

Answer 4

I would advise you to stay in school. Being a housewife has its rewards too, but in the end, a college and high school degree will be better off in the long run. I hate to come off sounding like I'm downing all housewives, but if it was me, I would rather be both if I had my shot at it again.

You can still be a wife and mother, but at the same time, a career woman. The ultimate reward with that in the end is that once you're older and able to retire, you and your hubby can look
back and be proud of what you've accomplished. Together!
Your dad ony wants what's best for you and he has been around longer than you and may see you regretting leaving school on down the road. He also is wise enough to know that a degree will make you a lot more difference in life than if you were without one.

Just tell you dad how you feel. The worst that can come out of it is him getting mad at you. But its better to be honest than not be honest. In the end, again, pops only want s whats best for his little girl. GIve him a break and listen to what he may say. He may surprise you. Good luck!

Answer 5

Wow!! Your where abused!!! I'm sorry to hear that. But looks like your family has put in your head that you are not smart, we all are, you just need to find the subjects that interest you. First of all, you need help. I don't know your age, but if you are over 18, find a psychologist and spill your guts out. If you are under 18, go to your school counselor. You need to talk to a professional. Even though you want to be a house wife, it's a job on its own and therefore nowadays you will need to have a good education, it's just like another job.... besides, you may need it in the future you'll never know when you'll need it. .If you change your mind five years from now, are you going to be able to invest 4 years of your life after you started your family for education?

Answer 6

GO TO SCHOOL!!
What are you studying? Are you interested in that subject? If you want to be a house wife, then study home economics, take classes that will help you be a better wife and mother. Do not drop out!! Whatever you do you will need the classes you are taking. What if your husband dies? How will you support yourself. Marriage is not a bed of roses, it can be wonderful, but you need to help that partnership anyway you can. Find something you want to study and do well in it. Take a semester of classes that interest you. Talk to a guidance counselor. But stay in school. While you are single, you have that time to study and to better yourself. After you are married and the kids start coming, that time is no longer yours. It belongs to your house, kids, and husband. Just like his time belongs to your kids his job and you. What if you need a job later in you marriage? What kind of job can you expect on getting if you do not finish college? Be smart and stay in school!!!!!

Answer 7

You need to have a higher self image of yourself. You are smart. Give yourself some credit. Maybe your mom is continuing a vicious cycle she went through with her own mom. Sometimes the people you couldn't even imagine being jealous of you; is. Your mom may wants you to stay away from college because she fears that if you did go and finish college; you may not need her anymore if you do better and get farther ahead in life than she did. So she tells you, you aren't smart enough to continue with a higher level of education, because she knows you will believe it. If your dad wants you to continue your education, you have a great dad as well. He sees more in you than your mom, your grand mother, and you; put together.

Answer 8

What kind of an example will you be setting for any future kids you have? If something is hard, quit? If you are having a hard time then cut down on courses or get tutoring, get counseling but it seems to me you are looking at being a house wife as an easy solution and it's not. An at home mom is one of the most stressful jobs there is! How r u going to give your kids the best future possible? If you have no degree you won't get a decent job and they will suffer, please think of your future!

Answer 9

You know what Forget those who tell you that you ain't smart for collage and PROVE THEM WRONG. The best thing you can do is show your dad that you can make it so that he can be proud of you.

I kinda know how you feel cuz I'm in High School and I feel dumb but I just can't wait till i leave school. But one thing I know for sure is that I Will get my Diploma and go to collage no matter how long it takes.
If you think about it now in day you can't get a good job unless you have a degree.
You can do it and I'll be PRAYIN for You.
May GOD Guide Ur Path>>>

Answer 10

We are all good at something - whether it is acadamic or not. Being smart is an awareness of what is going on in the world, and using common sense. Stay at school - you don't have that much time to go. Find what you are good at, and what you enjoy and go from there. Don't let anyone make you believe you are not smart. Academics are not always practical!

Answer 11

Talk to the school/college counsellor or careers advisor and then find a vocational qualification to take instead of an academic one - practical qualifications will hold you in good stead in the future if you are really not cut out to do academic studies.

You are far too young to give up on your education entirely and will definitely regret it later in life if you stop now - make the most of your opportunities.