So this man that i have been friends with benefits for the last 5 months is starting to act really werid.. i try to talk to him, and i asked him if he still wanted to continue with the relationship and he won't say anything. He told me that he likes to think things over before he makes a decision but i just want answers and he won't give them to me. In the beginning of jan i found out that he actually had been in a serious relationship the whole time but didn't tell me.. I found out because some else told me.. ever since i did find out, he has been acting completly opposite from before. We barely talk, didn't see each other for a month, ect. It has been really hard for me because i care for him, but knowing that he is going home to someone else hurts. and i haven't seen anyone since the beginning. I don't want to play his games if he isn't interested anymore, but he won't tell me anything!! what do i do???
2007-02-14 02:20:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want a serious relationship with him, i just want the sex, but should i stay??
2007-02-14 02:21:05 · update #1
Oh my gosh!! Get the heck out of there! Do not call him...do not think about him...do nothing that has to do with him!! This just disgusts me!! Sorry...but you must hear the truth! You should never ever lower yourself to be second in any mans llife! You are way better than that and do not deserve that! That is gross and you just let him walk on you like that?! Just forget about him seriously! Should you still have sex with him? Hell nooooo!! Unless you want that disease the other girl has...or if you want her juices in you cuz he just got back from her house! That id just sick! Do not be so low...for real! For nobody...no matter how much you love them!! Men like to play games...and they are very childish..but games like your guy is playing are just flat out unsubstantial!! Please please do not let him do that to you! He's treating you like **** by not caring about your feelings! Or your health for that matter! You could get a serious disease from his stupid actions!!
Good Luck to you girl! I hope I've influenced you in some way! I've been there, trust me!
2007-02-14 02:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously got attached in a way that was beyond the parameters of what a friend with benefits is supposed to be. He said he didn't want to complicate things between u two and he said he didn't want to upset you. If you really like him as a friend, just be a friend. If you can't just be friends, and you want more and he doesn't than you can't be friends. If you're going to be friends with benefits the sex part is meant to be unattached/unemotionally committed sex. You obviously latched on and wanted more. That prolly made him push back from the 'with benefits' part. He seems to still be open to being friends. Be honest with your feelings. He should have been upfront with you yes, but you have understood more fully the terms between two people in these types of arrangements. Most people really just can't be friends with benefits. You seem like you do want something more. So if you can't handle the casualness, hold out and find someone who will want to work on something more with you with both of you on that same understanding.
2016-05-23 22:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
should u stay
u should wake up and smell the fcuking coffee u know he has someone else why the fcuk would u want to be branded as a slapper
grow up u want him in a relationship cause if u didnt u wouldnt be here
go find a man not a boy
and trust me its worth getting reported for u need to wake up girl
2007-02-14 02:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If youve tried everything and he still wont tell you, hes wasting your time if the time is killing you. Think about it, your worrying about him when if hes hurting your feeling while you wait like forever when you could have been out with friends. I need more info on this so I can help. because Ive kinda been in the same prob but I need more details^^..myspace.com/amethystnightx.
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2007-02-14 02:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki.[mmk]. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you just want the sex, then what is the problem? If you can't bare to think that he is going home to another women, then perhaps you like this guy more than you say.
2007-02-14 02:26:21 · answer #5 · answered by nshappe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea most people have a word for someone that sleeps with someone else knowing they are in a relationship, it rhymes with shore. Come on lady get a clue and a lil integrity.
2007-02-14 02:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by boxerslive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants to move on
2007-02-14 02:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's your problem, you're not supposed to care for a friend with benefits.
2007-02-14 02:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by B2B2008 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're a mistress, deal with it, that's what you wanted to be.
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Or... you could grow some self-respect and get out.
2007-02-14 02:26:37 · answer #9 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well find another guy to play games with, thats easy enough to do.
2007-02-14 02:30:44 · answer #10 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋