Real family problems, please help?

Question

I'm getting so sick how my family is treating me, my sister beats me and threat me if I dont clean her room and cook for her, and she a lazy a** and she wont get off her fat a** to cook or clean for herself, my mom takes drugs , when she promise she'll do something for me, she get's high , and for gets, and before I went to my aunt's house to visit her, my mom yelled at me, cause I wouldn't hind the drugs from my dad, she said she was going to take my cat away from me and put it to sleep and she did, my dad is a jerk , who cant do things for himself, I have to be the one that always cookes and cleans for everybody , I always have to make everybody happy before me, I dont mind helping out , but they dont really love me, they are always nice to me , when they want me to do something for them , I'm sick of it, everyday I wish I was dead , cause the way they treat me, The only reason I live is my cat JJ and my boyfriend. What should I do to tell my family I hate them , and how they treat.

How they treat me,it's like, Do that , do this , please do this for me, I'm sick of it, they never do anything for me.

I cry at night and wish , I wouldn't wake up>

Answer 1

The crucial bit of information is missing: how old are you?

If you are an adult, then I would say get out of there as quickly as possible. If you are not an adult, and you are in the UK, ring childline.

Answer 2

First off, have you explained to your family how they are making you feel? Some people can change if they are cornered and realize what they are doing is wrong. However, there are many people who will not even bother to make an effort. You need to evaluate what is really going on. I do not know you or your whole situation so I am going to tell you my personal experience. You should try going through your school counsellors, they will try to help you. Many schools can recommend things such as family couselling, etc. If your mom has a drug problem she should be treated for it. And your sister should get counseling and anger-management. No one should have to deal with abuse (I went through it at home when I was young and it took me a long time to see that it was not an occasional spanking or a slap when I was bad, it was serious physical abuse). It doesn't sound like you are getting physically abused by your parents, but regardless, this is still a serious issue. Talk to your school counsellors and go from there...they will give you advise or send you to someone that can help if they feel it is out of their control.

Answer 3

I see from one of your previous questions that you are 19yrs old.I also saw that you said that you are in college and want to drop out because you want to get married and become a housewife and there is nothing wrong with being a housewife that is what i am but until you do get married and have children why don't you further your education.Being that you are 19 and you say how bad your family is i can't help but wonder why you don't get a job and move out.You have the power to change your situation.You need to get couseling because of the situation that you are in your family has obviously caused you to have low self esteem the fact that you say you don't want to wake up in the morning is a huge red flag.You also say that you have a boyfriend that you care for very much why is he not trying to help you with your situation.At your age you need to get out on your own and stop allowing your family to bring you down you are not a child and you can change the situation it would be a different story if you were a minor but you are not you are an adult and you need to take control of your life..Only you can change your life you are the one in control of your happiness or sorrow...If you don't want to be like your parents then you need to brake the cycle and make the change you can do anything that you set your mind to ..Good Luck to you..

Answer 4

Wow! Please don't ever wish you won't wake up. There are things to live for...JJ and the rest of us out here that actually care. Keep yourself on the straight and narrow, don't use drugs and call for help. There are families out there that are willing to take you in and show you the true meaning of family love and support. Find the number for a support home or something and get yourself into a family or place where you will be positively challenged instead of negativeley weakened.

Answer 5

y dont u ring a support group who can help u like the good samaritans. they shud be able to help u. i looked thru the phone book 4 u and if ur unda 18 u cud ring childline 4 free on 08001111, the samaritans no. is 08457909090, and i thought u cud just escape with ur boyfriend and ur cat and go away from them.if u have trouble finding accomodation u cud ring shelterline which is also freefone on 08088004444. hope ive been any help to u. u dont need to put up with this crap. get out of there. good luck.

Answer 6

i know how you feel. my sister and my brother used to gang up on me, it got really bad at one stage as they were leaving me with broken bones, black eyes and wishing i were dead, my step dad tried running me over once and my mum never used to believe anything i said she never used to do anything for herself and she would have me grounded all the time just so i would clean the house or walk the dog. my mum was so lazy she even trained the family dog to fetch her fags if she couldnt reach... it got to the point of my running away all the time. it started where i'd go missing for a few hours then a night till it got to the point where i was a missing person for 2 and a half months. when i was found social services got involved and took me into care. i thought this was the easy option out but it turns out not to be. as i turned 18 social servies left me homeless for 9 months and a year on im 19 and still struggling. nobodys family life is perfect but just remember the grass isnt always greener on the other side of the fence. you need to talk to the family as a family tell how you feel and tell them that your not there to do everything for them... it might not be easy but i wish it was the option i took... i hope this helps and be strong!!!!

Answer 7

Try asking your boyfriend for help and take your cat with you. That's really sad and low of your family to do that to you =[. I REALLY SUGGEST going to a friend or relative that isn't like them or the police and tell them about this. I know you don't want to hear a answer like this but it's the truth. Don't wish you were dead for stupid people like that. I think you should set this up with the police and have them see the kind of abuse that you go through.

Answer 8

Until your family gets some counselling, it will continue to be this way as you seem to be the only normal one there. If you have relatives you could live with that is also an option. Dont' hide the drugs from your dad. Let him see what is going on, it's not your fault. You don't have to take this abuse, talk to social services if you need help to get out of there.

Answer 9

You sound to me like a kid who knows your own mind, what you want & don't want. I would recommend that you go to a street where there are shops & look for a solicitor - just go in & ask for a free 1/2 hour consultation. Tell the solicitor you want to have your own solicitor, because you wish to put yourself into a decent care home to get away from the abuse you are suffering.
That way, you wont be fobbed off by an inexperienced, over-worked social worker. I would refuse to go back home. I would explain in detail how you feel i.e. how unhappy you are, to get them to fully understand your situation.

You should live for yourself & not be willing to cease living because bullies make you feel so down... You need to be much stronger in your resolve, not only to survive but to get improvments in your life. Sometimes, we need to "fight" for those. That takes courage but I suspect you have that, you just lack support...
so get that support, OK?

Don't keep suffering in silence & DON'T tell anyone where you live that you are going to get some help by TALKING to the professionals that are there to help you! Just remove yourself from that situation as soon as possible & as SAFELY as you can.
I wish you Good luck & God Bless YOU XX

Answer 10

Aww. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate. I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I get so angry at parents who feel their duties to their children stop at birth. I don't know how old you are, but I would advise you to leave and live your own life when it's convenient to do so. If you can't make them realise they're behaving irresponsibly, then they don't deserve to have someone like you in their lives. I know it's hard to leave family and this may require you to be bolder than you may have been in the past, but everyone has their limits. Continuing like this indefinitely will only stunt your own personal development. Yes, adversity can (and does) make you stronger, but you seem like you've got your 'head on your shoulders'. Thank your family for the lesson and move on with your life. Please don't carry on suffering like this.

Answer 11

your family dont sound like very nice people at all, they shouldnt treat you like that, its unfair. My family treated me like that too so i put up with it for many years. One day i was so sick i decided to talk to the only person who listened to me and that was my cousin. She helped me though it by giving me a shoulder to cry on! I decided the best thing to do was get my own place...it can be difficult but its worth a try! Im glad youve got a boyfriend and i hope he supports you and helps you with whatever route you choose