I am sooooo upset!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

My dad went to pick up my 2 yrs old baby at daycare and her arm was totally scratched up... They told him it seemed like a rash, which was obviously not... It seemed like the kid who did it had all the time in the world to tear it up...there were scratches left and right and nooow today the dc director is saying she mightve fallen outside and scratched it...It doesnt look like that...they look like scratch marks...Im so pissed!... How do I fight that...I guess I wont be able to prove it, but it's not fair since the baby cant tell me who it was!!! I know I need to talk to the director cause I think they shouldve noticed this happening and not try to cover it saying it was a rash... !! Do have any other ideas of what I can tell her or ask her?? These were obviously not "branch" scratches and I dont they should EVEN be playing with branches outside... This is one of the best daycares in town and I pay good money but just the way the director is trying to cover the teacher enfuriating

Answer 1

First in responce to what another parent said that a 2 year old can remember colors, etc....not all 2 year olds can! My daughter is 2 1/2 and she only sometimes gets colors right. So even though she can make 5 word sentances, I can't be sure that she could tell me something like "mommy billy hurt my arm". Parents should not assume that just because their children can do something, so can everyone else's. SEcondly definately take pictures of the marks, maybe even write up a little "report" on the incident, I would, and then calmly explain to the day care that you are very disappointed that this happened and that you expect your child will be cared for better considering what you pay. Calming explain that you expect to be notified of injuries whiether they are caused by natural kid wildness or because they were hurt by another child, and that you should not need to ask about injuries and then get 2 different stories. Tell them if it happens again your child will be taken to a medical professional right away, the injuries will be documented and if the doctor gives you a different cause then what the day care gave, that you will be complaining to the board that gives licenses for day cares. The point is that no matter how mad you are be calm.....blowing up won't help they might even care for your child worse if you do.

Answer 2

You are absolutely right, they should not be playing with anything that can cause scratches like that - so even if the director is covering for a teacher, the teacher is looking bad for letting a two-year-old play with something dangerous. After all, if baby had come from home with these marks, wouldn't they be calling the authorities?

You need to make sure that you are calm when you go in there. If you raise your voice or lose your temper, they are going to look at you as an upset mother - and belittle your concerns.

Take a picture of your child's arm. It would be good to have the visual reference there when you are talking about it.
Talk about your concern for safety - no matter what is true, the fact is that a child in their care was hurt, and that is unacceptable.
Are you prepared to remove your child from the program? If not, then ask that the incident be recorded, but don't push too far.

Finally, decide what you would like to see happen as a result of this incident. Are you looking for an appology? For a promise of increased supervision? Someone to lose their job over this? Once you decide what you feel would be appropriate, then you should communicate this to the director (and her supervisor or board of directors if needed).

Just make sure that you stay cool, approach this with a goal in mind, and don't let them write you off as an irrational or irate parent.

Answer 3

A 2 year old should be able to answer the question "what happened to your arm?". Don't ask her a loaded question that she can say yes or no to, like "did someone hurt you there or scratch you there" because I guarantee you she will probably say yes.
Kids do get hurt playing and even get hurt by other children. She may not be trying to cover anything up and may genuinely think it is from playing outside. My kids were constantly scratched and bruised from playing outside. It happens. Talk to her CALMLY and ask her to watch her closely to make sure another child is not hurting her. She may have even scratched herself if she had bites or a rash that was itchy which would confuse the look of the rash from her clawing at it. This sounds like your first child and we are always more overprotective of our first child. Calm down and investigate and if you find she's being neglected at daycare then it's not the best daycare.

Answer 4

I can fully understand you feeling like this. First, before you go off on anyone at the center, watch your child to see if she is scratching it at all. If she isnt, then you can probably assume that it isnt a rash. Then approach the Director of the center and say that you are not happy with these scratches and she should be more supervised to prevent this in the future. Good luck.

Answer 5

First you need to take a picture of the scratches so you will have proof. next take her to the doctor and ask them what could have caused the scratches that way you will have it on her record in case this happens again. I think that if another kid did it and got away with it it could happen again. I would keep an eye on her and see if anything else happens.

Hope you have luck finding out what happened.
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Answer 6

Sorry to say, but evidently it is NOT one of the best in town if the staff would try to cover up something like that. I have a 3-year-old daughter and I just started putting her in daycare a few months ago, so I know how you feel. In my opinion, any type of injury -- broken skin -- should always be reported to you or whoever picks her up, without you having to ASK about it. Not even a month in, my daughter came home one day with a scratch starting above her eye and ending below it! Poor thing, she looked like a jack-o-lantern. And, like you, one of my parents picks her up in the evenings because of my job hours, so it's too late to go on questioning it days later. Everyone acts like they don't know what's wrong. BUT I guarantee if you start questioning details like that and let them know you're not going to tolerate that, they will be a little more attentive (which is ridiculous to say, since that is what we are SUPPOSEDLY paying them to do anyway, but I digress...).

You're right, there's no 'fighting' it, but I would definitely make sure to speak up to her teacher AND the director. Don't be accusatory. Acknowledge that you realize that toddlers are quick and no one can see every single thing every 2- and 3-year-old does in that environment. Also, ask if they are noticing any trends in behavior of any of the other kids, including yours (read: trying to be diplomatic) with things like hitting, biting, pushing, etc.

I truly empathize with you on this. Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

i understand where your coming from keep in mind your own child could have scratched herself. my son has done this. the area itches so he scratches it and leaves little nail marks everywhere. go in and CALMLY AND I MEAN CALMLY talk to this teacher screaming and yelling at her will prove nothing except how immature and ill mannered you are. someone should have seen something but it happens 20 kids and two adults things get missed. talk to the school and see if you can find out and ask your child. 2 is no longer a baby they are able to tell you who hurt them and where ask your child. even if you have to do it at school with all kids present your child can and should be able to point to the child that is doing this if not you need to stop babying your child. so they can mature. a 2 year old can speak in short sentences and learn to use the toilet they remember names numbers colors and shapes so i find it hard to believe you child cant say stephen scratched me. my son could at that age and did

Answer 8

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Answer 9

my daughters not in daycare, so as far as the incident i don't have much to say with that. but everyone say'n a 2 year old should be able to tell you what happened is quite rude. my daughter is 3 and has a speech delay, so it would be a toss up as to whether or not she would be able to say exactly what happened. so don't let people tell you what your daughter "should" be able to do.

Answer 10

I'd be switching daycares.They should have more then one person watching little kids like that.Or I remember when I was in daycare they did.They had about 3 people at least.