placing a child for adoption?

Question

I am a 38 yr old married mother of two boys ages 4 and 7. Throughout this whole 3rd pregnancy I have been overwhelmed with such deep depression and a feeling of having made the biggest mistake of my life. I am seriously considering placing this child for adoption. Has anyone placed??? Anyone with kids?? How did it affect them??

Answer 1

Depression during pregnancy is the worst depression I have ever experienced. I have battled with depression for years but I reached the lowest of low throughout the progression of this pregnancy. I was terrified because I felt no bonding feelings toward my unborn child and in fact, dreaded the thought of having another baby. I too am a mother of two children already. I was basically non-functional because my depression had gotten so bad. I broke down and told my ob and she immediately put me on anti-depressants and I am amazed at how much better I feel. I can function now and have a much brighter outlook on the birth of this new baby. I do worry about the effect that the meds may have on the baby but I have been assured by my ob that the benefits far far outweigh the risks. Maybe you should talk to your doctor about your depression and something could be done to help. Try something before resorting to giving your child away. Good luck and Godbless.

Answer 2

I think you should see a counselor whatever you decide. As you already know pregnancy hormones can really affect your mood. It may be easier to sort through your issues with a professional. I do not think that this is unheard of, I have even heard of people raising their babies for a few years, then placing them for adoption. Every persons lives and situations are different. Do not feel guilty, if you feel this child will be better off with another family that is OK. You are being responsible by weighing down your options. Remember their are countless good people and families out their looking for a child. As for your current children they to could benefit from counseling if you decide to place this child for adoption. You can do family, and maybe let your older son do private if he wishes. Best wishes to you and family, this is not an easy decision.

Answer 3

Don't give your baby up for adoption.... The depression can be treated, and although it seems like them end of the world with your first two.... Think about the hard work you put in to giving birth to this child, and how happy you will be when the baby comes. Also another thing to look at is how do your other childrent feel? What do you think they would think or say when you give up their brother or sister, but kept them? What does your husband say? What would you tell this child in 18 years when it comes knocking on your door? There are lots of things to think of when it comes to adopting out a child. Are you ready for it? Is your family ready for it? GOOD LUCK IN YOUR DESICION!!!

Answer 4

I think this may be traumatic for the children that you already have, seeing you go through the whole pregnancy, then giving the child up in the end. I would suggest talking to your doctor about this, he may be able to give you some sort of advice. I am adopted, and I know that the hardest thing for me is not my birth parents giving me up, but wondering what siblings I may have and what they are like, and not being able to share my life with them...

Answer 5

you may desire to be a stunning individual to make any such perplexing selection. properly completed for having the braveness to do what's sturdy for you and the infant. I truthfully have in no way been via this, yet i visit in no way forget what it grew to become into like handy over my stillborn son to the medical doctors and to depart well-being facility with empty hands and an aching heart. even nonetheless you p.c. to provide up your infant, your hormones would be screaming so which you are able to exchange your ideas. Be good and do what you think of is ultimate . I choose you, your infant and the adoptive kinfolk each and all of the affection and success interior the international. Please let us know how each thing works out. God Bless xxx

Answer 6

Please speak with your doctor and get a referral to mental health and get the help you need. These emotions you describe are not unusual. And "this child" is YOUR child. He/she is in YOUR womb and thriving. I am not against adoption, but I am against it if it is being used as a convenience. This will have an effect on your other children, especially the oldest. The wonderful life you carry belongs to them as well. I hope you get the help you need.

Answer 7

Are you kidding me?? Don't do that! You need to see a psychologist/psychiatrist right away!

Usually, kids who've been put up for adoption are messed up (emotionally). I don't think you have good enough reason to GIVE AWAY YOUR CHILD....