i have been wid this boy for about 2 weeks and im fine when i am talkin to him over msn messenger and texting but when i come face to face with him he is very diffrent...he can be quite nasty to other people and i feel quite sorry for them also he is quite rude and im not sure if i like his personality...i dont want to finish with him but i might just wait and see how it goes but i feel quite mean finishing it! what shall i do?
2007-02-14 01:59:32 · 31 answers · asked by lou lou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FINISH WITH HIM! If you can see that mean streak already, then it means he has a bad personality and he'll be just as mean to you if you get involved with him. At first, he'll be sweet but he'll turn on you like a dog with rabies as soon as you disagree on things. FINISH WITH HIM! Otherwise, you're letting yourself in for some pain and heartbreak.
2007-02-14 02:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him, tell him what you find offensive (his rude behavior etc).
he may not realize how rude and abnoxious hi is.
tell him you like him but his behaviour to others is offputting and if he does not change his ways you will have no choice but to leave him.
to be honest if you don't like his personality WHY are you with him?
if it is based on his looks looks fade, all that is left is personality.
so think long and hard about what you want from your life. and if you respect and value yourself you will not be with this guy who from what has been said here is clearly an obnoxious freak (to be blunt).
remember though it could just be how he has been brought up by his family and may not think that he is doing anything wrong.
talking it out is going to be the best for the both of you if you want to work this problem out.
if you do not take action now he will only get worse and one day that abuse may be directed at or towards you. the sooner it gets resolved the better.
good luck, keep warm and keep safe!
2007-02-14 10:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken0909 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line it. If he is rude to people and you don't like it... say so. See what he says, ask him to stop. If you can't ask in person, do so in msn. Online, we are all a little different. If you want just an online relationship, fine, have that. Now, if you want an in person relationship, quality over quantity of friends is best. Have standards. If he does not make the cut, cut him loose. It will hurt, but you will improve your self esteem by being honest with yourself. If he wants to stay around, he will stop being rude.
2007-02-14 10:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by GA-Seagull 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably being his real self when you see him face to face. It is easy to hide things over msn messenger, and texts. It is hard to fake it face to face. If I were you I would walk away before his nasty streak turns on you.. It obviously makes you feel uncomfortable.. You feel mean finishing it, why? Perhaps if he is so mean to everyone else, this is just whats gone around coming back to bite him. This could be what he deserves huh? x
2007-02-14 10:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by Sophie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its difficult to advise on this one. You certainly have to have your friends and also socilise with other people. You don't want to have a bf who is rude to other people, do you?
He probably feel insecured. May be he needs a good job, or something to make him confident and secured.
I do not think he has grawn up yet, and therefore he may not be the right person for you now. Give it time and see how it develope. If he continues with this behaviour then get rid off him and find the suitable person for you.
All the best!/
2007-02-14 10:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey. well i think that you should end it with him because if you don't like who he is being then you shouldn't stay with him cause you might be giving him the impression that you like how mean he is. so if i were you, i would let it go. there are a lot of guys out there, who are much better. so don't waste your time, get moving cause life is to short. find someone who you feel comfortable with and enjoy spending time with because your conversations over texting and messenger, aren't going to be enough and you might regret it later. good luck and follow your instincts.
2007-02-14 10:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by latina ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This prblem is he is clearly two faced, life is about being part of a network that you're happy with. This metaphorical network has to expand with maturity, but if one part is incompatable with all the other parts then the network will fail. If I had a computer network and one of the key components was incompatible then I would replace that part with another that was compatible.
2007-02-14 10:27:44 · answer #7 · answered by Think Tank 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hang around a rude boy, then everyone will associate you with him and they'll think you are rude too! He needs to treat other people good and treat you good too! It really doesn't sound like this boy is a good influence. If you keep him, then he will wind up offending your friends and family and you'll lose them. It's easier to get rid of him, rather then lose your friends and family!
Cheers
2007-02-14 10:05:29 · answer #8 · answered by Daft One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with him and see what it is. it may just be a thing that he does with his friends. Me and my boys talk about each others moms and can say the most disrespectful things but it doesn't mean anything because we are not saying it to hurt each other but for fun. I also do it to my girlfriend but she talked to me and I'm calming it down from being nasty to her. So just talk to him and if he doesn't change then slowly fade away.
2007-02-14 10:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by nickmesa2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok he could be nervous maybe. When you chat to him online again ask him why he was like that or is that how he normally reacts in public. If you like him tell him you'll help him because it
is not nice to treat people like that.
Anyway just encourage him and he'll turn into a better person thanks to you! I have helped people many times like that.
Good Luck
2007-02-14 10:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by Superman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋