My neighbors across the street are really great people, and they invited us to their son's 3rd birthday "bash" last summer (had loads of people there). Why I am wondering if I should or not is because my son is turning 6 and he aready has 10 children from his class at school that are definately going to come (plus their parents) and I only have a 6-person dining table and a fold up card table that seats 4. The parents will either have to stand in the kitchen or sit in the livingroom. My house is 1400 sq. feet and without the neighbors coming will still have amost 30 people in it. Then if I do invite those neighbors, the neighbors on the right side of us are going to know and get their feelings hurt possibly. You see how I am? I just worry about everything. I can't afford to invite half the block, so my husband says don't worry about inviting the neighbors, just stick to the guest list of kids from school. Do you think he's right? I'm a basketcase. lol
2007-02-14 02:05:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
We can't have a backyard party, it's 20 degrees outside and going to snow.
2007-02-14 02:26:26 · update #1
Actually, I'm an Aquarius (Feb 6)
2007-02-14 12:30:41 · update #2
I read your question and thought, OMG, she sounds JUST like me and then I saw the reply from Tapestry6 and it got me thinking... Hmmm, I'm a Libra, is there really some truth in all of that? LOL!
Well, I just had my sons birthday (2nd) party this past weekend. Actually, I got so nervous about the house being overcrowded that I ended up doing 2 separate parties, 1 on Saturday (family) and one on Sunday (daycare, friends, neighbors, etc).
I wouldn't worry about the seating issue, if your house is open and you can open up some of the other bedroom doors so people can move in there to talk, that would be okay. I would say, depending on how many people are to the right of you, I would go ahead and invite the boy across the street (that's only right b/c they invited your son) and (unless they have 4 or more kids), the neighbors to your right also, but only if you are close to them.
For my son's first birthday, I was worried about overwhelming him and my house being too full so I left a lot of people off of the guest list...... I'm still hearing about it from them today. I know it's hard but try not to worry, it will all work out and fall into place. Have fun!!!
2007-02-14 03:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a finished and furnished basement? Maybe some of the people can go down there. Your neighbors will definitely feel slighted. Maybe you can ask one of your neighbors if they have an extra fold up table and chairs. Good Luck what ever you decided to do!!! P.S. You could also tell the neighbors to just send the children over, they don't necessarily have to be there, that will give them a break. Tell them that you will make sure they get back in the house safely.
2007-02-14 03:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usally have this dilema myself.... Go ahead and give the invite......if you don't there may be feelings hurt anyway..... plop the kids around the table ( after all the party isn't for the folks anyway) you'll see that once cake ( or whatever ) is over, the kiddies will be to busy to sit, then the folks can take a seat...... just a suggestion....... you'll see that you are worried for nothing, it will work out...... kids don't care about the sitch, patrents don't usually either.....I never really understood why the parents come to these things anyway......
2007-02-14 02:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by erin_foss8191@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't invite them because you only want people at a party that you like not people you feel you should invite or feel you have to. The step kids yes if they say no fine if their mother doesn't want them to go then respect her wishes.
2016-05-23 22:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd invite them- but I'm a lot like you. Is there a possibility of having a backyard party? (I mean, you have to live by your neighbors- of course you want them to like you!) Most of the time, you'll have some kids not show up anyways. I wish more people worried about their neighbors like you do.
2007-02-14 02:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by Kara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if they invited you to their kids party you should invite them. Explain to the neighbors that you are closet to that the reason why you cant invite them all is because of finances. I would if money was a serious cocern explain to the neighbors that you would love to invite their kids (children don't understand finances, they will just be hurt because they weren't invited) but can't invite the adults. Hopefully they'll understand that not everyone has money like they do
2007-02-14 02:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be a libra you worry too much :)
You invite who you want.. you might tell your neighbors you got a houseful of people coming for your son's party and if they want to stop dont' hesitate but I betcha they will have other plans when they find out the load your allready carrying.
2007-02-14 02:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just stick to the list of RSVP's,and at the end of the party send cake and ice cream to the neighbors!
2007-02-14 02:15:09 · answer #8 · answered by ♥xvioletx1882♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that the party will be for older kids and they might rough-house and their son could be hurt, but save him a piece of cake.
2007-02-14 02:47:02 · answer #9 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, listen to your husband. I'm sure the neighbors aren't that keen to attend anyway.
2007-02-14 07:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋