Is he interested?

Question

I recently began talking with someone and it seems as if we instantly became friends, he flirts with me asking me out but due to past relationship pain I am quite hesitant. He never pushes me, he said he's waiting around for me, problem is his ex girlfriend whom is married constantly flirts with him he says it's nothing but it doesn't feel that way at times. Last night I finally opened up about my past with him and after waiting for him to say goodbye he sat there talking with me, what I really need to know is how can I decipher the difference between him being kind as a friend and him being kind due to honestly wanting to be with me. He hints about me as his girlfriend and his family knows about me but still..I'm terrified of getting led on, again.
All answers are welcomed, Valentines Day being today is just adding more confusion.

First off, I want to say an immense thanks for everyone whom answered so quickly it is appreciated. May you each have a safe and blessed Valentines Day. Your answers have assisted me more than I could have asked for. : )

Answer 1

This guy sounds genuine and I think he deserves a chance. He has shown patience and undestanding and has not put any pressure on you. So why not just tell him that you are willing to give it a try but ask him to continue to be patient. If he is a decent guy, he will respect your wishes and help you overcome the trauma of your past relationship.
Be inspired by this quote: Work like you don't need the money, love like you have never been hurt before and dance like you do when no-one is watching.

Answer 2

Relationships are so easy. At least that's my take on it. I give a lot of no-nonsense advice, so if that's what you want, read on. If not, move on past me.
Many people get badly hurt in relationships. I've been there, you have, and I'm sure millions upon millions of others have too. But if you ever want to be completely happy in a meaningful and fulfilling relationship, you need to take that pain and confusion and put it where? Back there. You need to understand what did and did not work in your previous relationship(s), and what you can do differently in the future to prevent those same issues. Sometimes the issues were your fault. Sometimes they were his fault. You can correct what you've done wrong in the past, and you now possess better tools (common sense, warning signs, etc) that help you identify who is going to do you wrong if given the chance.
Love is a risk, hate to say it. Sometimes you have to take it. In the world of dating, it's go hard or go home. And if you're the type of person (as many of us are) that needs and wants that true love relationship to feel complete in your life, you better go hard. The longer you mope around and fear trying something new, the longer you'll be stuck on stupid. Go slow, be honest(!!!), and above all else, allow yourself to fall in love if the person feels right.
Good luck!

Answer 3

I have always felt it is better to build a friendship with a woman first then date. This way you have a trust. As far as his ex flirting with him, so what, you can do the same with other guys and see how he reacts. Just remember if you start dating him and he flirts with others, you have him they don't. I guess my problem is I am not the jealous type. As far as your past relationship, just remember you are the winner your ex is the looser. As long as you have you what can go wrong. As far as V day, let's all take a whiz on it. V day is just another get stores and flower shops rich day

Answer 4

Trust me he's interested. He's probably the type of guy where when he finds out that a girl likes him hes been around her some much that he doesn't know how to act. So the way hes acting is normal. Just ease up a little your making it seem worse then it really is. IF he likes you the way he acts like he does, then he'll tell you how he feels. Then again with some guys you have to sit them down and tell them wats on your mind. You have to say I like you and I think that you like me so can you please tell me wats going on because I don't want to be let on again. Sometimes guys react better if you tell them straight up.

Answer 5

He likes you too.

He has issues and his past - probably hurt badly by his ex gf but is trying to move on.

He flirts with you. He wants to be more than just friends. But he is hesitant too, because he doesn't want you to hurt him.

Tell him you don't want to hurt him - tell him you're afraid of being hurt by him.

Ask him to go slow.

See how things turn out.

Answer 6

I believe he is definetly interested. A guy once told me "Guys don't have girls as 'friends' unless they're ugly and like sports". So take a chance, sounds like the beginning of a good thing. Good luck.

Answer 7

Wow... that's a tough question, especially after you've been hurt before AND his married ex-girlfriend flirts with him? I don't know, but go for it! You've learned your mistakes before, so be careful with him. But it's V's day, so take a gamble.

Anyways, Happy Valentine's Day!

Answer 8

Give him a chance he sounds like a nice guy! You need to get out there and date again. I know it sucks at times but in the end it will make you a stronger person. And who knows this guy could be your "the one".

Answer 9

Snore

Answer 10

have fun, you learn through experience, and so this guy and teach you a few things, maybe. Think of it this way, You're going to do what you want to do, because YOU want to do it, not anyone forcing you.