why are todays children so dis respectful to their parents?

Question

my youngest son acts like he is the father of the house and shouts at the top of his voice

Answer 1

Seriously, it is because parents do not provide enough discipline any more. I remember when I was growing up, whenever I acted up, I could expect to be punished (or worse yet spanked).

Nowadays, parents seem to be too busy or too soft when it comes to discipline. Parents are afraid to say No when ever a kid asks for something (X box, car, etc.). These kids grow accustomed to getting what they want and think they run things.

Answer 2

I believe it has to do with the system. Now adays children know that if you try to discipline them they can call the authorities. But, what the children don't realize is that they do not take the parent away they take the child. Children today are very demanding because they know the parent does not want them to call the authorities. For example, I have a friend who's child was misbehaving and was spanked and call the authorities. After the second time my friend just started giving in. The child is mean to his parent and does not do what he is told and the child demands that his parent allow him to do what ever he wants and he does.

I am 54 y/o and am the oldest of 7 children. My parents loved all of us and each other. We got disciplined when we were younger such as grounded/smack on the bottom. We got the point. My parents set good examples and put us on the right track. None of us have been in jail or even arrested. None of us have had any problems with drugs. We all have decent jobs now and pay our way in this world. Three of us even served our country.

It is about time that the parents laid down the law to the children. They need to set boundaries and learn how to say NO to the kids.

Answer 3

It is because you are not firm enough in your discipline. Many people do not understand what discipline really means. It has nothing to do with yelling, screaming, spanking or being mean.

It simply means consequences for behavior and enforcing proper behavior. You do not need to resort to any theatrics or threats to discipline. (which is why some people are afraid of discipline, they associate it with the army or with being mean)

You simply do not tolerate any unacceptable behavior. This has to start early too. Young toddlers can be physcially stopped from doing what they are not allowed to do, with an older child, it becomes a lot more difficult.
Kids also know your limits and know when you are about to give in.
The other major problem is inconsistency. If one parent says one thing, they both have to follow through with it.
Children are a challenge, and you do need to be tough. But if you get them used to "no means no" they usually stop challenging you after a while because they know they can't win and that what you say goes because you are in charge.
whatever you do, make sure everyone in the household is in agreement on how you will handle different behaviors.
Good luck

Answer 4

Some are dis respectful because the parents allow there children to act up and give in to shut the kid up. It is harder to say no. There are no punishments sending a kid to his/her room with TV, DVDs, games, etc is not a time out. If your youngest son is acting like that you need to put a stop to it because it will only get worse.

Answer 5

Does anybody in your house talk loudly or with disrespect to another person? If yes, stop it.
Is your spouse a bully or wants his way and nothing else will do?Ask him /her to change for the sake of your son. It is quite a possibility that your spouse has been a pampered child.
Are you forcing your likes , dislikes , opinions on your son?Dont. Let him decide and learn from his mistakes.If at all you need to tell him something explain it to him as though he is a grown up.He'll do what you want him to. Last but not least dont nag the kid and dont forget to treat him like an adult with respect in front of his friends. Watch the changes take place slowly but surely. He 'll grow into a better and understanding humanbeing.

Answer 6

There are various reasons for this type of behaviour among the youngesters in our society.We have dwell on the subject very carefully and with precauction.Let us see a few reasons---

1) Pampering- a child whether male or female,if has grandparents
he/she is definatley pampered and if being the first much more.
The parents have to be very careful in bringing up their children
otherwise they may not listen to them.

2)Parents should not scummb to all the desires of their child if they really want them to become good people tomrrow.Give them some leverage ofcourse but within the family discipline.The first mistake committed by the child shoild not be taken lightly but seriously and the child shouild be made to understand the pros and cons o his mistake and not to repeat in future. beating is not good and it should b avoided as far as possible because it may make them not to listen to them.Little strictness with love may be a good balm for them.

3)Never talk of the child's mistake publically or make him realise it in the public or amongst friends.It could be explained at home when alone with a cool mind and the child will definately have high regards for the parents the manner which he has been dealt with.

4)Also never talk very high of the child anywhere for it can carry reverse effect on the child and he may not do well in life.Keep his doing as quite good or doing well and extra ordinary.

5)Extend all moral support to the child,make the child feel happy with good food and clothing anf schooling and above all your love for the child is the mos important.

6)The child should be given some freedom at times so that he has self confidence and does not feel scared of anyhting.
7) Do not use abusive language or fowl one at home otherwise the child will pick it up fast and then when the child speak in that manner you feel offended.It is better that the parents also polish their habits and manners to set good example for their children.

I am sure if some of these steps are followed child parent relationship will be healthy,loving and respectful.

Answer 7

I have been teaching for 15 years and have two children of my own. I find that many children lack structure and discipline. I am often complemented on my 10 and 4 year old's behavior. I do not spank, but I do have expectations and consequences. I use time out and removal of privileges. I have done this since both were toddlers and it has paid off. I have been known to leave stores or eat my dinner from a restaurant in the car to prove a point. I think many people are just too tired and don't want to have to punish themselves so they allow unruly behavior. It takes a lot of work and effort to raise well behaved children.

Answer 8

I am sure that you will not like my answer but it is the truth..The reason that children are disrespectful is because the parents allow them to be.It is all in the parenting plain & simple.Parents today do not discipline their children or teach them the morals & values that they should..I was raised in a very loving but strict home with 7 brothers & sisters and my parents raised us to be honest,respectful and with morals & values.I am raising my children the same way.The problem with the children today is thier parents lack of discipling and upbringing..It is your job as a parent to teach your children right from wrong and what is exceptable and what is not.If your son is shouting and acting out it is because you allow him to do that.You have not established authority as a parent your children can only do what YOU ALLOW them to..IF you do not enforce rules and discipline and correct their unexceptable behavior I am sorry but you have nobody to blame but yourself..I strongly suggest that you take some parenting classes because it does'nt sound like you have a clue as to how to raise a child...I can tell you that none of my children would ever even think about raising their voices to me or my husband..It is all in the parenting or lack of...

Answer 9

I imagine that now children are less afraid of expressing how they feel to their parents, so confident that may get sometimes disrespectful, since today we the parents do not use the same "discipline methods" that some of our parents and grandparents used. So the fear factor is not on the game anymore.
My oldest son was very disrespectful when he was younger (if he had behaved like that with my grandmother she would had beat him with a belt!) but today he is a very nice little boy to be with, and that has taken me lots of patience and talking, but never beating.

Answer 10

Maybe because kids don't see their parents doing it? Kids imitate their parents, not what the parents tell them, not what the teachers teach them. If a kid sees one parent shouting at another, guess what he (the child) will do? In front of kids, respect each other, respect the kids themselves, basically respect everyone, at the mall, the garbage man, everyone, then they can see what respect is. You can't demand respect, you earn it. By the way, should it not be the way life is, respect one another?