My boyfriend (whom I live with) is gone away for a few weeks with work and I'm missing him awfully. The problem is that he's getting on with things, being busy, etc, whereas I'm at home missing him. During the summer I was away for a month with work and he was at home, so it was like a role reversal. He's pretty much said that he felt bad when I was away but is fine now he's away. Anytime I'm on the phone with him I'm all out of sorts and he's all excited about work and being away, it's almost like he hasn't got time to miss me. This is putting a bit of a strain on things because I feel a little lost and left behind. I know this is negative thinking, but unfortunately I can't do anything to stop it. If it continues I know it'll become a chore to talk to me on the phone an I don't want that, I don't want every conversation to turn into one with me being sullen and down in the dumps. Any advice?
2007-02-14 01:17:13 · 5 answers · asked by lloydsues 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know how it feels when someone you love is away. It is normal for him to be excited about work and it does not mean he does not miss you. He talks about his work with you on the phone and I am sure that is his way of sharing with you his day. Anyway he is only away for a few weeks. Time will pass very quickly. Hang in there. Get yourself busy so you can have a lot to talk about with him when he calls next time!
2007-02-14 01:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by OS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-14 01:28:37 · answer #2 · answered by Swamy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let it get you down
we all need time away
we as a couple do take time away from each other
he goes with the guys on game weekends or fishing or hunting for the weekend or week
i go with the girls for the weekend or week
it is our time to get away from the rat race of HOME
its not bad it is what we need and yes we do get exited
we dont have to worry about bill, phone call, family nothing but doing what we like to do
when we come back we are rested and have a renewed energy
2007-02-14 01:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find someone to take care of you while he's gone. If you're getting some you won't be so lonely.
2007-02-14 01:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left my girl friend, Kathy, to go to the Peace Corps in Africa. After about 6 months, she wrote to say that she was very angry with me and never wanted to see me again. I think probably we would not have been happy as a married couple but who knows?
People change and grow and if you have found the right one, you may have to wait for him sometimes. That is a part of being mature and being prepared for a serious commitment.
However, it is difficult to know if you will actually marry a person, even if you are practically engaged. Once I went to visit Jackie's mother in Connecticut. We broke it off a few days later, and I felt like I was going to die.
I recovered. Life is crazy at times but you need to find ways to enjoy what is going on around you with or without another person.
I just heard on TV from the author of a book on marriages that most women these days have totally unrealistic expectations concerning marriage and life in general. Often they drive the guy crazy. (Men do the same to women but less according to this author.)
2007-02-14 01:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this one is hard dont seperate
2007-02-14 01:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by wade 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋