I have been seeimng this man for off and on for 4yrs. He was there four the birth of my son who is not his. The man who is took off and left me with no place to live and pregnant. I have lots of feeling for this man. He has a daughter from a previous marriage. He is way more into me than I am into him. I have been struggling with post pardum depression. So my feelings and enerything are all over the place and i am not sure what I want. He says he cant wait forever for me to decide. I just dont want to make a hasty decsion.Tell me what u all think.
2007-02-14 01:51:37 · 26 answers · asked by sunshineruthere 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like a great guy that you shouldn't dump. However, if he's putting everything into the relationshp and your not giving anything back then it's not right for him for you two to stay together. Pull your emotions together and then, if you want him back after that contact him again one day. Until then, you guys shouldn't stay together.
2007-02-14 02:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by Love <3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You arent emotionally able to make an important decision like that right now, due to the depression swaying your judgement.
Talk to him, tell him that right now you are unable to say anything but you are suffering from this disorder.
If you care about him, tell him. But, if you dont, then u need to let him go. Its not fair to him to hang on to something that may never be.
I honestly think this man feels for you and would treat you right. He has stood by you when u needed him the most. He sounds like a good guy. But, he still may not be what u want.
Honestly, i would wait to make that decision until u get some help for the depression.
You obviously cant make yourself love someone, but if there is anything there, u can definately build on it.
Good luck to u.
2007-02-14 02:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like something terrible has happend in your relationship that isn't really his fault. If this is the case then I would definitely take him back and try communicating together better to avoid this happening again. If this isn't what had happened and he was in fault - He left and that was his choice, you don't need to decide nothing. YOU ARE PREGNANT FIRST OF ALL AND YOU NEED TO DECIDE WHAT IS BEST FOR YOURSELF AND THE BABY. Love is hard. Your heart will tell you what to do no matter what advice anyone here gives you. Nobody knows the whole situation going on between the both of you, but I don know, no matter what happens if he truly loves you and you are caring his child he should never leave you like that and in the predicament he did. Really sit down by yourself and think really hard before you do anything. Good Luck!!!!
2007-02-14 02:00:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
in case you want to patch issues up, tell him that if he easily believes in horoscopes and takes them that heavily, and in case you fairly are what he says you're in accordance to the zodiacs, then that should not be the determining aspect if he ought to date you regardless. Sorry for stealing this next line from a movie, yet its actual. once you want someone, you need to love a number of of them. The things you discover gorgeous and the things you do not discover gorgeous. because no one is perfect. anybody has flaws. Have him watch the movie Valentines Day, because its an effective and humorous movie (chick flick or no longer =P ) and has dissimilar fairly solid messages in it about love. If he nonetheless would not substitute his suggestions, then basically enable him bypass and he's not properly worth it. Sorry to take heed to about that, yet i'm hoping this helps =). And do not forget that if issues do not workout with him, don't be too unhappy about it because issues will continually get more beneficial advantageous in case you keep retaining on. that is not any longer the top of the international =).
2016-12-04 04:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go and get help for your depression. Once you do you can think clearly and make the right decisions. If your not well nothing in your life will be. You got to be well your self to make any kind of decision's. Because the depression might be the one that is making you feel what you are feeling. Good luck and Happy Valentine's Day to you! :)
2007-02-14 01:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by pinkbubbles282004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
definitely. if he can't wait or does not seem to understand the situation that you're in, than you should not continue to see him anymore. i'm sure you want to make a wise decison and not regret it for life. take your time to think about your situation and seek professional help if you feel necessary. the most important thing is that if he can't wait [shows that he has no patience and is not empathetic] then there is no point in giving him a chance.love is all about giving and taking.
2007-02-14 02:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by vbarney 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well are these feeling from him or is it from you, that is the first question you need to awser because if it is him than this is going to be how you feel all your life with him if you stay. But if it is you sort out your feelings first and then really think if you want to be with him.
2007-02-14 01:58:48 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica Wellls 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take care of you first....get your own feelings sorted out. So I would say, figure out what you want on your own.
Once you have everything in your life in order, then you can share your true feelings with someone else.
Good Luck to you!!!
2007-02-14 01:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, the best thing to do is to pray for your concerns and to ask for counseling from a pastor or a priest.
Because I believe that every time we decide to go on our way, we fail, but if we've submitted everything to God, (even the least of our concerns) He would take control of our life and would lead us all to a path of righteousness.
2007-02-14 02:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by curly esojm..=) 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because he's being pushy, and forcing you to decide, yes, you should dump this selfish dude. If he knows you just had a baby, and have the baby blues, it's really unfair of him to pressure you.
2007-02-14 01:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by Sylvie M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋