He loves someone else and she broke his heart. Now, whenever a topic is opened about her, he changes the topic and acts as if he's okay but whenever I see him like that, it's like I want to hug him and tell him that it's okay. I want him to open his problems to me so that I can tell him everything I wanted to tell him for a long time about this issue. I don't want to confess that I'm having this feeling for him because I'm afraid of rejection. I know that he's not paying much attention to me and I'm afraid that when I tell him about it or when I give him signs, he'll avoid me and this little attention he's giving me will be gone.
2007-02-14 01:49:12 · 13 answers · asked by myangel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Right or wrong doesn't apply here. You can't choose who you love you just do. Real love is unconditional and doesn't require being requitted but it sure adds to things. Hope I helped you.
2007-02-14 01:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you truly like him, then you should have the courage to tell him. Of course, he might reject you but wouldnt it hurt more if you didnt tell him your true feelings when you had a chance? take the risk.
As for not opening up to you, i think he just isnt comfortable in talking about the topic. Thats the reason why he always change the subject when it comes up. Give him time, he is still reeling from being heart broken. Just be there for him when he needs someone to talk.
2007-02-14 09:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's OK to have feelings for this guy, of course.
But the way you are going about it is liable to leave you rather unhappy.
I would estimate that he is not ready to seek a new relationship with ANYBODY at the moment but only for his own reasons.
If you want to be there at the time that he decides that he IS ready then I suggest that you position yourself as a supportive friend.
Offer him opportunities to join you on some lighthearted recreational activities under the pretext of taking his mind off his troubles. After some time has passed you may both feel comfortable enough to try going out on a real date.
Just a suggestion.:-)
2007-02-14 10:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time to heal. If everytime you give him hints and he avoids you then perhaps thats his hint to you that he's not ready. when a person gets hurt they put their gaurd up. this is normal. if i were you i would stick by his side ... make sure he's alright. Don't pressure him. don't even bring it up. when he's ready to start something new and you're the one he chooses then he'll let you know. for now you should just be the really good friend.
2007-02-14 09:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by destiney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ask yourself, Is it really love? If it is, then it's right. Love can't be controlled, and love can't be wrong. A crush can.
Try getting to be better friends with him. Find out if he has AIM. Talk to him and hang out with him more. Try and get close to him, close enough so that he will tell you how he feels on his own. Then if you feel right, you can ask him out.
2007-02-14 09:55:20 · answer #5 · answered by semajjelin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love him, i think it is really alright for u to stand by him ,support him and comfort him
but it is sure that in case if u don't want to scare him away, just do what a frd should do is enough
do it step by step, then u may have a chance to get together with him in the future, just when he get recovered
2007-02-14 09:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by athena k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him cuddle with you and watch a movie or something. Few guys mind doing this with their female friends. Then take it from there.
2007-02-14 09:52:47 · answer #7 · answered by Year of the Monkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ref to l:ife is great: and stop acting like a vulture
2007-02-14 10:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by thelovebug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but you're wasting your love if you do. Give your time and your love to someone that wants and needs it.
2007-02-14 09:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I REALLY CAN'T TELL U HOW TO DO IT LOOK WATCH THE MOVIE baRBIE DIARIES AND DO WHAT KEVIN DOES HE PUTS NOTES IN THE GIRLS LOCKER AND WRITES A POEM AND SAYS MEET ME THERE. EX: LUNCH,PARKING LOT. YOU CAN DO THAT TO AND HE WILL NOT KNOW ITS U BUT WHEN THE RIGHT TIME COMES YOU WILL TELL HIM!!!!!!!!!!! BYE BYE
2007-02-14 09:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by *Princess* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋